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ETHELMERZ Posts: 19,282
5/23/13 9:37 P

Back when we lived close to family and friends, we used to enjoy long weekends and eat what we wanted, too. The only way I could lose weight then, was to stay home and not go anywhere if there was a party, period!!! Lost lots of weight that way, but, of course, it came back on because I wanted to actually enjoy life......... Then we moved way far away from everyone, so now, no one comes around, we have no place to go, we don't drink, and stay away from party foods, healthy, but not fun. So, enjoy your weekend, and go back to healthy eating during the week, that is just the way life is, reality. Or you will be moaning and groaning every weekend for the rest of your life, and that ain't fun, either.

TACDGB Posts: 6,136
5/23/13 7:06 P

I make it about the people the fun and not about the food. I serve healthy foods so there is not an issue with that.

VEG_GIRL04 Posts: 2,627
5/23/13 3:59 P

Everything can be an excuse. From birthdays, holidays, weekends, long weekends - we all let it happen. The important thing is to be mindful - even if you know you're slipping. As others have mentioned- even if you aren't tracking - use your head. Split a piece of cheesecake, watch your portion control, make lots of healthy options if it's at your place, get some games going outside, and drink alcoholic beverage with lower calorie and carb counts. I'd rather have 3 miller 64's than one margarita (and I know that 3 drinks are more likely than one for me) - so I plan ahead and buy something that I like and is low in sugar, carbs and calories!

Have perseverance - have pride that you care - and enjoy yourself without letting yourself go! You'll be happier in the long run if you control yourself in the short run!

BUNNYKICKS Posts: 2,433
5/23/13 1:56 P

I totally agree with Obies re: " I just had to realize that there are too many 'special occasions' to splurge at every one of them."

Now, maybe I "relax" on the weekend and have a glass of wine or two, that I wouldn't have on a weeknight. Or maybe I have ribeye steak! What a splurge! (but then I have it will grilled asparagus and NO potato, and the calories work out). Or maybe I go to the pub and SHARE a single-order of potstickers, instead of downing 1800 calories-worth of nachos or the deceivingly-named "artichoke dip". Maybe I eat the burger, but not the Doritos. Maybe I "treat" myself with an expensive package of fresh raspberries, that I normally wouldn't buy. Maybe I take a trip to the italian deli and buy prosciutto and fancy cheeses to set out for a posh-posh appetizer with fresh pineapple and mango slices.

Heck, I just got back from a week in Hawaii. Vacation - license to party? Former-me would have said so, but 2013-me said "party, but party in a new way, and it will be just as fun" and it was. I didn't TRACK for the week, but I also didn't go completely awry. I decided to really enjoy what the location had to offer (fresh papaya with yogurt and granola; apple-bananas; fish), and not-bother with "Denny's skillet breakfast with side of biscuits and gravy." One night, we hit the grocery store, bought a bagged salad kit, two HUGE steaks, some Montreal Steak Spice and a package of charcoal, and made bbq steak, beachside. WOW did I feel I was letting my hair down there! But since all i was actually eating was basically steak (no potato, no sour cream, no chips, no dip, no dessert, no buttered roll), it worked.

Yeah, you can party and "treat" and "splurge" and STILL eat "maintenance calories." Maybe even "reduction calories." Just try and find things that make you feel splurgy and special and treated that *are not necessarily related to junk/excess foods*.... it's a hard mindset to change, I will agree. I think the trick is finding "healthy" substitutes that you like BETTER. (for example - rather than "treat" myself to a bbq burger, i might go for a couple skewers of bbq prawns - if i have a choice of prawns vs burgers, it will be prawns any day!). This can extend to placing the focus for "fun" on your weekend activities (the socializing aspect of the bbq rather than the food; the walk-by-the-beach aspect of the picnic rather than what's in the picnic basket).

Yeah. Lifetime habits die hard. Just pick away at them, and slowly they will change. :)

JGIRL5799 Posts: 561
5/23/13 1:21 P

Oh of course its thats way with us as well!

Cookouts friends and family, its a great ol grand time.. LOL

As for desserts and bad foods, I do allow myself a "small taste" if I am in the mood, but other wise, I always bring healthy things that I can eat.. Don't feel bad and these weekends are when I enjoy my cheat meals... I don't usually stress out because its all about spending time with the people I care about the most..

I plan on eating my chia seeds and drinking way more water than normal to keep me full.

I am usually 90% good anyway.. Enjoy the weekend!!!

Edited by: JGIRL5799 at: 5/23/2013 (13:22)
DLBROWN93 Posts: 889
5/23/13 1:19 P

Keeping it light and healthy. Veggie burgers, fresh fruit, whole grains.

LUV2SURFCHIC Posts: 2,507
5/23/13 1:18 P

We already have a lot of fresh fruits and veggies so I'm looking forward to grilling out.

YOJULEZ SparkPoints: (15,981)
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5/23/13 11:40 A

I have a double whammy this weekend... my birthday is on Friday so we're celebrating Saturday, then a BBQ at a friends on Sunday. To try and combat it, I've been trying to eat a bit lighter this week and next, to "bank" calories to use for my birthday dinner (we're eating at a high end restaurant and I already know I'm going to go nuts on the food haha!) and the BBQ (where my friend already told me she's made my favorite cupcakes for my birthday ugh).

Also, what about finding some healthy dishes you can contribute? And then, eat a lot of those, and just a little bit of the unhealthy stuff. I'm making this to take to the BBQ on Sunday
, so I'll eat a large portion of that, and a smaller portion of whatever else is there, probably stuff like potato salad and other typical BBQ foods. Then, I can have my cupcake too :)

5/23/13 11:39 A

I usually allow myself a treat or two over the weekend, but try not to go overboard. And like previous posters said, drink lots of water, and maybe eat a piece of fruit before you go to your party/cookout. Then eat light while you are there....everything in moderation.

Have a wonderful weekend!!


ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (195,969)
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5/23/13 11:38 A

You don't have to give up your social life to be healthy. You don't even have to give up cheesecake, BUT you do have to be mindful of those portions. These days, when I eat at a BBQ, I try to be selective with regards to what I eat. I try to avoid things I can buy myself at the market like chips, dip, etc. I usually go for things that are homemade in small portions.

The problem I've found is that when people eat at these sorts of events, they eat as if they were never going to have a hot dog ever again. If you'd like a cheeseburger or even a hot dog, it's okay to have one. Have one, not two or three. And really savor that burger or dog. Don't inhale it like a Hoover. That's another thing I used to do. I ate too fast when out with family or friends. The faster you eat, the more likely you are to refill your plate.

Pretend you're in a bar on a budget, NURSE that food. Take your time to really taste the food. When a person eats too fast, they don't really taste the food. What happens ? They feel deprived and want more. If you try to slow down how fast you eat, you may find you're also less likely to over eat.

There is an old saying about eating, leave a little space in your stomach. Oh and watch the fruity cocktails and alcoholic beverages. That's where people really get messed up. One mixed cocktail can have 300+ calories. Drink more than one and you see how quickly the calories add up. Have one drink, but then, ask for some mineral water with a twist. Keep something on your plate or in your hand so that the hostess doesn't feel a need to serve you more food.

Mostly, don't beat yourself up because you over eat during holiday weekends. It takes time to reform eating habits.

My advice, try to be mindful of your portions. that really will help you get through the weekend. Use the rule of palm. no serving should be bigger than the palm of your hand UNLESS it's a serving of veggies ! A person can rarely go wrong overeating their veggies.

RIET69 SparkPoints: (47,087)
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5/23/13 11:23 A

Oh yes, I can relate to your post!! Weekends are enough of an excuse, let alone 3 day weekends. This morning I saw a poster that said: IF YOU ARE TIRED OF STARTING OVER, STOP QUITTING. I loved it and it really spoke to me. I am going to keep it in mind.


OBIESMOM2 SparkPoints: (240,943)
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5/23/13 10:57 A

if I'm going to a social event with food, I'll usually bring something healthy and fill my plate with that. Then I can have a small taste of the other stuff.

if it's something where I cannot bring a dish to share, I'll eat an apple in the car on the way over, and drink LOTS of water.

for me, I just had to realize that there are too many 'special occasions' to splurge at every one of them. I'll split a piece of birthday cake once a year, and I'll have a piece of mom's cherry pie on Thanksgiving. Other than that, I just stay away from the dessert table.

the high calorie side dishes don't tempt me too much (I don't like anything with mayo!)

LEC358 SparkPoints: (11,135)
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5/23/13 10:47 A

Weekends like this are the perfect excuse to go out side and Play! I love cookouts because usually they're the excuse to break out the badminton/volleyball net, croquet set, frisbee, etc. It's all fun because we don't keep score and just have fun encouraging each other.

5/23/13 10:43 A

Three-day weekends and my diet usually clash. We are spending it with friends, and the wife (who is very thin and in shape, suggested cheesecake for dessert). She has a number of food allergies and sensitivities which cause her asthma to flare up. So, I feel obliged to having what she would like and CAN eat. Oh well. Maybe I can cut down the calories elsewhere.

My real point, however, is that when long weekends come around, both my husband and I get in the party mood and love cookouts, big dinners, having people over, and we can hardly keep within our nutritional limits (especially if drinks are involved). It seems that we can't get out of the mode of using ANY excuse or holiday (which there are many like birthdays, Mother's day, Father's day, Valentine's Day, St. Patrick's day, a full moon name it!) to overeat and socialize.

Anyone else out there with the same problem? How do we overcome this phenomenon?

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