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1/1/13 5:44 P

Sounds familiar. I grew up with four brothers, two older than me and two younger. I'm their only sister and the only conversation EVER was about cars, cars, and more cars. My father encouraged them and my mother "played" a deaf ear and just smiled all the time. Being first generation American, my Italian parents favored my brothers - they could do no wrong. My mother and I had nothing in common and talking with her was like talking to my pets. She just smiled and nodded her head a lot, so naturally I was on my own to develop my own hobbies. I read a lot, and drew and painted. Thank goodness my brothers and I loved one another and got along great. They showed interests in my creativity, which forty years later I still keep up with. That old saying, "you can pick your friends but you can't pick your family" is so true. So out of respect for your sibling, just smile, nod your head, and walk out of the room. This will avoid problems. Katie

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1/1/13 5:32 P

sometimes family can be annoying. After all they are family. Just nod and listen half heartedly with a pasted smile. lol.

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1/1/13 5:28 P

my advice is to actually arm yourself.....this may sound strange but read up on football and in particular manchester so u can actually have general conversations on something he is interested in. Agree with what he says about football and add some positive suggestions about the subject. this way he will start to feel he has a friend with similiar interests which will start to defuse his aggressive behaviour. He is the youngest and he wants to be heard. if he starts feeling that his opinions are being heard then the aggressiveness will eventually dissolve.
I have a younger brother and my mother suggested this to me years ago which i followed through my brother and i get on well with both of us taking an interests in each others different interests.

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1/1/13 4:54 P

I, myself, also have an irritating brother....

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1/1/13 4:23 P

What's his age? Yes...unfortunately there are some parents who do favor their sons. Do you have any earplugs to tune him out?

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1/1/13 2:21 A

Yes, he's my only brother (no sisters) but I'm finding him very hard to live with. Not only that, my parents will always take his side because he's younger and the only son!

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1/1/13 2:10 A

Hopefully, you only have one brother! I have three! Count your blessings! LOL He will
mature at some point.

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1/1/13 2:05 A

I honestly don't know what to do with my brother. He turns everything into an argument. It's like he's got this core of anger within him and he's taking it out on me, or more accurately, the family, particularly me.

Not only that, he's a Manchester United fan and that's all he ever talks about. I find that very annoying because I'm not a football fan and I have to endure his football talk all the time. He doesn't even care that I can't relate or say anything in reply, he just loves to force his football talk down my throat!

I have my own interests and hobbies but I don't force them down his throat!

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