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MANDIETERRIER1 Posts: 17,416
2/21/14 2:53 P

I have been on message boards since the early 2000's. That makes me feel so old. And I feel I am MB savvy.

It also helps to develop some sort of thick skin. I hate it when you disagree with someone and instead of discussing. They automatically label you as a hater. Or you're jealous.

As far as developing a different persona. I read some things on Spark People and wonder if the people are being false. Not any of the folks that posted in this wonderful thread.

ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (195,969)
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2/21/14 2:42 P

Call me old fashioned, but I do like using good grammar. I spent enough years in school studying English, might as well use it. LOL !

My cousin tried to set up an email account for my 80 something auntie. When my cousin and I email back and fourth it's as if we are having a casual conversation. My auntie writes an email as if it were a formal letter. After a while, she gave up email. She's one of the few people I will write a letter for. Most times, I email because it is like having a conversation.

I think that Spark People has one of the most civil message boards where members are mostly respectful to other another. I've been on a few boards myself. For a while, I was a Craigslist rant and rave addict. You want rude behavior, trolls and flaming ? Try Craigslist. anything goes over there.


SPARKLEYSHINE SparkPoints: (29,927)
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2/21/14 11:15 A

I think a mistake that a lot of people make is not knowing the 'tone' of the message board that they are using. Some boards use mostly full words and standard abbreviations. Some boards not so much. That's why I prefer to lurk for a bit when possible before jumping in and joining a new board.

Some people just jump right in not knowing the etiquette and yes it's easy to spot the newbs.

Edited by: SPARKLEYSHINE at: 2/21/2014 (11:16)
EELPIE Posts: 2,700
2/21/14 10:22 A

Only Zombiecat omg this: "They type a lot of dense text instead of making a brief statement or breaking things up with space between paragraphs."

Lol - can I vent? Whew - as an ex-editor, this drives me nuts!! When people do that, no matter how much I'd love to read what they typed, I just can't. I just see that huge block of text, and skip it entirely. Sometimes I feel bad, thinking I may be missing a good or valid point, but I just can't read it.

2/21/14 9:28 A

So, you're NOT the kiss of death of message boards!

OBIESMOM2 SparkPoints: (240,965)
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2/21/14 8:37 A

go to your START page (tab at top left)
*click the ACCOUNT/EMAIL PREFERENCES link (upper left corner)
*click the COMMUNITY tab
*under SPARK POINTS select what you want to show


MIYAM1 Posts: 21
2/20/14 11:48 P

Over to the left, the poster's box, some people have fitness minutes and lots of cool info on themselves. Mine only shows how many posts I've made. How do I modify that box?

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11/4/13 4:22 P I the kiss of death for message boards???

OBIESMOM2 SparkPoints: (240,965)
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11/4/13 4:19 P

I don't spend a lot of time on message boards.

There is one that I was on for several years; it was discontinued but several of the regular posters moved to another forum. I posted there too for a while, but I guess I lost interest. My favorite posters either left the forum or were not able to post very often.

there was one group that was connected to a Reuters blog. Reuters did away with it, but the reporter set up a private Facebook group. I still post with that group on a regular basis. All of us are natural smarta$$'s a fun group. We've even gained a few new folks since moving to Facebook.

and Spark, of course

DROPCONE Posts: 1,592
11/4/13 10:34 A

I'm kind of embarrassed that I understood your second sentence. I need to get a life!

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11/1/13 3:18 P

All I can say is ..."What ever floats your boat." I am OLD and I do enjoy FB but don't know why except that I keep in touch with a lot of other OLD friends. I do NOT like many of the FB rules and privacy stuff, so I keep my comments sort of plain jane, so to speak.

ATHENA-NADINE SparkPoints: (20,812)
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11/1/13 3:14 P

I stopped using most abbreviations and netspeak in the late 90s, when I switched from chat rooms to meh sage boards. So did most of the people I know. Using full sentences and decent spelling and grammar doesn't always mean someone is new to message boards. It also often means someone has been on the web for a very long time and has grown out of it. Am I old at 40? Sure, to some. But I am also part of the generation that worked in IT during the tech boom and helped make the Internet and web what it is today.

Interestingly, in my experience, it's the people who use the most abbreviations who are often the newest to message boards and most social media. Most of the teens and 20-somethings I know who are online save their abbreviations for texting and twitter and use proper sentences and paragraphs on message boards and Facebook.

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11/1/13 3:04 P

KJ I always seem to get your point the very first time around!

11/1/13 2:53 P

The only message board I use is Sparkpeople. English is my second language and I live in Africa, of course, so I am sure I will be misunderstood and found 'different'.
Yay me!
I am sorry, but I don't care if I sound old or young, internet savvy or not. I just enjoy it. I enjoy some of the 'older' opinions more anyway.
And thank Heavens for Spell Check.

11/1/13 11:56 A

And yet another sign of a newbie to posting is that many of them respond to the OP with confronting arguments.

I laughed when I thought about the way "old" people respond or responses in the "old" way in general. I remember when we first set my mom up with a computer (in her mid-70's) and she drove everyone crazy correcting all of their punctuation, abbreviations and grammar to the point where some of my nieces and nephews just quit writing to her, and she had no clue why.

I'm not the best when it comes to always responding correctly to an OP, but I enjoy throwing my two cents in on various subjects. It's always interesting to know how you compare to others' thoughts and opinions (whether they are new posters or experienced). There's a first to everything we do in life.

emoticon (Even November has to start somewhere -- My proverbial emoticon!)

11/1/13 10:29 A

LOL@ "not as advertised"

BUNNYKICKS Posts: 2,433
11/1/13 10:25 A

Faith, it's great that you are honest, and tbh so am I - I figure I already have the Internet Cloak of Anonymity, so what's the point of putting a bunch of effort into creating a False Persona.... I am just me, more or less, wherever I go....

HOWEVER it is a HUGE mistake to assume that because one is honest, that everyone else out there is as well. I mean, on the one hand, it doesn't really matter if my internet friend tells me she weighs 200 pounds but actually weighs 214, or if she says she's from Colorado but is actually from Michigan. Whatevs! I take people "as they present themselves" and don't worry about the accuracy of the details. But ... People share a lot of real-life personal information, people develop friendships, people fall in love. All great when everybody is honest - a nightmare when one party is "not as advertised." From identity theft to a trail of broken hearts, the carnage can be terrible.

11/1/13 10:24 A

@faith: the anonymous atmosphere that the internet holds makes it really easy for passive or introverted personalities to explore new boundaries and some (not all of course) folks allow themselves to PUSH those boundaries. Actually any type personality could do this but it
s my experience that passive-aggressive type personalities are more likely than not to mis-represent themselves on the net.

FAITHP44 Posts: 8,491
11/1/13 9:38 A

Really? Now I'm confused. I've never been anyone but me on any message board, chat room etc. So where do I get an alter ego from? Or who should I be pretending to be? Is it that I'm too old or too honest?

EMPRESSAMQ Posts: 5,077
11/1/13 8:55 A

I'm an OLD (shouting) junkie and user of the old style message boards (old style as opposed to Twitter, FB and whatever sites those much younger than me are using these days, I don't pretend to know).

I've used old style message boards (especially diet ones like spark) for a long, long, long (REALLY LONG) time.

I use emoticons emoticon when I feel like it and don't care if I sound young or OLD. Probably the latter lol.

I am a journalist by trade and know how to use punctuation but a message board is not a work assignment, so I use PROPER punctuation when I feel like it.

One thing about a comment made in this thread about framing a question clearly is that, IMO, it doesn't really matter. People on boards such as Spark and especially the Café respond as they like and are not necessarily answering the original question. That is what makes it interesting, IMO (by the way, I think that use of IMO REALLY dates moi lol, as does my proclivity to say lol).

And definitely folks using any social media site (old style or not) are often not what they seem or not who they pretend to be. That is why caution was invented.

KKKAREN Posts: 12,754
11/1/13 8:39 A

yes I can spot a newbie. There is one in the chat room now that I'm having fun watching. I have only been doing this for 4 or 5 years and have made all the mistakes, still do sometimes, so I try to be tolerant. I'm not on twitter, facebook or other social media sites and don't spend much time on the computer, I don't have a smartphone. Therefore I like the words spelled out and detest the abbreviations.

LOLA_LALA Posts: 659
10/31/13 9:17 P

I have to say, that was one of the most succinct, info-packed, easy-to-read messages I've read in a LONG time on a message board.

Thanks, ONLYZOMBIECAT! Well done!

LOUNMOUN Posts: 1,334
10/31/13 4:56 P

Yes, there are a few clues for me that someone probably is newer to message boards.

They call a thread a forum.
They don't use abbreviations or know what they mean.
They use long post titles that get cut off.
They get very upset that people don't reply or that people replying don't agree with them.
They don't seem to think about other members possibly being from a different part of the world or a different culture.
They go crazy with emoticons, huge signatures or pictures.
They type a lot of dense text instead of making a brief statement or breaking things up with space between paragraphs.
They don't put the main point of their post in the first sentence or the title.
They reveal a lot more personal information.

I've been using different message boards for over 13 years.

Edited by: LOUNMOUN at: 10/31/2013 (16:58)
ETHELMERZ Posts: 19,292
10/31/13 2:40 P

I'm really old, I don't even Try to read that nonsense writing, lol........and I don't care about what's in or out. Have posted on several boards for around 12 yrs. or so, we use punctuation, capital letters when needed, and it's always been that way. And young people I know actually write in plain, old English, and still know how. Never been on a message board full of snobs before, though, that would be no fun.

BUNNYKICKS Posts: 2,433
10/31/13 2:11 P

Woah. Is it bad that I can actually read that? (I am so 1337) lollll

10/31/13 1:55 P


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SHERYLDS Posts: 17,319
10/31/13 1:14 P

expect the unexpected
don't let the turkeys ruffle your feathers
and enjoy.

you never know how people react to things behind the makes life interesting

DROPCONE Posts: 1,592
10/31/13 1:09 P

I don't know that it is desirable to sound youthful on message boards. Correct spelling, grammar and punctuation enhance clarity in an environment where vocal nuance is difficult to discern.


Edited by: DROPCONE at: 10/31/2013 (13:10)
BUNNYKICKS Posts: 2,433
10/31/13 12:01 P

"Can you tell when there are folks who are not only new to a message board site but are new to the internet or message board protocol and etiquette "

Yeaaaap. But hey, we all have to start someplace. I made all the same "newbie mistakes" too, back in the late 90's. lol. Oh, gosh, I just cringe when i remember some of my faux pas and misconceptions... *shudder*

WATERONE SparkPoints: (96,566)
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10/31/13 11:56 A

Not really, but then I don't visit a lot of sites.

10/31/13 11:38 A

LOL! I am a message board junkie and have been since the early 2000's. I usually haunt gaming sites (I play Dungeons & Dragons and Magic: The Gathering) and since then I now visit weight lifting and health and fitness websites (like here) oh, and a few liberal ones.

In my early days it was OBVIOUS that I was not only new to the internet but antiquated (i.e. old sounding, lol). My giveaways were lots of punctuations, lengthy posts and replies, presumptuous behavior like talking to people as if they were real and really are who they say they are (hardly ever the case in gamer-land), getting upset if people chose not to write back when I sent them a message and other "old people" stuff like that.

I also had a hard time (and still do to a certain extent) getting my point across, the message board way of life lacks nuance and voice inflection so sometimes if I don't frame my questions the right way then the meaning can get fuzzy and sometimes even lost or worse, MISUNDERSTOOD!

Can you tell when there are folks who are not only new to a message board site but are new to the internet or message board protocol and etiquette (lol, as if there are such things).


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