While she calls it "discipline," I call it strength. We all have personal strength. It's like an invisible muscle. The more you use it, the bigger and more powerful it becomes. So as you make yourself do things that you don't want to do (that discipline Kara was talking about), it makes you stronger. Over time, things that used to really be a pain, things that you were completely unmotivated to do, become easier.
That being said, you do have motivation. Motivation is just a reason for action. Your reason for action is that you want to be healthy and lose weight. There you go! THAT'S your motivation. Now work on your discipline and personal strength, and you can make that desire a reality.
One of the best things for stress is knowing you have the power to make things happen. Personal efficacy is what's it's called. People who lack personal efficacy have WAY more stress than people who have efficacy.
(For the record, yesterday I was feeling very little motivation, discipline, or personal strength. I would have thrown in the towel...BUT I pushed through it. Today I am rededicated. I see the lack of desire yesterday as being a new workout for my personal strength.)
I don't believe you can rely on motivation. Motivation is just a feeling; sometimes you'll FEEL that you want to make changes, eat right, resist temptation, exercise, and sometimes you'll FEEL that you want to lie on the sofa and watch TV with a bag of Doritos. What you need is to learn discipline. That takes time. I learned it over a process that took a while, but the first step was in managing two things: my environment and my scheduled.
You're stressed out and don't want to think about day-to-day choices, so make them in advance and plan out your day/week at one time. That will take the thought out of it, and you won't need to make difficult choices about what to eat on the fly. Also, don't make your trigger foods easily accessible. If you don't have the Doritos in the pantry, it will be harder to eat a bag of Doritos. Also, looking at your schedule, plan out your exercise in advance for the days and times that you'll be most successful. Don't wait until you feel like doing it. Schedule it, and just do it. Keep practicing this, and it will become a habit over time.
Motivation will get you to the start line; discipline will get you to the finish.
Starting Weight: 264 (didn't get there overnight) Current Weight 129.4 (didn't get here overnight)
Fitness Minutes: (1,209)
3/19/13 10:34 A
Hey all, I was just wondering if anyone had some tips or thoughts of motivation for me today. I had been doing great, excellent progress but as I this weekend , I fell hard. The stress in my life is just getting at me and my mind is telling me to quit because its one less thing I have to stress about. Please help, I know I can't quit, but I sure am tired!
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