wow i experienced this just yesterday with my best friend of 25 years!!
she is terribly overweight and always has been...her weight goes up every year and i hate it for her but she has never once tried or even talked about gettin healthy. i myself have tried time and time again over the years to lose weight. she's watched me diet, workout, anything and everything and NOT ONCE has she jumped on the train with me. she compliments me when i do well and tries to encourage me and at the same time says things like "im fat and happy"..."im just a fat girl"...blahblah. like shes happy with herself when i know shes not. she is also SUPER SENSITIVE about everything..i mean everything. so i know not to talk about her weight or else we're in a crying fit for weeks on end.
so yesterday...i had sent her and her daughter an xmas gift from Swiss Colony...some petit fours and bon bons...these are both of their favorites and i get them every year. and when she called to say thank you she told me "gee thanks...you are working out and losing weight so you send me the little cakes so i can stay fat!"
what the heck. seriously. i know i cant win with her but its so sad and frustrating. i mean.. i cant save her from her weight.. i cant fix it for her. she knows i would LOVE for her to join me in weight loss but she doesnt want to. so why does she have to try an make me feel guilty for doing it for myself?
honestly...i dont know how to deal with these types of people either. i guess we shud try and distance ourselves from them but for me...this is a 25 year friendship. i dont want to shut her out of my life becuz im losing weight and she isnt but it also isnt fair to feel guilty for all my hard work. heck if know. i love her in spite of herself but sometimes its very very hard.