Sounds like part of your plan might need to include learning to love and appreciate the new body you have achieved and allowing other things to define you and your day. Here are a couple articles that might help push you in that direction while continuing to work toward your goals.
Break Free from the Scale!
How to Stop the Scale from Determining Your Self-Worth www.sparkpeople.com/resource/motivation_ar
5 Ways to Love Your Body www.sparkpeople.com/resource/wellness_arti
Boost Your Body Image
Self-Love and Acceptance at Any Size www.sparkpeople.com/resource/wellness_arti