I guess the best way I keep my motivation is by only thinking of today when things get really hard. I know that seems odd since planning for the future is something that is taught to help with weightloss. But for me, when I'm staring a cheesecake right in the eye I just say to myself, "Not today, tomorrow maybe, but not today." and I eat some carrots and hummus. All of your "todays" will add up to months and years. It is much less overwhelming to only have to think of today rather than the next several years.
I've been doing this for almost 5 years and I've kept off 55 lbs. (Still working on the last 30 though.)
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I am there with you. I have not checked in with Spark or even been very strict with my eating (although I have still been keeping to my limit of one soda a day!) for like the last 2-3 weeks. Losing motivation isn't what you want to do, but at some point every one loses their motivation. It is very hard to keep on track, but the good thing is that you can always get back on track. When I lose my motivation, my mother gives me a swift kick in the tookus (metaphorically, she lives 2,000 miles away!) by telling me that she's proud of the progress I have made and that I need to keep it up so I can be around for my daughters lives. Not to mention that she doesn't want to out live me! (LOL). Sometimes we lose sight of the real goal in our daily grind and just need to take a step back for a day or two to get sight of it again.
I am a Mormon, and one of our hymns that the pioneers would sing has the following chorus that is appropriate for ANY journey we take:
"Put your shoulder to the wheel push along. Do your duty with a heart full of song. We all have work, let no one shirk, Put your shoulder to the wheel." ~LDS Hymns, # 252, Will L. Thompson, 1847-1909
"Put your shoulder to the wheel!" And push along and we will meet our goals together!
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I've done that many times. What's done is done. No looking back. Start over again, baby steps. get a little more activity, eat a little bit smaller portions. When you feel like over-eating, brush your teeth then clean a toilet (excellent advice I read in a recent blog), or paint your nails.
Read the message boards and blogs every day, even if you let yourself go. It's all about getting a "spark"! I will be hoping for a better day for you tomorrow.
Stop and take a deep breath. Now, stop and give yourself a HUG.
Now, having said that, you are NOT FAILING - you took a break. You made some less than ideal choices. You are not in a RACE, you are in a marathon and you will live with your choices whether good or bad, healthy or unhealthy. Your choices are what creates the life you are living. You can regain your focus simply by making different choices starting NOW. You can look back over the past week and figure out WHY you made the choices you did and what you could do differently so that you will have better results.
Sometimes this is a trial and error process and you don't get it right the first time or even the twenty-first time. What I have learned is that I am really on the JOURNEY of a lifetime and it started when I was born and will end when I die. I have made so many lousy choices that I am morbidly obese and not so healthy either. Now, I AM making and DO make better choices. I make better choices NOT because I am special or super motivated, but often because I am LAZY. I have learned that a lot of unhealthy choices happen because I am not PREPARED and/or have not planned. Another bunch of the unhealthy choices happened because I tried for a long time to rely on CONTROL AND WILLPOWER when what I really needed to use was strategies and sneakiness.
I have learned that I often make crummy choices when I have junk food in the house and not healthy foods. I also find that when I skip meals, get over-hungry or over-tired I grab whatever is available - now, I try to have lots of healthy food choices in the house, BUT ALSO in the car, in my purse, in my gym bag, in my desk, etc. I also try to have water available ALL the time. I used to drink a LOT of my calories in sodas, juices, and various high sugar beverages (the research shows that the sugar-free stuff is just about as bad). I have learned to bring water with me and to get over the reluctance to PAY for water - realizing that I was paying for soda when I wanted WATER because who would pay for WATER? My thinking had to change and I had to give myself permission to make the healthy choice.
Another place where my thinking REALLY needed a makeover was my definition of SUCCESS. I used to define success by the scale, by whether or not I lost ENOUGH. Now, I define success by what I DO and my actual definition is "Is it BETTER than it used to be?" So when I first started being successful in my lifestyle change, success might be a VERY small step - like eating 11 instead of 12 doughnuts. Now, I have come a long way and success is more often defined when I say "NO THANK YOU" or eat ONE doughnut that I have planned for, fit into my calorie ranges, and tracked. Success used to be that I exercised for 5 minutes instead of zero, now, it is more likely to be "Did I get to the gym 3 times during the work week?"
I am NOT perfect. YOU will not be perfect. Perfection is pretty hard to live with AND to live up to. Improvement is much more realistic, easier to live with and up to, and also easier to maintain. It allows you to take a week when you don't actively track your food or do any formal exercise and NOT consider yourself a FAILURE. It allows you to include treats that you love on a regular basis and to make adjustments, exceptions, and even occasional binges a part of your HEALTHY LIFESTYLE. It allows you to customize your plan to work for YOU. Don't get frustrated or lose focus, PLAN and PREPARE and evaluate what works for YOU and what doesn't and pick the best of those things to start taking baby steps to get where you want to be.
I am losing my focus. It felt like it would be so much easier to just give in and say to heck with struggling with my weight and my food. So for the last 5 days I did just that. I ate anything and everything, didn't check in with spark, and just let go. But today I feel terrible. I hate that I feel like I am failing and not in control. I am realizing that it is just as hard to let go as it is to hang on. So my friends I ask you... how to I keep going and not feel overwhelmed?
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