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CRAZYICEE SparkPoints: (3,516)
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2/8/13 9:29 A

in my opinion, laziness is a type of negative thinking. like, on the scale of negative (0) and positive (10) its probably be around a 3, because although you arent doubting yourself, you arent positively thinking like, im going to do this because i can and want to and its good for me.

CDCSMITH2013 Posts: 630
2/8/13 6:07 A

To me, unless you end "I don't want to" with "there for I won't" (or something similar), it isn't negative.

GINGERVISTA Posts: 5,866
2/7/13 10:59 P

I don't believe there are too many people who haven't said 'I don't want to.' 'I don't want to exercise today' or 'I don't want to have a healthy meal today; I want _____' or 'I don't want to ......whatever!' The key is to do something healthy anyway. I bought several kinds of lettuce recently, but I haven't felt like a salad. I should know by now that in the winter, salads aren't my favorite things. But I was waiting for my meal, my friend & duplex neighbor said she was having a salad, so I made one for me & it was emoticon
I think if we complete the sentence with something positive, it's a step in the right direction. 'I don't want to exercise today.......but I'll walk 10 minutes.' (& I can probably count on one hand the number of times I stopped at 10 minutes). 'I don't want to have (for instance) fish & broccoli, & rice pilaf &..........' but have ONE healthy thing! I've learned so much in SP, & that is to just do SOMETHING.......just a little bit & eventually you'll want to do more because it feels better (if exercising) or it tastes good/ is satisfying! That salad I fixed tasted SO good that I'll fix myself another one in the next day or two, which is a good thing!

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2/7/13 9:54 P

I believe "I don't want to" is most of the time is healthy way too. In my case I say it is more positive then negative.

REBCCA SparkPoints: (270,803)
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2/7/13 9:32 P

If you are saying "I don't want to" to healthy nutritional choices and "I don't feel like it" to working out situations then I think it would serve you well to question further. "How seriously am I going to commit to my goals?"
Stumbles on the path can take you off to a detour or you can move right back on the trail to where you want to go. It is your choice.
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2/7/13 9:23 P

Depends on what you do with it. When I'm able to overcome my "I don't want to" feelings, I feel like I've conquered something. It's easy to do all the right things some days, but many times it is not. When I'm able to convince myself to do it anyway, it feels like a "win." (And sometimes just the anticipation of that feeling is enough to get me going in itself.)

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2/7/13 6:58 P

This morning it was all about not wanting to do my work out. I pulled it together and did it but I spent some time today thinking about the thoughts that bothered me this morning. It was negative and destructive. I have been ignoring it as I felt it was just being lazy but I think it is more of a piece of the old "you can't do it" me that is trying to make a bid for freedom. I am going to deal with it the same as the other negative nelly thoughts that get me down and be my own greatest cheerleader!!

Thank you for your thoughts and helping me work this out. No more I don't want to for me!! I may not feel like but I DO WANT IT :)

NEWRUNNER2 Posts: 542
2/7/13 2:19 P

I suppose, as others have said, it could be negative thinking.

On the other hand, if you're saying "I don't want to"...

instead of "I can't"...

then maybe it's not all that negative.

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2/7/13 2:19 P

DON'T or do not.

We use it because we have taken a moment to actually think about what we are about to do, which is a good thing because we are actually thinking.

It appears to be mostly used negativity by stopping ourselves doing something that we know is good for us or needs to be done.

Even when you want to put a positive spin on something, try to avoid the word. Instead of saying I don't want to gain any more weight, say I want to continue to be healthier and it would be great if some weight came off at the same time.

I think we may see better results if we reach for the positive rather than focus on what we don't want to do or see.

Now, I just need to start practicing that myself....

Matt


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2/7/13 1:46 P

I think it is a type of negative thinking, in that you need to know how to react to it. Some days, I'm really tired and don't want to get out of bed to go work out. But I do it anyway. I set up schedules and reward systems and I push through. There used to be many days when I have let "I don't want to" result in me not working out for 3 months. In that capacity it is definitely negative thinking! I had to learn how to overcome that.

DIDS70 Posts: 5,100
2/7/13 1:06 P

Maybe. What is it you don't want to do? And then the burning question WHY? If the why is that you are just making excuses, then yes to your question.

LILLIPUTIANNA Posts: 1,038
2/7/13 10:42 A

Well, I suppose that would depend on the situation.

If you say, "I don't want to eat within my calorie range today," or, "I don't want to ever exercise again," then...yes...you're being stubborn and kind of negative.

HOWEVER, if you are saying something like, "I don't want to set myself on fire," that's just plain common sense.

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Seriously though, if you are saying you don't want to exercise because your ankle hurts or you don't want to eat any more kale this week, that's fine. Just stop and ask yourself WHY you don't want to do something.

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2/7/13 9:19 A

I think I have a really good handle on the negative thinking that has been plaguing me. The "well you blew it already so go for it" thinking. The "you'll never get there so don't bother trying" garbage that haunted me in the past.

But what about the "I don't want to" or "I don't feel like it" thinking? Is that the same kind of destructive negative thinking or is it simply being lazy? Should it be handled they same gentle way I use for negative thoughts treating myself as I would my best friend or is it a "Put your big girl panties on(thank you Griz1girl) and just DO IT!!

How do you handle the I don't want to's??

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