I can relate to the emotional eating. I will go to bed, wake up and binge. I am not sure what the tapes are that are running in my sleep that urges me to eat it NOW. I agreed with myself that I would try to spark before I gave in. Lurking on the message boards, and posting in a blog help.
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2,545 6/8/13 1:27 A
Congrats on trying again. Weight loss/food/emotional eating is a problem for all of us. Look for an OA group near you, it can help. Also, keep reading these boards and start making small changes. Try to fix family meals and eat with your husband before he goes to work (even if it means breakfast for dinner) and have a meal together in the morning. Go to bed earlier so you don't spend hours eating alone. If you can't find a therapist, try for a support group and read everything you can find about abused women and figure out what applies to you. Good luck, you can do this!
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6/6/13 8:17 P
That's my problem. My husband works nights and so after he leaves for work I have to chase two toddlers around all night until bed and doing that with this much weight on is so hard and so stressful. So then I finally get them to bed for the night and I just basically collapse on the couch. It literally gets me out of breath to get them bathed, teeth brushed, pajamas, diapers, bed. I'm sweating and panting for a good 10 minutes. Then it's finally quiet and I turn the tv on to anything NOT Dora or SpongeBob and try to wind down. This is when I eat my dinner. By myself in front of the tv. And I sit alone with my thoughts and all those tapes keep playing in my head, of my past, of my present problems and stresses, over and over and over. I have got to learn how to cope without eating to numb myself.
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6/6/13 8:47 A
I am also an emotional/bored eater. When stressed I eat more than I should and all the wrong things. And then I regret it. I have to learn not to do that, and also that I don't have to eat non-stop after work while watching TV
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6/6/13 3:49 A
I do tell myself my life depends on it. In the moment nothing else matters. Nobody matters.
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6/6/13 3:45 A
Thank you. Yes, I am in Kentucky. I am new here and haven't really put myself out there fully yet. Trying to though.
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14,453 6/5/13 10:35 P
Tell yourself that your life depends on it.
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166 6/5/13 9:43 P
Don't let it in the house. If you can't afford to eat the entire package in one sitting, DO NOT LET IT IN THE HOUSE.
It may be emotional eating (and I agree you should seek help for that), but to stop yourself from doing it, you have to put up as many roadblocks as you possibly can.
Don't let unhealthy food in the house. Put your debit and your credit cards away. Have a minimal amount of cash on you. You are not allowed to spend money on food outside of the grocery store and you have a strict budget when you're there. If that means all of the shopping needs to be done by your husband (so you don't impulse buy), do it. Ask him not to bring junk food into the house. Tell him he can eat it outside of the house but ask that he please not bring it into the house. If he is supportive, he will respect your wishes. Explain to him that you cannot control your eating and you need him to help you in this way to get yourself on the path to living a longer, more fulfilled life.
Then, stick with it. One day at a time. If you eat too many calories, but you're eating carrots and potatoes, that's fine. Make the switch to good foods, and then work your way up to curbing portion sizes. When you're ready for the leap, cut your meal size in half, one meal at a time. Big breakfast, big lunch, small dinner. Big breakfast, small lunch, small dinner. Small breakfast, small lunch, small dinner. And then reexamine your calorie counts. Are you within range? Still too high? If you're still too high, half them again.
Something I have noticed—it can be better to make the "big" afternoon meal lunch, not dinner. It's odd for us North Americans, but seems to work well in other parts of the world.
I understand emotional (and bored) eating. Don't let other people tell you that you need to root out the problem before you start fixing it. You need to address your emotional issues, definitely, but you can prevent yourself from doing more harm in the mean time. If you know you aren't strong enough to say "No", then do not give yourself the opportunity to say "Yes."
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3 6/5/13 11:58 A
Do you love your husband? Sounds like you do. I'm sure there are alot of folks in your life and/or pets, such as a dog or a kitty cat whom you love unconditionally. When you hear your echoes of negative self talk in your mind...say out loud...STOP IT. Keep it up. If you're in public and don't want to speak out loud...say STOP IT! over and over in your mind til your negative thoughts are drowned out. Then start loving yourself as you love others. Think of how deeply you love and care for those who are precious to you. You would never talk to them or treat them as you're treating yourself. Learn to love yourself. Don't give up, it takes practice and, believe me, it's not easy. Tell everyone you love that you love them at least every day, yourself included. Smile as much as possible. Smiling is scientifically proved to elevate a positive attitude in the person smiling. These things work. Give yourself time, just as you would a loved one. You are precious and a gift to those in your life. Trust in your capacity to love.
I am almost 46 and just barely learned to stop self medicating with food. I still have temptations though, but not as strong and they go away fast now. When I have that feeling come on I switch up what I am doing so I get distracted. I just keep admitting to myself that I am not hungry I am just hurt, mad, sad and blue. I told myself the food will only make me feel good as long as it takes to eat it then I will be more miserable. I would tell myself this out loud, it took a year or so for it to work well but I was an emotional eater all my life even as a child. Turning to food makes everything worse, it solves none of your problems it just adds to them, so maybe tell yourself what I did and go from there.
6/5/13 8:01 A
Would it help if you got a referral from your regular doctor? I don't know the fee system, but I sympathize with you.
Otherwise, I'm not quite sure what advice to give you. While we all can have emotionally-attached reasons for eating/overeating - it is simply awful that you have to endure this alone
I am guessing you are in the States - I went to have a peek at your SparkPage but you don't have one. You will find that if you create one you will get loads more support from members on this site - they will be able to drop by and leave encouraging little messages.
Take care, and good luck, Kris
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6/4/13 11:44 P
I know every calorie in every food and even gum. I am a walking nutritional guide. I know that I have to burn more than I consume. I know what to eat, how much to eat, how often to eat. I am an emotional eater and I don't know how to stop. I started eating emotionally almost 20 years ago. I was emotionally and mentally abused by my ex-husband. Instead of doing drugs or alcohol I used food. Seven years ago I left him and re-married an amazingly great man. Super supportive, loves me unconditionally, treats me like a queen. I thought, finally I have the life that I want! I will for sure lose weight! Wrong. I am still abusing food and I DO NOT know how to stop. I've called and called psychiatrists, therapists, etc and I can't find one that actually accepts insurance of any kind. They are all self pay. If anybody has any advice for me, I welcome it. I'm going to kill myself with food.
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