I scan the message boards looking for threads that have less then 100 replies. then I look that the subjects to see if it is something I'm interested in. I am trying to reply or subscribe to 3 to 4 threads a day because I have found that the email notification get me on sparks and that motivates me.
Yes, KJ, I too, like to put my "very important opinion" on certain threads that I totally disagree with or are about topics that blank me off. And, the people who are on the threads asking about other diet methods -- I wonder, "Why are they here if all they want is a quick-fix miracle anyway?" Are they actually using SparkPeople? And, I do agree that some of the most interesting threads are the ones where the OP ends up with their foot in their mouth (argue amongst yourself please!), but I refrain from getting caught in the middle sometimes. I love many of the regular OPs here because they are funny, they have good reasons for seeing something different, and they are all-over interesting people with great writing skills. Like some of you said, I miss some of the Sparkers who used to offer regular comments that are no longer coming to the boards, however in the few years I have been here, we have gained some new and clever OPs, and I try not to miss their posts.
Keep up the great posts.
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Some of the worst threads motivate me the most. The ones blaming their weight on not having support in their lives. That is not why you are 100 pounds overweight. That's the same as a kid saying I get D's in school because my parents won't pay me ($) for good grades. It makes me look into myself on days I have excuses. I don't have excuses on blaming others for non support as I am only doing this for myself and don't even talk about that I am trying to lose weight. I have excuses in my head about not exercising although I love it once I start. I unfortunately also love relaxing with a good book for hours on end.
Sometimes people who comment on bad threads open up a new discussion which is very interesting. I always read the comments that Anarie leaves as I find her long posts so interesting with such wisdom, insight and intelligence. She always makes me think.
I haven't warmed to "teams" just yet. I joined a few but they are mostly very inactive. I feel weird answering questions that were asked nine days ago, lol. Some teams I REALLY wish were busier, because they are on topics that I'm quite interested in... their name calls to me, I see several hundred or thousand members, I peek at the board.... most recent post May 9th. I don't join. Sigh.
Granted, I COULD do something about that - by joining a team and then chattering away on it every single day, even if only to myself. That would at least make it look less deserted to the next potential team-joiner, and maybe eventually something would come of it all.
But until the mood strikes to Take The Team Reins And Run With Them, I find I prefer the immediate-ness of the general forums better. I'm more of a "conversation joiner" than a "conversation starter."
Sigh! Well, at least most of my Forum Heros (those folks you imprint on, when you first start foruming here) are still here. There's a couple that I do notice "missing" though, that I hope will come back some day.
Same here. It's really sad-including one that I had started.
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YAY! It's not just me who gets so irritated with the 'that will never work for me because' endless excuses. I realize no one thing works for everybody, but it is disheartening to try to offer suggestions and see every one of them shot down. I keep going back to a quote many Sparkers use: If it's important to you, you'll find a way...if not, you'll find an excuse.
yes, there seems to be much less traffic lately. Some of my Spark Teams that were once really active are flat-lining.
I avoid all "fad diet" threads. Even if they seem to be asking-for-feedback ("what do you think of 5:2/cider vinegar/green coffee/etc., I'm thinking of trying this, has anyone had success, tell me your experience") - they usually do not WANT negative feedback. They don't want to hear "don't waste your money" or "everyone I know who has tried it, has lost weight initially but gained it back quickly" or "it's a scam" or "there's no scientific basis for it" or "it's potentially harmful." These posts, or so it seems to me, are seeking only VALIDATION for the poster's pre-made decision. So if i can't give validation, there's not much point to responding. Occassionally I do, anyways, but the more time that passes, the better I am getting and just leaving those things ALONE.
I am still trying to work out how to tell apart the "real" requests for help/advice/support (which I'm always happy to offer) from the posts that are actually just the OP trying to convince him/herself and the world that they are somehow "special in that it is impossible for me to ever lose the weight - it can't be done." Those posts actually annoy me a lot.... the ones that at first glance appear to be someone going through a struggle but WANTING to make it through the struggle (and we've all struggled, we feel the pain, we extend our helping hands as best we can), only to have the OP carry on with "but I can't cut out the Doritos, I'm genetically programmed to require them"... "nope, can't cut down the portion size either, once you open the bag, they force themselves into my mouth" "nope, can't exercise to offset the calories, because it's raining out" "well no I can't exercise in a rain jacket, I'm allergic to long sleeves" "and of course I can't exercise indoors, it upsets the parakeet"... and so on and so on and so on. OH MY HEAVENS. Just say "I am not at a place in my head or my life right now, where making any changes are worth it to me, I might be back to Spark another day, or... maybe not." I don't know who people think they need to JUSTIFY their choice not-to-diet to! Certainly not to me, some stranger-on-an-internet-message-board! Sometimes, a person is just not ready. I mean heck, *I* could have chosen to lose this weight in 2012. Or 2011. Or 2010. Or chosen not to gain it in 2008-2009. But it was only in 2013 that I found whatever reason/desire/motivation to actually do it. So that's why I am here on Spark NOW, and I was NOT here on Spark THEN.
Wow that was ranty lol.
Posts I DO look at, have been getting fewer and farther between - is it just me, or has there been a noticeable drop in traffic on the boards the last few weeks? Is it the thinning-of-the-new-years-resolution-crowd ? What's up?!
The threads I totally stopped replying to are the ones that ask or want replies to:
Have you tried this diet/pill/fad/drink threads...
It's their kinda s subtle way of letting those know hey, I am on it and by the way.. I am selling it kinda of thing.. let me know if you want to use it...those drive me nuts..if someones in profit for a product and tries to promote it on the boards. (I am very happy to hear the replies that are totally against them because it really shows that sparkies know how to live healthy and its one reason I have really stuck around this site, plus if I happen to ask advice, I know at least 80% will be right!!!) Those threads on products gets redundant
there are true threads that people really do want to know about a certain product (because I wanted to know about chia seeds LOL, but its a natural source thing if its actually worth buying)
I do like threads that cause conversations over yes and no answers and just being random and fun does make a difference..
Although I vary from day to day, on some of them, I can't really find threads that I am interested in commenting on. I like reading others' opinions about news items, fashion, foods, and ideas for exercising and eating healthy, along with the miscellaneous idiosyncrasies we have in life. I tend to skip over the ones that I have already commented on, ones that ask if I had tried a variety of fad diets, ones that only require yes/no answers, and ones where members tell how bad they failed yesterday or this weekend because I only have one answer to their thread (always "jump back on board...you can do it").
What are your favorite threads to reply to. What are the worst?
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