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3/26/13 9:44 P

Thanks for the replies!

To be honest, my goals are mainly aesthetic ones. I would love to just be more comfortable in my own skin and I believe I need to like what's on the outside first. However, I also want to just be healthier and get myself into shape so that eating healthy and exercise are just part of my lifestyle and are second nature, rather than a chore I have to endure.

I do agree that smaller steps might be a good start for me. I tend to be very all or nothing when I am dieting and I am starting to recognize this as part of the problem. I am going to try to just make healthier choices and be a little more active without focusing on all the numbers right now. I think once I get into the habit of making healthier choices, I can then focus on the specifics; calories, fitness minutes ect.

Edited by: HOTINJERSEY at: 3/26/2013 (21:45)
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3/26/13 12:24 P

In addition to what's already been suggested-- maybe you're trying to change too many things, all at the same time. It's really more beneficial in the long run, to pick maybe 3 small changes at a time and get used to doing those things, before picking a couple more things to change. So you could just focus on say, drink more water, get 5 servings of fruit/ vegetables a day, and get at least 10 minutes of exercise. Then after you've been successful with those for a while, add in something like a little more exercise or eating whole grain bread or skipping the junky snack foods.

This is a lifestyle change and not just a *diet* to lose the weight. Over the years, I did a lot of *diets* and could lose the weight, but eventually I'd go back to my old ways, and gain all the weight (plus usually more) back. Now I'm focused more on making changes that I know I can stick to for the rest of my life. Doesn't mean I'm perfect, or that I never eat pizza or cheeseburgers or ice cream or potato chips. But I started with, no junky snack food, drink more water, and get 10 minutes of exercise. Everything else, I've just built onto that a little at a time.

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3/26/13 12:15 P


There is nothing wrong with you. You're a perfectly normal person. I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.

Perhaps the reason you give up is because you're goals are too ambitious. Don't try to do too much too soon or you will end up frustrated. Remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time. That's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. Change takes time. thus the need to be patient with yourself and your body.

This is why Spark People encourages its members to start with some simple changes first. Set some simple, achievable goals. Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies each day, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. if you're not exercising, don't try to do an hour a day, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.

And that's how we start a healthy lifestyle. We don't start with a diet. We start with a few simple changes, no all or nothing mentality. One small change CAN change your life.

So, let me ask you, what small goals are you willing to do this week ? Will you eat 2-3 servings of veggies each day ? Will you take a daily walk ? Will you drink more water ? Will you take the stairs instead of the escalator ? If so, you've started your journey towards a healthy life.

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3/26/13 11:45 A

I also like to have other goals than loosing weight-it helps me get through to times when I get off track or I gain a bit. I know that I can loose the weight again but it still sucks to see the number climb. In the begining I focused on my skin because I figures if I was eating healthier my skin would look more vibrant (it does). This week I my goal is to begin tracking the mileage I walk. I try to make little goals because I feel like I have accomplished something and it helps knowing that this journey isn't only about weightloss but also about my health.

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3/26/13 11:35 A

What are your goals? If it's merely to lose weight, then that may be why you're failing. You need some goals that are more than aesthetics, because aesthetics aren't usually enough to motivate someone for the long haul. Do you want to become more in shape? Would you like to feel healthier? Would you like to take a more proactive stance in what you put in your body? I think it's important to first ask yourself what motivates you, because maybe you've not discovered what that is, which is why you keep quitting. :) After that, figure out what is making you quit, and seek to avoid it or minimize it in the future.

3/26/13 11:32 A

I am somewhat new to Spark, but I am not new to dieting. I have been struggling with my weight for quite a few years now. I have tried many different weight loss plans including weight watchers, calorie counting, south beach, jenny craig, nutrisystem, ect. While I have seen some success and have lost weight, I have never been able to maintain the loss and I wind up heavier than I was before.

However, lately I have been struggling to even stay on a weight loss plan long enough to lose weight. I will go out and prepare myself for my diet but even though I am prepared I find myself giving up just a day or two into the program. I know I am definitely an emotional eater but I am beginning to wonder if it could be something more serious than that, perhaps a binge eating disorder. Although I am not totally convinced on that. I really do want to lose weight and feel better about myself, but at the same time I am having such a hard time staying on plan. I am starting to feel really discouraged.

Just looking for any suggestions or feedback that could help me out here. Thank you!!

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