Like Dianne I believe you can "fake it til you make it"! I used to see only the negative points in myself until I worked on loving myself and doing positive affirmations. It can seem silly and fake at first but once you stick with it it soon becomes second nature to you and you really start to believe it. Now I feel so much better about myself and my body. A good way of improving your outlook and help you feel positive is to practice gratitude daily. Every morning and evening pick five things that you are grateful for.
You can also practice looking in the mirror and saying "I love myself". Say it to yourself throughout the day. You’ll soon believe it! I truly believe that once you love and respect yourself you will take better care of your body. It will become easier to choose the right foods and take more exercise. Practice saying “I am slim, fit and toned” several times a day to attract this into your life. If you are constantly beating yourself up and having negative thoughts about yourself then you will stay stuck. It really is mind over matter. You are what you think you are!
8/16/12 1:50 A
I used to have similar feelings. Negative thoughts about one thing often spills into having negative thoughts about a lot of things. It's a mindset. What worked for me was when a negative thought entered my mind, I stopped what I was doing and made myself turn the negative thought into a positive. Fake it 'til you make it! It's challenging. At first I stopped a lot and had to stand way too long while searching for something positive. Thoughts like, "I look awful" were changed ot "My polished fingernails look great!" "This dress looks awful" to "This dress is the prettiest blue and it looks great next to my skin." You get the idea. I never noticed when I started having positive thoughts most of the time. It really makes me feel better and less stressed.
You have to look at how far you have come in your life other than what you still have to accomplish.. We have so many things around us that actually make us think negatively. With that being said, you just have to try your best and tell yourself that your important.
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8/15/12 4:21 P
Hi, Matt !
This isn't an easy question. Why do people continue to beat themselves up ? I suspect because it has to do with a fear of being successful. We're so used to failing on a regular basis, that we don't know what to do when something good happens. Failure is a comfort. It's something we understand. Being successful ? That's hard. What do I do when someone tells me, "You look great! Have you lost weight?" Many people might think the comment isn't sincere, but IT IS. You reply, "why thank you for noticing, I feel fantastic !"
As the old song goes,"accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". We all have positives, play them up. What are your positives ? Start with those.
Write a blog about the positives in your life. I'll bet you'll be surprized how many there are. I'll bet your daughter could fill a book with all your positives !!
Edited by: ARCHIMEDESII at: 8/15/2012 (16:22)
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8/15/12 4:15 P
I find that it is so natural to say negative stuff about myself, and it it feels so fake when I attempt positive affirmations.
I wonder why it so easy to beat myself down....I work real hard at not doing it around my daughter though, but I still think it.....
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