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6/11/13 10:53 A

Now you asked for a gut reaction, but I will start out saying that I definitely like the looks of a toned body on both men and women. As a matter of fact, I get a little jealous of other women who lift weights and their arms show definition of muscles (without wings by gosh). At the beginning of this year, I bought a home weight system for my husband for his birthday, and he's been loving it and using it since then -- even in 5 months, his muscles have become more pronounced and stronger. Now, I would like to start using it, too, to see where I can get to as well, but a persistent back problem has made me shun doing it. I need more information on using weights with my problem at hand.

I guess I have never found the extreme body builders attractive. The first thing that always runs across my mind is that "I could never be with that guy because I'd never see him since he's probably in the gym most of his life." or "Gee, is that guy hung up on himself!"

Anyway, now I know that fitness and weight loss CAN be accomplished by lifting weights (and not spending half of every day doing it either). And who doesn't want to look better and show off a nice trim and fit body?

Just the right amount of muscle is very sexy, and I think most girls feel a sense of being protected when their guy is strong and buff. Too much muscle? Uh uh.


Edited by: PATTIJOHNSON at: 6/11/2013 (10:55)
SHERYLDS Posts: 17,371
6/11/13 9:15 A

I'm sure your legs look great when your in relaxed mode

6/11/13 9:00 A

The other day my gf & I were in my basement where my workout equipment is. I showing her the benefits of the Bulgarian Split Squats and so I pulled up my one leg of my shorts, bent my leg and flexed.

A similar look to this emoticon followed by "Ew!"

It had occurred to me that she must've not been really checking out my legs the last few months and I haven't been talking to her about it that much (my latest concentration/effort to improve my legs and butt). I was immediately taken back by her reaction and she swears that she was just SHOCKED that my legs had so much definition. She said they were like body builder legs (though I wish the rest of me was) and that she may have reacted in a way of disapproval but she assured me it was just shock.

Oh well,.......

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5/31/13 12:42 P

I think fit people are very attractive, male or female, and there's a wide range of muscularity and body fat percentage that looks good on anyone. The extremes are not so nice to look at for me.

Speaking strictly for myself as a heterosexual woman, what pushes my buttons is a man who is fit, but only slim to average in muscle size. "Big" men tend to turn me off, regardless of body composition.

5/31/13 9:27 A

Lean muscle burns fat like CRAZY!

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5/31/13 6:48 A

As a woman who is quite muscular especially with the legs and arms, I feel very flattered when people comment on the definition of my legs......I don't go around popping the biceps but my son loves to do the SNL Hanz and Franz pump as a joke.

Muscles serve the body in numerous ways that a lot of people don't realize are essential in weight loss and toning.....the denser the muscle the more effective your body is a burning calories including fat (correct me if I am wrong KJ).

I love muscles and it doesn't have to be a lifter body just a nice toned spare tire etc. Just like my DH.....he is a cyclist (50 KM) per day and his legs .....gotta go later emoticon

AMARANTHA120S Posts: 474
5/30/13 10:24 P

I like muscles.

KKKAREN Posts: 12,754
5/30/13 7:57 A

I think these people have beautiful bodies and I wish mine looked like that!

TACDGB Posts: 6,136
5/29/13 10:27 P

I love muscles on anyone. My goal is to gain serious muscles. I love it when I get my oxygen and Muscle&FitnessHer's mags in the mail. I take group power weight lifting classes 4 days a week to gain muscles. I am not a fan of someone who looks like they have been on steroids and are so muscle bound you can't see anything else. There is a balance.

EOWYN2424 Posts: 9,108
5/29/13 9:43 P

I, for one, love dancers' bodies with long, lean muscles, not overdone, just healthy!

5/29/13 7:45 P

me too!

I_HEART_MY_FAM Posts: 1,809
5/29/13 7:26 P

I treat them exactly the same as others unless they are staring waiting for my attention like a baffoon trying to get me to look at them by making it very obvious. A nice strong man with big shoulders, strong arms, and a nice chest is very attractive. A weak minded person with big muscles, tight shirts, and an attitude that says "look at me" turns me off and grosses me out.

5/29/13 7:26 P

I was trying to avoid using examples of steroid-type bodybuilders, in fact, I was trying to avoid using the term "bodybuilders".

Believe it or not there are many MORE folks like me who aren't bodybuilders, just plain ordinary folk who like to lift weights as a choice of exercise. I am not obsessed with lifting weights but I do lift 4x's a week and each session takes about an hour and 15 min. I know lots of folks who spend three times that much doing cardio per week.

If you met me in person you may NOT immediately see me as someone who lifts weights unless I am dressed to highlight that point.

My SP friend NancyAnne55 is a perfect example of an ordinary person who looks great with muscles, she looks great and is not a steroid popping fiend, she's all natural and clean eating.

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5/29/13 6:43 P

I think muscles are nice on a person of any gender. I think it speaks of dedication and strength.

I think there is a threshold you can cross to being overdeveloped but I think we have to be happy with ourselves.

NAUSIKAA Posts: 4,848
5/29/13 5:13 P

Gut reaction is "a kindred spirit!" heh. I am trying and trying and TRYING to gain muscle mass and it is pretty much impossible because I don't eat enough but anyway I very much admire people who have done it, men and women both. I have only seen "extreme" examples a few times in my entire life and then okay, it is a little odd to see (I remember seeing a married couple, both bodybuilders, with their little son, and they were both HUGE and it was a little funny but I did still respect their hard work). Where I live it's not so common to see women with muscular physiques and I think other people think of me as kind of muscular so probably they should be answering this question instead of me lol!

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5/29/13 4:52 P

gut reaction is woohoo for them they have accomplished something and if they bulk up, ok, women body builders look to me like they work pretty hard to get where they are so I will not condemn them. The ones I met at a gym I could observe and they were pretty much in line with most men body builders as far as dedication to the sport goes emoticon

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5/29/13 4:25 P

I'm definitely one of those people who works hard to get what definition I have. I have enough that people notice and have commented, but not where I look ridiculous. My bf also has good muscle, but his (which I LOVE) comes from when he worked in construction and on the farm. Call me a country girl (PLEASE!!) but I much more prefer muscled guys who get it from hard work/labor rather than hours pumped at the gym. Just sayin :)

ICEDEMETER Posts: 1,332
5/29/13 3:27 P

My initial gut reaction is to hope that they truly enjoy the process. Knowing how much time and effort is involved in getting in to that kind of shape, I always wonder what their reason is for doing it --- whether it's all about looks, whether they have no other life, or whether they are doing it because that's what they really enjoy.

It generally only takes a few minutes of conversation to figure out where they're coming from!

MANDIETERRIER1 Posts: 17,460
5/29/13 3:26 P

I admire someone that has muscle definition. I know it takes a lot of hard work to get to that point.

I dont want that kind of definition for myself. I just don't want to jiggle when I wiggle

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5/29/13 3:15 P

As I've progressed farther along on my journey to fitness, men and women who are physically fit, and muscular, are more and more attractive to me. I don't like the enormous, steroid-driven musclebound look, but I like a variety of muscularity. Some women who are very muscular pull it off VERY well; I'm not one of those who feel that females should always be soft and curvy. A hard look suits some women very well! Femininity is overrated, and responsible for too many women being afraid to really lift weights, even though doing so won't put that at risk.

Personally, I'd love to look that way, although I doubt it's going to be possible for me, since I'm not willing to turn to supplements and steroids. I intend to do as much as I can, naturally, though!

A man who is naturally large and muscular, though? Very attractive. It's getting to the point where honestly? My overweight and doughy mate is not attractive to me anymore. He doesn't take care of his body, and it shows.

I like the look of those who take care of themselves, inside AND out.

SHERYLDS Posts: 17,371
5/29/13 3:07 P

I don't like the look of body builders on steroids but I prefer the look of someone who works on their physical health versus someone who totally looks like they don't care.
But we all know....looks aren't everything.

HICKORYRN Posts: 279
5/29/13 2:55 P

I don't like bulging muscles on is okay but not if they go overboard with veins popping everywhere!

5/29/13 2:50 P

I would assume that most of us would consider folks with bulging, vein popping, Anna Nicole Smith sized muscles gross or at the very least not our cup of tea........"MOST" of us. I say that as a disclaimer to those who'll use those kind of people as examples in their reply.

What do you think you gut reaction would be if you met someone who looks fit in a muscularly way (men and/or women)?

For me these days I totally appreciate the hard work that goes into gaining muscle enough to be noticeable but not "in-your-face" noticeable, just enough. to have shape.

Now I would be remiss if I didn't at least acknowledge that there are SOME folks (specifically; men) who use their hard work to "get their way" with folks who ogle over their muscularity. So I'm not talking about those folks either, I'm talking about folks like myself and others here on the boards who work hard for muscle gain but aren't OVERDOING IT, just enough for gaining lean muscle mass.

During my tenure in The Fat Boys Club (I once had a lifetime membership) I scoffed and even made FUN of those types of people. At the time it didn't occur to me that maybe, JUST maybe, those folks were genuine "nice people", I guess I was too jealous.

So, what's your reaction, if any, to folks who clearly appear to have muscle mass? (men or women).

Addendum: I know "it depends" on how the person presents themselves and/or the color of their eyes and/or their attitude, and/or . you get my drift...I just want to know what your instant "gut" reaction MAY be when you see them.

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