I look at myself too closely in the mirror and am had on myself. I almost talk myself out of wearing my bikini on the beach and to the pool, but when I get down there, I look really good compared to some of the people on the beach, so I worry for nothing!
this is all so true! It's fascinating that the way I look in the mirror can be so inaccurate. Basically, I feel that I look "chubby" or a little overweight no matter when I have been very heavy or at a healthier weight. THen when I see photos of myself it is a great realization of how I "really" look.
I actually had an issue with the mirror. I would look in it at myself and see myself as I was. The only way I can really tell I have lost weight is to look at pictures. I still that same 200 pound insecure teenager in the mirror and I fight her every day.
I struggled fiercely with this my entire first year on SP. At one point, I swore that I saw my body double here, and was amazed that she was 80 pounds heavier than I was. I wrote about my issue on my blog and asked the question on a group forum and the advice given to me was to take a picture and put it somewhere I can see it. What I did instead was take a picture of me 10 years ago and me now, put them against one another and put it on my desktop where I see it everyday. Im finally beginning to realize what I might look like - in the mirror I still have issues but not nearly as much as before. I think it has also helped me whereas buying clothes is concerned. Im not buying 10 sizes larger than I am anymore.
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I am still looking at photos of me from two years ago and pictures of me before I gained most of my weight back. What I see in the mirror is becoming more acceptable because I have the full-length propped up against the wall across from the bathroom. One of the challenges was to look at myself at least three times a day in the mirror (I think I joined that challenge). Anyway, when I step out of the bathroom, I have no choice but to see myself. This exercise helps...whether or not I like what I see, I have to get honest about myself and then start appreciating what I look like NOW - not avoid it until I think I'm more acceptable to myself. Photos only tell half the story....although I do miss how good I felt about myself at the smaller size.
I have placed my photo-taking of me on hold for a while :)...don't want that truth staring back at me...how is it that I have always thought not quite there with the pictures...but those same pictures I look back on and think...hey I looked pretty good???
I know EXACTLY what you are talking about! I still look in the mirror and say "I'm skinny", knowing good and well I am not. When I take a picture, it is a whole another story! I'm like "Wow! I'm Huge!". The camera can be discouraging and the mirror can be tricky. I guess that is why I didn't start my "lifestyle change" until I was 260...I still looked "skinny" in the mirror..=/
I am a total camera-phobe. I feel like a tiny head on an enormous body!! The mirror is definitely kinder to me... however, when I first started going to the gym, I felt slimmer than I looked in the mirror. I would be surprised by my image every time I passed in front of the mirror as I walked aroung the gym. The mind is a mysterious thing.
I always think I look better in the mirror than in photos. I always seem to look puffy in photos plus my head sometimes looks egg shaped. I really hate being photographed, but every once in a while I get a picture that doesn't make me want to scream.
I agree with the original poster. My mirror must be very kind to me because when I take candid shots, wow do I look a lot heavier. For example, the other night I had a new outfit on and thought I looked very cute and then they took pics and I looked so much heavier...didn't want to keep or share those pics.
How about just the differences in each mirror?! I look in one mirror and look 5-10 lbs heavier than I do in another. I guess it has something to do with how the mirror is hung, but I am forever wondering what I REALLY look like.
DonnaSue, I agree with you. I look in the mirror and see a much slimer girl than that in a photo. I also find the same thing when I pick a pair of pants or shorts off the rack at the store. I know in my mind I wear an 18, but when I hold them up I can't believe how HUGE they are, I put them back and grab a 16 because that's the way I "feel" as though I look. Get them to the dressing room and boy is a size 16 tight! :(
There are hardly any pictures of me around because I am just so incredibly unphotogenic. I actually don't think I'm that bad looking, yet the majority of pictures of me are DREADFUL!! I think it has a lot to do with a) being so pale b) still being a leeetle bit chubby and c) the fact that I now know most pictures of me are awful, so as soon as a camera comes out I get ridiculously awkward and uncomfortable, and look it!
I know exactly what your talking about, it is that perception that helped me get big and stay that way for quiet awhile. So I fight those perceptions very hard now, so I can live in the here and now and the reality of my situation. So I can get rid of this extra weight forever. Keep up the good work :O)
Has anyone else ever noticed the inconsistency with what you see in the mirror and what you see when you look at a photograph of yourself? My inconsistencies are strange. At a heavy weight, my mind sees a slimmer person in the mirror then what I see in a photo. When I loose weight, my mind sees a heavier person then what the photo reflects. Isn't it so strange how your mind plays tricks on you?
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