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CJGODESS101 SparkPoints: (30,669)
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9/10/13 1:42 P

I have an interesting update. While I was working my second job, I met someone whos parent works for a small company that just loss their account manager to retirement. I sent over my resume last night. I'm not actively looking, but this is in a field that interests me.

Thanks to everyone for their words of advice.

MAMA_CD Posts: 1,498
9/6/13 6:41 P

I doubt he listens, why not just do the job. it's not your issue, it's his.

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9/6/13 6:33 P

I think LEC358 has the right idea!

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9/6/13 4:39 P

I second the idea about having a regular meeting to go over the status of his to-do list. I have a boss who is (in her calm state) is not a micromanager but can become one anytime she feels (justafiably or not) that a project is in crisis. If I give her updates on the projects as I complete tasks (even tiny ones that only take 15 minutes), she's much calmer and much less likely to go into full micro-manage mode. Part of being a subordinate to someone is not only managing your tasks, but managing your boss too.

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9/6/13 4:04 P

I agree that you're not going to change your boss - sounds like that's just who he is.
Things I have done with micromanagers in the past: pre-empting their questions by telling them what I have gotten accomplished, regular meetings so they can review their to-do list with me, and attempting to get regular personnel reviews so I at least know whether they find my performance lacking.

But ultimately you need to find a way to have it bother you less - guarantee you it won't go away, sadly :)

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9/6/13 3:58 P

He is "micromanaging" - Google it. You will be comforted by the stories (Forbes).

I am married to a micromanager (30 yrs)...at his job (newly retired) & at home...
He is also OCD - could be a connection with that personality type?



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9/6/13 3:26 P

CJGODESS101,

If your boss (the one who talks down to you) hasn't changed in the 1.5 years you've already worked for him, he's never going to change. I used to work for a guy like that. In fact, worked 15+ years for that boss. He knew how reliable everyone in the office was and yet, he micromanaged everything. He was constantly asking if we did this, that or the other thing. Why ? because he didn't have anything better to do. Because he didn't have enough work of his own, he felt it was necessary to make work for the rest of us ! That's what your boss sounds like.

I work at a different company now. My current boss ? He is extremely busy. As a result, he relies on me to do my job so that he doesn't have to constantly ask questions.

Well, if the one boss is making your life miserable, you should consider finding a new job. Otherwise, you've lived with his behavior for the last year or so, why is it bothering you now ? I learned to live with the behavior of my former boss because that's just the way he was. he wasn't changing, so I had to change my attitude towards him. You may have to do the same if you don't want to leave.


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9/6/13 3:05 P

I would consider it as HIS insecurity and let him get accustomed to the idea that you are responsible and reliable, and that he doesn't need to check back with you every step of the way. It may be his way of reassuring himself that HIS job gets done.

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9/6/13 2:43 P

I'm and administrative assistant and have been at my position for a year and a half. I support 2 managers and they are like night and day. One allows me the freedom to know when things need to get done and just asks me when he needs something. The other one treats me like it's my first day and that I'm dumb. How do I tell him, he does not need to ask me to do the same thing multiple times a day. Granted it's his personality, he talks down to just about everyone, but it is royally pissing me off. Not only that, I share an office with him. How can I tell him to start treating me like I don't know what I'm doing? If it helps I work in a small office, only 15 people and he's tight with the owner.

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