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LENEWF
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2/9/12 6:27 P

Hi Kristin,

Being the "fat one" sucks, there is no amount of sugar coating around it. I hear ya.
You seem really focused. No one here is trying to deter you from being able to "blend in" in the wedding pictures.

Some good things: You have a dress that fits well and looks great for D-Day
If you lose weight you will feel so much better about yourself on that day whether or not it is 50lbs exactly. Why not set a smaller poundage goal for a couple months from now? That will help you stay on track.

Jillian



KRISTINL88
Posts: 44
2/9/12 6:13 P

Well I'm definitely doing it for myself. I'm just tired of being the "fat one" in all of the pictures. My friends don't care how I look, they love me for me.
Buying the dress now is a good idea. That way no matter what I lose, I'll get to take the dress in some, and it will feel good doing it. Thanks!



LENEWF
SparkPoints: (3,257)
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2/9/12 5:42 P

Have you ever heard of SMART goals? I believe sparkpeople covers this somewhere. But for review:
Goals should be

Specific
Measurable
Attainable
Realistic
Time Sensitive.
Self-directed****


You have the SMT all figured out. As Archimedes said, yes 50lbs in 6 months is ATTAINABLE, by potentially questionable measures. For us sparkers, it may not be REALISTIC for long term weight loss. I honestly think there should be another letter added on S for Self-directed. Your goals should be for YOU and no one else.

That being said, if you read my sparkpage I talk about being the fat cousin in family photos. So I don't want to sound like a hypocrite here either. The pictures from my cousin's wedding mortified me. I am the tallest, the broadest, and even with an extreme weight loss I don't think I would ever be that lean without looking sickly thin.

To get my mind off the scale: I tried on a bunch of clothes that didn't fit (this part isn't so fun)

Then I organized it into 3 categories:

1. Does up but so tight I wouldn't walk out the door
2. Doesn't quite do up
3. Did I ever fit into this?

As I lose inches I get a new reward every couple weeks of "new" clothes. This is a great self-esteem boost and keeps me motivated along the way. The number 3 dress & jeans stays in the back of the closet until I can wear the rest so I don't get disheartened.

Have you purchased your bridesmaids dress yet?

All dresses usually need to be altered anyways, buy a dress that fits you when you order it, then when you have to take it in a bunch of inches, keep the scraps as a souvenir! That way you are guaranteed a well-fitting dress on D-Day and can make cheer pom poms out of the scraps.

Goodluck!




LENEWF
SparkPoints: (3,257)
Fitness Minutes: (2,294)
Posts: 124
2/9/12 5:41 P

Have you ever heard of SMART goals? I believe sparkpeople covers this somewhere. But for review:
Goals should be

Specific
Measurable
Attainable
Realistic
Time Sensitive.
Self-directed****


You have the SMT all figured out. As Archimedes said, yes 50lbs in 6 months is ATTAINABLE, by potentially questionable measures. For us sparkers, it may not be REALISTIC for long term weight loss. I honestly think there should be another letter added on S for Self-directed. Your goals should be for YOU and no one else.

That being said, if you read my sparkpage I talk about being the fat cousin in family photos. So I don't want to sound like a hypocrite here either. The pictures from my cousin's wedding mortified me. I am the tallest, the broadest, and even with an extreme weight loss I don't think I would ever be that lean without looking sickly thin.

To get my mind off the scale: I tried on a bunch of clothes that didn't fit (this part isn't so fun)

Then I organized it into 3 categories:

1. Does up but so tight I wouldn't walk out the door
2. Doesn't quite do up
3. Did I ever fit into this?

As I lose inches I get a new reward every couple weeks of "new" clothes. This is a great self-esteem boost and keeps me motivated along the way. The number 3 dress & jeans stays in the back of the closet until I can wear the rest so I don't get disheartened.

Have you purchased your bridesmaids dress yet?

All dresses usually need to be altered anyways, buy a dress that fits you when you order it, then when you have to take it in a bunch of inches, keep the scraps as a souvenir! That way you are guaranteed a well-fitting dress on D-Day and can make cheer pom poms out of the scraps.

Goodluck!




LENEWF
SparkPoints: (3,257)
Fitness Minutes: (2,294)
Posts: 124
2/9/12 5:41 P

Have you ever heard of SMART goals? I believe sparkpeople covers this somewhere. But for review:
Goals should be

Specific
Measurable
Attainable
Realistic
Time Sensitive.
Self-directed****


You have the SMT all figured out. As Archimedes said, yes 50lbs in 6 months is ATTAINABLE, by potentially questionable measures. For us sparkers, it may not be REALISTIC for long term weight loss. I honestly think there should be another letter added on S for Self-directed. Your goals should be for YOU and no one else.

That being said, if you read my sparkpage I talk about being the fat cousin in family photos. So I don't want to sound like a hypocrite here either. The pictures from my cousin's wedding mortified me. I am the tallest, the broadest, and even with an extreme weight loss I don't think I would ever be that lean without looking sickly thin.

To get my mind off the scale: I tried on a bunch of clothes that didn't fit (this part isn't so fun)

Then I organized it into 3 categories:

1. Does up but so tight I wouldn't walk out the door
2. Doesn't quite do up
3. Did I ever fit into this?

As I lose inches I get a new reward every couple weeks of "new" clothes. This is a great self-esteem boost and keeps me motivated along the way. The number 3 dress & jeans stays in the back of the closet until I can wear the rest so I don't get disheartened.

Have you purchased your bridesmaids dress yet?

All dresses usually need to be altered anyways, buy a dress that fits you when you order it, then when you have to take it in a bunch of inches, keep the scraps as a souvenir! That way you are guaranteed a well-fitting dress on D-Day and can make cheer pom poms out of the scraps.

Goodluck!




REDSHOES2011
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Posts: 7,159
2/9/12 12:55 P

I agree with Coachsean on this one- work quietly at it and keep working on the rest later.. Special days come and go- and this is a "for" lifestyle change if you want long haul results..



COACHSEAN
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Posts: 37
2/9/12 12:01 P

Can you lose 50 pounds by August? Maybe but the better question would be should you lose 50 pounds by August?

If the bride didn't want you there the way you are now she wouldn't have asked you. Follow the program that has been suggested for you. Obsessively working out gets old fast. I know that from experience. If you get tired and bored you'll lose the motivation to keep going.

If you lose 30 even 20 pounds safely they will be more likely to stay off for the long haul. You can always keep working and lose the rest later.





KRISTINL88
Posts: 44
2/9/12 11:50 A

Thanks! This is definitely something where I'm trying to change my entire lifestyle, I just now have a goal time do do it by.
In the past I've started trying and then just gotten busy with classes, work, etc., and given up. Then I found this program and it seems easy enough. I'm not having a hard time meeting goals (the only real issue I have is finding time to make sure I meet the minimum calories burned).
Maybe I'll just change my goal to 5 pounds at a time. Something that I'm sure to meet so I don't get discouraged.



ARCHIMEDESII
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Posts: 20,172
2/9/12 11:43 A

Losing 50 pounds is not impossible, but it is ambitious. If you wanted to do it, it would mean no slip ups. You'd have to be pretty strict with your exercise and eating habits. That's not something most people would want to do. It's not practical either. There are going to be many different legitimate reasons you might not lose 50 pounds.

Instead of setting a specific goal of how much you want to lose, why not see what your body will let you lose. If you don't lose 50 and you lose 40 would you beat yourself up ? You shouldn't.

Here's the thing, there are plenty of unhealthy ways to lose 50 pounds by August. But, you have to ask yourself if damaging your long term health is worth the short term satisfaction ? Because what happens after you've lost the 50 ? Do you go back to your original habits ? If you do, you can expect the weight to creep back on.

My advice is to lose weight in a healthy manner between now and the wedding. Let your body lose on its own terms. Don't try to force it on a schedule. You will be frustrated if you do. If you lose 40 safely between now and then, that will be a fantastic accomplishment.

Remember, diets don't work. If you want to take the weight off and keep it off, this has to be a lifestyle change. And when it comes to weight loss, what matters most is what we eat. Good nutrition is what takes the weight off and keeps it off. Exercise is what keeps our bodies fit and healthy. In short, if you're not eating right, the weight won't come off. You may get fitter faster with the extra exercise, but it won't speed up your weight loss.

Start with simple changes you can stick with. Be patient with yourself and your body.

It's better to go to the wedding with a couple extra pounds and the glow of good health than looking drawn and gaunt.





KRISTINL88
Posts: 44
2/9/12 11:34 A

I'm in a wedding in August and I really am trying to lose 50 pounds so I don't feel uncomfortable and fat standing there with her other skinny bridesmaids.
Is this is even a plausible goal?
I've been working out a full hour (about 3 times the goal calories burned) on workout days and half an hour on the break days and doing an arm, core, and leg strength training workout at home. I've made sure to at least hit the minimum amount of goal calories (a few times I've been below), and I've been trying to drink at least a gallon of water a day.
At this rate, is my goal even something that's possible, or should I maybe lower my expectations for that short an amount of time?



 
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