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TRIPLEMWF
Posts: 739
10/4/12 11:23 A

Thanks all! I just started a Biggest Loser contest at work yesterday. I did my weigh in but refused to look at the number. I decided today to bite the bullet and look and I am mortified. It is way higher than I thought and I'm realizing just how much in denial I am/was.

My SO is so, so supportive of me and told me that he'll eat a salad for every meal going forward if that's what I want. Love him! And am so grateful that he loves me and thinks I'm beautiful no matter what, but I need to do this for me. So........here I go!



LALA_1012
Posts: 1,361
10/4/12 11:06 A

Don't let that bring you down! I went through a similar situation when I moved in with my bf. I was at 135 and went up to 156!!! He always said I looked good and loved me the way I was, but I decided to make the change for me because I didn't feel "sexy" He tells me to lose weight for ME, not for him because he has not problem with the way I look. But of course it has to do with the way WE feel! You'll be fine, once you stop droping 2-3 lbs you won't be albe to stop!!! Good Luck!!!



AMANDAROX
Posts: 304
10/4/12 10:53 A

Ugh, it is hard getting back in the swing of things after being on a hiatus, isnít it? Focus on taking small steps so the change is not so overwhelming. I think the major failure for people is saying that tomorrow they will do this & that from quitting the snacks, working out for an hour, cooking their own meals, etc. But by the end of the day if they donít meet every requirement they planned to they assume they failed. Not sure if that is whatís happening to you but regardless, try adding on a new goal every couple of days. For instance days 1 & 2, plan a couple 100 calorie snacks in between meals. Days 3 & 4, donít eat past 8pm & go to bed by 10. Days 5 & 7, add a 30 minute workout each day. Days 8 & 9, start planning your meals ahead of time, etc. Point is, start out with small, manageable changes and add new ones every couple of days. By building on to your goals each day, youíre better able to develop these healthy habits. Hope this helps! Keep me posted!



JOANIEBUG46
Posts: 4,212
10/4/12 9:58 A

it's wonderful that your SO is so supportive and I'm sure you ARE beautiful and sexy! BUT, YOU have to feel it. Take it one step at a time. You know that you can reach your goal, and with getting healthy, just getting there feels better and that's its own reward.
Arrive at an eating plan and exercise plan, then go for it. Make it manageable and give yourself some rewards. YOU CAN DO IT!!!



ELISAJANE57
Posts: 737
10/4/12 9:51 A

I think that is awesome that you did lose so much weight. You did it once, I know you can do it again! I might be facing a similar situation in the coming months. I lost over 50 pounds and have been keeping it off. I am the lightest and fittest I have ever been, but DH and I want to try for another baby. I'm so scared to put the weight back on again, but it will happen if I can get pregnant again. I know I will need the motivation and support to get back into shape when the time comes.

Good luck to you. It may seem daunting right now to realize how much you need to/want to lose, but just start out small. Make smaller weight loss goals and only do what feel comfortable with and what you can maintain. Slowly get rid of some of the habits you may have started that helped you gain back the weight and replace them with good ones. I like what the other poster said, at least you didn't gain it all back. Today is the day you can make a positive change and stop yourself from putting on more weight. You can succeed. Don't give up!



TRANQULITY7
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Posts: 899
10/4/12 9:43 A

Try to think positive and look on the bright side. If I understand correctly, you didn't gain all the weight back, so you are still way ahead. emoticon



OBIESMOM2
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Posts: 4,472
10/4/12 9:20 A

congrats on losing the weight! You know how difficult it was, so you need to find a way to at least maintain without gaining any more than you have. You should be able to do that with what you eat, even if you don't exercise as much as you once did.

I've lost my urge to run lately too. It's always forced. I don't have an answer. I just keep trying. If I'm really not feeling it, I walk more than I run.



TRIPLEMWF
Posts: 739
10/4/12 8:45 A

As of last summer (2011) I had lost over 100lbs. I went through some stressful times and ended up putting on about 20 or so pounds. Then I got in a relationship and got happy and put on another 30lbs. I am officially disappointed in myself. Nothing fits. I stopped running and now walking up stairs gets me winded. I'm feeling very discouraged. I know that I did it before, but for some reason, it just seems so daunting. I'm not sure what I'm looking for here. Maybe I just need to vent? IDK Has anyone been in a similar situation? I'd love some success stories and maybe just a little encouragement. My SO loves me the way that I am and always tells me how beautiful and sexy I am, but I'm just not feeling it.



 
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