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SIMPLYME160 SparkPoints: (1,834)
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5/24/13 1:11 P

Hi, I have also fallen off the wagon for a few weeks at a time. Same reason, all that work and little weight loss. I stopped counting everything-found it to stressful. I continued my plan-just quit counting everything. Stopped weighing so often, and went by how my clothes fit..remember on a more humid day, you may feel more "puffy". After a month, I was really surprised how much I lost!

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5/24/13 10:05 A

Your struggles are what many of us go through on such a regular basis. I tried a free self hypnosis session online to help me get started. It sounds kind of odd, but I got the best sleep of my life from it. THAT, and it does seem to help me practice a little bit more self control. It feels good (which is rare in a weightloss pursuit) and causes no harm. It's at I did the weightloss and insomina track. I'm just getting started, but it sort of helped me get things under control. I used to be in shape, and then my life took some very stressful turns...I'm getting back on the wagon in a way myself.
I also like Jillian Michaels 30 day shred. Those workouts are pretty short. They're hard while you're doing them, but you get through what feels like the first little bit and it's half over.
You'll make it!

SIMPLELIFE2 Posts: 707
5/24/13 10:02 A

"I have 8 weeks to shred off hopefully 15lb" Why add more stress and pressure to your life with an unrealistic goal? Although you could lose 2 pounds a week if you're obese, it is not likely if you are closer to your goal weight, which you are. Unless you do something drastic or unhealthy, which is NOT recommended, you are not going to lose 15 pounds in 8 weeks. A more realistic goal would be 8 pounds (1 pound per week) but even that is hard and unlikely to be consistent for two months.

Your motivation should be for YOUR good health and happiness, not to get back at someone or make him sorry. If he really dumped you because you were heavier that his friends' girlfriends, why even care what such a shallow, insensitive jerk has to think? He's not worth your time and energy.

Imagine different scenarios. If you don't reach the unrealistic goal you have set, how will you feel? Angry and disappointed and frustrated with yourself? And if you do starve yourself to do it and he really doesn't notice or care, then what? Console yourself with chocolate? Unrealistic expectations and motivations outside of ourselves only set us up to fail and fuel bad patterns.

Sure, you are human and will experience emotions, but you don't need to put them in the driver's seat. Use your mind to control them and take a more rational approach. And remember, the more poor food choices you make and the less you exercise to release stress, the worse you feel and the more stressed out you become. Do this for you. You're worth it.

JEZZIEA SparkPoints: (0)
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5/24/13 9:14 A

Thank you all so much for the support and sharing your stories and coping strategies. I have taken some time out, re-organised my meal planning and although I haven't been able to make it to the gym, I am trying to get back in the rhythm with 'token' exercises, like 20 sit-ups while waiting for the kettle to boil etc. I took a photo today to compare to one from last year to see how far I have come; even if I didn't lose any more weight I am still much better than I was!

Thank you for the link to the article on emotional eating, I think I really under-estimate the role stress has to play in my weight loss!

You are all so great, I just needed to rant because I was feeling so low but feel so much better now. On with life!

ELIDET Posts: 16
5/23/13 12:21 P

Just remember TODAY is another day to get back on track! So what if you ate chocolate yesterday and the day before? Start today! Drink more water, go back to preparing your meals. I mean, you yourself have said you did this already, so you KNOW you can do it!

First things first! Those snacks at work. That seems to be the biggest temptation. Maybe take some healthy snacks in for yourself. Apple slices with peanut butter or Nutella, or maybe some grapes and nuts, or something that you can snack on everytime you feel tempted!

Always have water near you. Drink some water when you feel like having chocolate.

And lastly, take it ONE DAY AT A TIME! Don't say you will not go without chocolate, just say today, you will only have ONE serving!

I don't have to workout either, but I do the Jillian Michael's 30 Day Shred, and it's only 20 minutes! That way I am not at the gym all day long, since I have a toddler.

You can do this!

MRSRIGS1 SparkPoints: (128,659)
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5/23/13 11:53 A

Don't GIVE up on yourself! YOU are worth every effort! Look good for yourself - not anyone else. More importantly than looking good, is being healthy. We are all humans and stray away from eating healthy. Brush those days away and start fresh! You can do it because you're WORTH it!

BETHS60 Posts: 566
5/23/13 11:00 A

Wow. You've got a lot going on. It sounds like you've got stress at work, and social stress about the visit back home. Stress is going to make it difficult to lose weight, unfortunately. It's going to make you want to carbo-load for one thing.

The thing to remember is that you are not on a wagon. If you are on a wagon, someone else is steering while you are riding in back. Rather, you are walking on a path towards a goal. You are in charge of where you are going. Sometimes the way is not clear. Sometimes, you may want to change your goal. Sometimes there are side paths that look tempting, so you wander down them for awhile. If they don't get you where you want to go, you can turn around and walk back to the path. Sometimes shortcuts look easier than they really are.

So take care of yourself. Reduce your stress. Get some exercise. Eat lots of vegetables, leafy greens, and fruits. Hang out with your friends and have a good time.

KELLY_SP SparkPoints: (138,148)
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5/23/13 10:16 A


First of all, I would stop being so hard on yourself. We are all human and we all juggle lots of different things every day. You have to focus on each choice as it comes to you rather than beat yourself up for choices that are already behind you.

What would you say to your best friend if they brought this same problem to you? You would likely support her and help her get over the hump. Don't be your own your own support.

Set a few small goals with yourself and start're worth it!

Be well,

ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (196,884)
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5/23/13 10:13 A


I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". if the only healthy thing you were to do for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.

I'm a firm believer that stress is a neglected aspect of weight gain. If a person could reduce their stress, they'd automatically reduce their waistline. if you find yourself lapsing during times of stress, then you need to find ways to reduce your stress that don't involve food. If you're an emotional eater (and many people are), you might want to read some of the great Spark articles on emotionally eating. The more you learn about what triggers those binge episodes, they better you'll be able to reduce their instances.

There are a lot of different articles as well as books, but you might find this one helpful.

JEZZIEA SparkPoints: (0)
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5/23/13 10:02 A

I have had a 3 week fall off the wagon and am struggling to get back on.

I was silly and because I wasn't loosing weight fast enough, decided to cut carbs for a week and ended up binging after 5 days. Haven't stopped since! I have put on 5lb, can feel and notice the extra flab and just feel YUCK.

I work easily 70hrs a week and usually I am organised with meals, but just haven't been lately. To top it off, there is a ready supply of chocolate at work and I have probably easily been eating 500+ calories a day ALONE in that! Have had several 'get togethers' too where I am over eating again.

I am usually good at MAKING time to exercise but these past few weeks just haven't had the motivation. I feel yuck and to make things worse, in 8 weeks I am going back to my old town for a visit and work. I know I shouldn't care so much about this but an ex-boyfriend lives up there, I will see him, and I want to look GOOD!!! I always felt like he was kind of embarrassed of me because I wasn't tiny like his friends' girlfriends. Yes, that is probably me being insecure but I am only human!

I just feel yuck and every day starts out well then I crack and eat the numerous temptations in my work place. I have come so far and don't want to slip back into old habits!

I know what I need to do, just wanted to 'vocalise' it and maybe even get some support. I have 8 weeks to shred off hopefully 15lb and just need to get myself together and do it!

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