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BABUSHEK Posts: 18
3/20/14 9:35 A

Thank you so much for your post! It really resonated with me! I love your empowered and self-loving outlook!

SUSAN1255 SparkPoints: (1,567)
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3/20/14 9:31 A

Thank you for your post. I just found out, after 10 years with my company, that I will soon be laid off. I'm told it's nothing to do with my performance, that I have excellent skills, but the team is being restructured and my skill set does not fit in that new structure. Really?? Wow. It is hard not to feel "rejected" and cast aside. So your reminder that we are amazing people was what I needed to hear today. We are not what we weigh, nor are we what occurs in corporate America. And we will continue to put one foot in front of the other and welcome the exciting new opportunities coming our way.

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3/20/14 9:31 A

A little over a year ago, I fell backwards, landed on my kitchen floor, and cracked five ribs. Four months later,I was diagnosed with breast cancer. In a year, I have gained 20-25 pounds. What a bummer! The weight gain bothers me the most but I am now in an exercise program which my doctors advised. My spirits have been high throughout. I am truly blessed.

LONDON2014 SparkPoints: (996)
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3/20/14 9:27 A

Beautiful! Thank you for inspiring me to persevere. I, too, have a history of focusing on "being healthy" for a time, only to be derailed by the next big thing life throws at me. I love the way you love you!

Edited by: LONDON2014 at: 3/20/2014 (09:27)
3/20/14 9:22 A

Great view! I have been working on doing the same. emoticon emoticon

KEEPITSIMPLE_ SparkPoints: (94,167)
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3/20/14 9:21 A

Great blog! In my eyes, you are definitely a success! When you can just be you and just be the best person you can be without the constant mindset of "losing weight", yet living healthy, happy with total acceptance of yourself, and loving you for who you are, that spells SUCCESS! I wish everyone could experience that.

Congratulations! I'm so thankful to read such a beautiful blog that isn't all about the weight. The other areas are so much more important, to me anyway.

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SENSORYFOODIE SparkPoints: (8,980)
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3/20/14 9:20 A

I loved this most of all:
That our weight is an outward reflection of our inward challenges. Good for you!

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3/20/14 9:18 A

I just loved this story and it hit home to me, I have a poor body image but am very healthy. How true the words you spoke. It was so nice to hear what you said. I obsess about my weight all the time so I can relate to you. Keep up the good work.

3/20/14 9:18 A

Your post is so right. Being healthy is the goal.

BUDDY01* Posts: 4
3/20/14 9:15 A

You posted so many true feeling I contend with. My uncle always called me fat when I was little and that is always in my thoughts. If someone compliments me I don't ever say thank you because I don't think I deserve it. All day all I think about food and the scale. I have to get used to staying off the scale and not worrying about food and what I'm eating all day.

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3/20/14 9:14 A

Thanks for what you wrote. I realy needed that today. Congrats on accepting yourself. Have a blessed and wonderful day!!!! emoticon

3/20/14 9:14 A

Thank you for sharing.... your thoughts are what so many of us in this "weight loss journey" are also thinking and feeling. I too believe that we are not just about the numbers, but also about the wonderful person inside that is struggling to be reborn and to burst out saying "look, I am in here, in this body, trying so hard to do this amazing thing--- can't anyone understand this???" Sometimes I feel so alone dieting, exercising, trying to stick to a schedule, and then I remember all of my 'sparkling friends' who are out there with me! It is a continual struggle trying to stick to something with such slow and little results....... it isn't about the weight, it is about the achievement and the ability to prove to yourself that you are worth the effort!!!!!! LOVE YOURSELF today and everyday! 'Nothing tastes as good as thin' Keep moving forward, even when we sometimes stumble backwards.

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3/20/14 9:13 A

thanks you sharing, I have tried for the last 3 months to watch my carb and walk a mile everyday and nothing seem to make the scale go down, I get really depressing when I see no results but I do know that I am eating better and drinking more water, sometime I think their something wrong with me that I can not lose any weight, and it all around my waist.
Any help for the waist problem I would love

VAINVT Posts: 8,169
3/20/14 9:12 A

I loved your post and agree that a healthy body starts in your mind.

ALLISON0926 Posts: 2
3/20/14 9:07 A

Could not have said it better! Unfortunately I think all too often it is easy to get caught up in the numbers game. It can be very damaging and depressing. What a great outlook! Thank you for sharing.

VMALINE Posts: 2
3/20/14 9:05 A

just what I needed this morning-thank you. It never amazes me how easily the weight comes on and how slowly it comes down. I am just plodding along trying to eat right and not diet and keep up the exercise. I don't want to make food my focus of life.

BUDDY01* Posts: 4
3/20/14 9:05 A

Thank you for that post. I beat myself up all the time. I stuck to my diet for 3 days and gained 2lbs. So I get flustered. I worry about dieting too much and then I just can't loose any weight. I am really in a rut right now Keep up the good work

3/20/14 9:02 A

I know nothing about you whatsoever. Your page is set to private which of course is your choice here. All I'm going on for my remarks is my experience of reading your post so please forgive me for my uninformed posting here. Pieces of the puzzle don't always show the total picture.

Many have stated what you state and I agree. It isn't about the number on the scale. I also agree that it all starts in the mind. But the level of the mind that this all starts on is the unconscious level which we do not want to look at.

If you are eating healthy, drinking your water, exercising daily, sleeping at least 8 hours a day, and your clothes are fitting better frequently, then I say more power to you and you are definitely seeing that the scale does not figure in for your healing process.

If, instead, you are stating what you are stating to cover up the fear of change, unacknowledged guilt which causes you to over eat/under exercise and you are not wanting to face the scales it is a total different issue altogether and one that you may want to look at.

Our unconscious thoughts of guilt, remorse, self-hatred plays out it's tune constantly on our life causing us to actions of self-abuse and then we bury those thoughts through avoidance, blame, and actions which prove out those thoughts.

We always have a choice to choose once again by loosening our hold on the above thoughts and actions/experiences and letting them go. Then choosing Love instead.

BULLSTER123 SparkPoints: (310)
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3/20/14 8:53 A

Thank you so much for making all of us look at what is important. For years the only thing that mattered was the numbers on a scale. It didn't matter if I didn't feel well or what the mirror said, it was the numbers. I'm going to try to adopt your wonderful outlook about health. I feel so much better now that I'm getting daily exercise . The scale says the same thing, but my body is feeling so much better.

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3/20/14 8:41 A

Reading your topic was timely for me this morning. I just finished reading "Unbearable Lightness" by Portia de Rossi. It was her story of her years with an eating disorder. It struck me as true when she said that being focused on food and weight and having thoughts about managing those things take up much of your day is essentially the same as being in the throes of an eating disorder. It's not a natural or healthy preoccupation. She pointed out that people who maintain "normal" weight and don't ever "diet" do not think endlessly about food, calories, fat content, etc. They eat based on their physical hunger and when they eat they enjoy whatever foods appeal to them. No starving. No bingeing. No writing each morsel down and counting all the variables. It made a lot of sense, especially as I've tried the intense self-monitoring approach, and always not only fail to lose weight, but also feel punished and ashamed the entire time. Not good! Your story was a breath of fresh air! Thanks!

SUNSHINEDEB2415 SparkPoints: (155)
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3/20/14 8:39 A

Way to go! I'm so happy that you got to that way of thinking. YOU are special as you are! Yes, health is important, and I have to work on eating healthy, but learning to love yourself for WHO YOU ARE is so important and essential for peace.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and growth with us! IT's encouraging, and reaffirming, and writing it down makes it stick even more!
Thanks for the encouraging words!
I pray for the best for you, I hope all goes well in your new adventures in your new home!

LALALOVELY76 SparkPoints: (55,063)
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3/20/14 8:32 A

So True! emoticon for sharing!

DRKPKING Posts: 98
3/20/14 8:28 A

congrats to you! Life IS about so much more than our weight

and building a healthy body,mind and spirit makes a fabulous journey!


HGARREN77 Posts: 15
3/20/14 8:23 A

Amazing Post! Thank you! You are so right that our whole lives should NOT revolve around the number that a scale tells us that we are. The truth is that while we feel like that the rest of the world doesnt! What usually happens is that we tend to focus on what OTHERS think of us or how we THINK others perceive us to be instead of focusing on what WE ourselves think and feel about how we really are weight wize, size wize, etc. It takes a lot of hard work to be able to get to a point in life and be able to accept yourself for the way that you are and love yourself. Especially when the whole world seems to be telling us that there is always something that we need to FIX about ourselves. I applaud you for being able to recognize that you are wonderful just the way that you are and to be able to focus on the positive things in your life.

GRIFGRAND SparkPoints: (147,028)
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3/20/14 8:23 A

Good job. Your story is an encouragement and reminder that the road to losing weight do not have to be stressful.

Thanks for sharing.

3/20/14 8:18 A

Great post! Thanks for this!

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MISSMARY3 SparkPoints: (237,257)
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3/20/14 8:17 A

Great job! I think you've got it! emoticon emoticon

7WORSHIPS Posts: 3,262
3/20/14 8:15 A

emoticon Love your attitude - Thanks for the reminder that it is about total wellness and not just a number on the scale

STEVIEBEE569 Posts: 10,560
3/20/14 8:12 A

Remember, that little number on that little piece of equipment, does not reflect the person you are on the inside. You can do it!

3/20/14 8:08 A

The scale can be a downer, doesn't reflect fat loss, increase muscle, nor increased strength!
Women need to lift weights to reduce more bone loss, decrease osteoporosis. Eat veggies, fruit, and lean protein. Confused, don't have direction....hire a Personal Trainer for a few sessions....get a roadmap to achieve your goals.

SONYAGO Posts: 10
3/20/14 8:07 A

You go girl! This is exactly where I am in my life. To be the best we can be! Thank you for this awesome entry. May it be an inspiration to all.

3/20/14 8:02 A

Healthy weight is important, but it can be obsessive and take control of our life. Focus on healthy eating and lifestyle is more important. Good accomplishment!

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3/20/14 7:58 A

That is awesome!!!!! I so need to change the way I feel about and see myself. You are definitely an inspiration!!! Keep it up!!!!!!! emoticon

MAHARMON Posts: 63
3/20/14 7:49 A

Amen, Sister! Well said! emoticon

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3/20/14 7:49 A

Thank you...beautifully stated, and EXACTLY what I needed to hear! emoticon

COOLMAMA11 SparkPoints: (204,081)
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3/20/14 7:45 A

Love your blog, we all stress too much about the Numbers on the scale, I am happy that the important numbers in my body are regulating to normal rates Blood pressure, A1C, Cholesterol, now that makes me happy and makes me proud to be doing something for my body!

ELSEEBEE Posts: 4,410
3/20/14 7:36 A

Fantastic message! I, too, have been on Spark for several years and I've recently had a similar experience to your (except mine came from being laid up with a broken arm). But the weather is now getting better and my garden is calling. I know once I start getting out and exercising again, my healthy habits will all fall back in place. You are so right- the goal is to be Healthy! I have finally accepted that I'm never going to have the body so many claim is ideal. I can only do what is best for me and live my life to its healthiest best.

Best wishes on your journey to a healthier you! You have one of the best attitudes on Spark!

3/20/14 7:27 A

I love your new way of thinking! This will certainly set you free. I am going to do the exact same thing. Thanks so much for sharing.

3/20/14 7:10 A

LOVE LOVE LOVE your post. Keep up the good work and the positive attitude.

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3/20/14 7:07 A

Wonderful Message.

3/20/14 7:05 A

Congratulations on your move and positive perspective. Your post is a reminder to all that we create our own reality and have the ability to rethink, retrain, and reassess our well-being. emoticon

3/20/14 6:52 A

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3/20/14 6:43 A

I loved the attitude of the "my life is not about my weight". We all have something to share that will enlighten someones heart on that special day, and know that you have done that with sharing your important thoughts. I too have been a member of Spark for quite a few years, and it is the only "all positive website" that I have gone to for great advice, the best exercise demonstrations, recipes, and consistency. Spread the word to people that need some joy in their lives. Thank you Sparkpeople for what you do!

BECKYS222 Posts: 94
3/20/14 6:42 A

You hit the nail on the head! Congratulations on finding your innerpeace. May all who are on here find it as well!

DZEEEE Posts: 1
3/20/14 6:23 A

What a great message, thank you for sharing. Congratulations on the beginning of the next chapter of your life!

Edited by: DZEEEE at: 3/20/2014 (06:24)
NYLAURA1 Posts: 4,619
3/20/14 5:26 A

Congratulations on being chosen for Community Highlights! Good luck with setting up your new home!

It's so hard for us to learn to accept and love ourselves. It's great that you found a new outlook.

DONNELDA22 SparkPoints: (42,051)
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3/20/14 5:21 A

You're on the right track.Keep up the good work. emoticon

LOVEXAVIE SparkPoints: (42,806)
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2/6/14 11:49 A

Sounds like you have it going on with your perspective, one that will serve you for life.
This is what is meant when people talk about "lifestyle" vs. diet.

COFFEEQUEEEN SparkPoints: (17,057)
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2/2/14 12:22 P

I know what you mean. This stuff has a way of taking over ever aspect of your life. And then, unfortunately, you start placing your own value on those numbers.

I'm trying to get back on track too, but with a healthy mindset of long term goals. This is new for me & I'm still working at it, but honestly I feel great! More balanced than ever before.

Best wishes,


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1/30/14 12:00 A

I know many people share their weight loss victories within this forum. I believe that is totally encouraging. I also think that it is important to share non weight loss victories as well. I made a major transition in my life. I moved to the other side of the country and normally I forget to focus on maintaining a healthy diet. So I often gain a lot of weight and then freak out and try to fix my weight problem as quickly as possible. Usually this would start out amazing and then become really challenging. I will lose weight and not feel like I could end up in the same spot again.
THIS TIME WAS DIFFERENT. I did gain the weight and then made a conscious decision to be healthy. Not focusing on numbers or what I will look like but be as healthy as I can be under the circumstances I am in. I realized that I really like how I look when I am a slight bit bigger and I like how I look when I am smaller and accepted that sometimes I will just gain and that it is okay. I can make healthy decisions and lose weight without stressing myself out over it. I love this new way of thinking. I accept myself how I am. I have been a Spark member for several years and know now that "healthy" really does start in the mind. The support on this forum is there to allow all of us to know that we are not alone in real life struggles. And that our weight is an outward reflection of our inward challenges. It should never be my focus. It should only be used to remind me to get back on track, keeping in line with all of the other positive goals I am trying to accomplish. Today I am grateful that my life is not about my weight. It is not about the number on the scale or the piece of birthday cake I ate today. It is about focusing on the glass being half full, accepting what comes, and persevering through the challenges to be better than I was yesterday. It is about accepting that WE are amazing people and that we have so much to offer this world.

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