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FIELDWORKING SparkPoints: (29,946)
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3/13/13 6:30 P

I let myself have something sweet at least once a week...maybe a couple of times a week. It's in small portions. I just make sure that I include it in my calorie count. I love eclairs and Boston Creme doughnuts. I let myself have one once a month (either the eclair or Boston Cream). I also drink one of the 7 ounce cokes/day. Sometimes I don't even finish it. When I've talked with my doctor about the sweets, she said that it's ok because it helps to stay on track and not fall off the healthier way of eating. It works for me to give myself a treat. I'm not that into sweets, like cookies, cakes, ice cream, etc. But I do get a craving for a little bit and it's nice to have a little something. If it is super sweet (sugary), I don't like it, but I do have a sweet tooth. Then again, it's not as big of a sweet tooth when compared to some of my friends.

I have lost ~26 lbs. since January 2011.

3/13/13 3:05 P

"They said that there's no way someone can have any sweets if they want to lose weight."

I eat a sweet every week, and I am still losing weight steadily--I've gone well beyond your 15-lb marker.

"I know that's not true--there's tracking, portion control, and smart choice."

You are so right. I make my own treats because nothing I buy tastes as good as the things I bake. So I make sure that whatever I cook up is SUPER yummy, and then I enjoy every single bite I have.

But I do pre-plan my portion size to fit within my range.

"What do you have, and how often?"

As I said, I make my own and I have them weekly. I bake everything from peanut butter blondies to chocolate cake with apricot coffee ganache to coconut cake to oatmeal chocolate chip cookies, to blueberry crumble and strawberry pie.

My best trick is that the day after I prepare and have my treat, the rest goes to the hospice where I volunteer. The admin staff and nurses look forward to whatever new thing I've come up with each week, so it's a win-win.

Don't let these folks get you down. ANYTHING is okay as long as you take responsibility for the consequences of your choices.

Best of luck to you!

LUCKYNUMBER23 SparkPoints: (12,425)
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3/13/13 1:25 P

You have to have treats. If you don't, you will feel deprived.

MELSILVIS SparkPoints: (848)
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3/13/13 1:18 P

I very rarely eat dessert, simply because I do not crave sweet things anymore now that I've given them up for so long (although I did just get my daughter's Easter things and snuck a few jelly beans hehe). I think the most "dessert-like" thing I eat is greek yogurt. but yes, if you are tracking your food, there is no reason to deprive yourself as long as you know what your goals are and stick to them! So annoying when people try and tell you what you can and cannot eat just because you're trying to lose weight. It's like "Back off, I got this!!" emoticon

WHOLENEWME79 Posts: 950
3/13/13 12:47 P

I've lost 50lbs and I still have treats, pretty frequently. I have (as I am sure many here have) done the "eliminate a food entirely" route and eventually caved under the pressure. Some people have to do that. But most of us need to be able to have a treat once in a while- Be it a cookie, candy bar, burrito from Qdoba, or macaroni & cheese.

You are doing great at moderation. Keep up the good work!

SPOORK Posts: 1,193
3/13/13 12:17 P

I have lost over 15 pounds and maintained it for over a year. I eat chocolate almost everyday and cookies or pastries weekly or biweekly.

MUSIC2HISEARS SparkPoints: (83,720)
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3/13/13 11:46 A

I've lost 24 lbs, 12 of this year and I have a sweet treat every now and then. It's all about moderation. If I have a treat, it is usually a Skinny Cow treat and they are quite satisfying. My diet isn't a diet, it is a lifestyle change and I don't plan on depriving myself in the name of a diet. If having a sweet treat wasn't in the plan, then why would Weight Watchers make sweet treats that you can find in the freezer section?

ELENGIL Posts: 957
3/13/13 11:35 A

I'd say this illustrates the sad state of our knowledge of nutrition in this country. The fact that 'diets' and 'self denial' have become so mainstream that proper nutrition, balances, and good practices of self control are seen as extreme!

We desperately need the right information getting out to the public. Too many fad diets promising to make us thin if we drink their shakes, don't eat carbs, don't eat fat, don't eat sugar, only eat foods beginning with vowels... too much emphasis placed on the 'dieting' mentality of deny yourself and you'll finally be happy.


JENNILACEY SparkPoints: (81,972)
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3/13/13 9:30 A


Well, they're wrong... I eat sweets quite often, chocolate chips on my oatmeal, flavoured Greek yogurts, chocolate puddings, chocolate mousse, mini chocolate bars, cake biweekly at my inlaws, homemade baked goods, granola/cereals with added sugar occasionally, honey on natural peanut butter toast with fruit. Of course I try to limit my servings but I usually include a small sweet treat every day. I have a sweet tooth and I would literally go insane and would have given up months ago if I tried to cut it out of my diet. I want to enjoy life and part of enjoy life to me is having my cake and eating it too. I've just learned to modify, limit serving sizes and fit it into an 80-90% daily healthy diet.

I currently have 4 servings of 50 cal chocolate mousse in my fridge that I'm going to have as an after dinner dessert with sliced banana the next 4 days. I also plan on trying some reduced fat graham crackers with low fat cream cheese and berries on top in place of cheese cake. So I do modify my treats. I modify my baked goods to include lots of healthy goodies, high fibre, protein, healthy fats and reduced or no added sugar. I use both plain and vanilla flavoured Greek yogurt and usually have it with 1/4 serving of chocolate protein powder (trace sugar), fresh fruit and 1/2 serving of granola (full serving = 9g of sugar, so a little over 4g of sugar). I usually only use 1/4 - 1/3 cup of vanilla Greek yogurt but it makes an awesome chocolately dessert with plenty of protein, whole grains and fresh fruit... better than ice cream, imo.

I've lost 55 lbs in 8 months.

Edited by: JENNILACEY at: 3/13/2013 (09:43)
RENATARUNS SparkPoints: (4,367)
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3/13/13 9:22 A

I've lost almost 25 (SP doesn't have all of it, I only joined a couple of weeks ago). As a rule I avoid sweets, but this is more a personal thing than something I believe is strictly necessary. I just want to be someone who eats sweets only rarely, on special occasions. I've seen plenty of people here who even incorporate small amounts of sweets into their daily routine, every day.

However, I firmly believe in the "nothing is forbidden, everything in moderation" mantra. It's just the definition of moderation that is going to vary from person to person. Personally, since I started this, I have had apple and pumpkin pie at Christmas and birthday cake twice. I've nibbled (really nibbled, not "nibbled") at the leftover pie I made, at cookie batter when I was baking for my son, and so on. I've had a few sweet fruit/nut bars and some of my mother's "healthy" pumpkin bread. And I get a little taste of intense sweet every day from the fruit in the bottom of my cup of yogurt.

Everyone's going to be different in how they want to eat and how their body and mind will react, but when it comes down to it, the overriding factor is and will always remain simply eating fewer calories than your body is burning, and if you want to work a biscotti into those calories, all the more power to you.

DRAGONCHILDE SparkPoints: (61,313)
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3/13/13 8:30 A

Look at my ticker.

I have eaten pizza, cookies, even cake. I eat in moderation, count every morsel, and enjoy myself. I deny myself nothing. I just don't gorge on it!

Your friend is quite wrong. :) You don't need to avoid sweets to lose weight, just make sure that your diet is 80% healthy and balanced, and you're hitting that minimum before reaching for treats and desserts.

Edited by: DRAGONCHILDE at: 3/13/2013 (08:31)
CMCOLE Posts: 2,667
3/13/13 8:21 A

I may not have a baked item daily, but I have desserts.
I've lost more than 15 lbs, as well.

I've learned how to make things that are full of healthier options if I wish to have a "sweet".
I freeze them, and take one out when I want it.
It is incorporated into my daily menu.

I have found, in the past, when following restrictive 'diets' that the very thing you are telling yourself you cannot have is the thing you obsess over, and want the most.

Incorporating good choices, or even not so good ones into your menu is a healthier attitude.

I will often have something like a baked apple (or even a fresh one) instead of cookies, etc., for a dessert/evening snack

CLARK971 SparkPoints: (29,686)
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3/13/13 8:18 A

MISSRUTH is right...a biscotti sounds good. i may pick some up to have a little treat with my coffee this weekend. emoticon

CBLENS SparkPoints: (47,498)
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3/13/13 8:12 A

I am over 15 lbs and yes i do eat sweets in small moderation, incorporating it into my daily diet plan. I like skinny cow ice cream sandwiches.

MISSRUTH Posts: 4,260
3/13/13 8:10 A

Yes I've lost over 15 pounds and yes I occasionally eat sweets (candy, cookies, cake, pie, ice cream). But I exercise portion control and make sure it fits into my meal plan for the day. I think "diets" that include a list of foods to "NEVER" eat, are a recipe for disaster. That's what I like most about SparkPeople; no food is off limits. We can have anything we want, in moderation. Just knowing I could eat it-- guilt free-- is often just enough, that I don't feel like I need it.

I do not eat a sweet dessert every day; most often, there is no dessert at all or I may eat an apple or some other fruit a little while later. But I also was not raised with dessert every day so it's not something I automatically look for anyway.

Frankly when I read what you wrote about your biscotti-- 100 calories etc etc-- my first thought was, wow that sounds great, I wonder what brand/kind it is so I can get some!

JENZEN2013 Posts: 10
3/13/13 7:41 A

I have lost 40 lbs and the one thing that helps me stay motivated is my 110 cal coffee frappe light from starbucks. I may only have it 2x a week but its a nice treat. I don't think the biscotti is a problem. If you cut out all treats then you may think you are being deprived and make a bad choice and screw up all the good choices. Enjoy that biscotti!

CLARK971 SparkPoints: (29,686)
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3/13/13 7:25 A

from 158 to 132. maintained since last june. i eat some sweets. (my downfall is cereal-not "healthy" ones-i like things like frosted flakes i would pick that over most desserts). i just track everything. i still eat egg yolks, bacon and white bread. i had a friend say that i shouldn't eat any of those things. i am not saying that those are the best choices for everyone, but they work for me. i had to have a plan i could stick with long term.

i had a few girl scout cookies the other day. (they weren't as good as i remembered)

what i like about sparks it is about making lifestyle changes.

if you like the cookie, and it fits into your plan, i don't see how that would stop you from reaching your goals. i gained weight by eating too many calories.

Edited by: CLARK971 at: 3/13/2013 (07:26)
3/13/13 6:46 A

The important thing is to maintain control or you will be back. I went from 197 to 143 to 182 and now I'm working my way down again. When I lost weight the first time I ate whatever I wanted as long as it was within my calorie range. My problem was stress caused everything to blow up and I turned to food and I stopped exercising.

With that being said. One of my favorite ways to squeeze in something sweet is one of those 90 calorie fiber one brownies.

VIKINGSMOMDE SparkPoints: (29,537)
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3/13/13 6:08 A

I don't diet - I just eat smarter than I did before.

Down 23 lbs since November.

My tracker has plenty of sweets! Chocolate cake, key lime pie, cream puffs, gingerbread, and more. I had a jumbo chocolate chip cookie at a basketball game last night -- but instead of gobbling the whole thing down like I would have in the past, I ate 1/4 & shared the rest with my kids.

Portion control and honest (!) tracking have been the key to managing those sweet moments.

I also have a glass of wine or beer at least a few nights a week.

BTW, my sister also believes that you have to eliminate sweets to lose weight - she thinks I lie about eating them lol.

BUBBLEJ1 Posts: 2,981
3/13/13 5:55 A

What nonsense. I lost my weight (45lb) while eating something for dessert every night. It was usually just a mini chocolate bar or 2, but I always had something. I don't do sugar free this or that, I prefer to have a small portion of the real deal :D

DANCEMOM1970 SparkPoints: (44,190)
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3/12/13 11:54 P

If you factor in the 20 lbs I lost before joining SP (worked only on adding exercise to my life first), I've lost 68 lbs. Yes, I factor in treats almost every day, but I make sure it fits into my food plan. I am doing this for the rest of my life...not just a limited time diet and I know that deprivation isn't good for me.

SIMPLELIFE2 Posts: 707
3/12/13 11:36 P

I avoid processed sugar treats because it sets off intense cravings so I know I have to stay away from them. But that's just me. I know other people can do it. I don't keep anything in the house and will have something special every once in awhile, like birthday cake or dessert at a restaurant.

Although you can do it every day, it's hard not to at the expense of other important nutrients your body needs. I personally don't believe a calorie is a calorie and if you skimp on micro and macro nutrients, it throws your body out of balance.

ONLINEASLLOU SparkPoints: (73,365)
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3/12/13 11:20 P

I am almost at the 50 pound mark ... and I eat a low-to-moderate amount of carbohydrates both for weight management and also to manage my blood glucoses.

I eat sweets every day. I love desserts. So I "budget" them into my plan. What I give up are the other carbs that don't have as much flavor -- bread, rice, potatoes, pasta, noodles, etc. That leaves room in my "carb budget" for a few treats on a regular basis.

NANLEYKW SparkPoints: (76,244)
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3/12/13 10:39 P

I've lost 63 lbs. (and am still losing--about 7 more to go to hit my goal), and I eat sweets pretty much whenever I feel like it (and I'll be honest--with Cadbury Creme Eggs on the shelves right now, that's been every day for the last couple of weeks). I just make sure they fit into my calorie range for the day, and I am mindful about it--for example, I have one cookie, not five. :) I make mostly healthy choices the rest of the time, but I know that for me, if I don't allow myself anything sweet, I'll end up overindulging.

3/12/13 10:27 P

The last sweet I had was a big chocolate chip cookie about 2 weeks ago. But only because I don't crave sweets very often. I have a big basket full of candy bars that I could eat from at any time. (I used to coupon so all the candy was free or close to it.) I think knowing the sweets are there for the taking is part of what keeps me from wanting to gorge on them all the time. If I made them off limits, I wouldn't be able to think of anything else!

While its true that never eating any sweets will contribute to weight loss, its the people who learn to enjoy them in moderation who will keep the weight off. People who deprive themselves of foods they love are more likely to binge and regain after they reach their goal weight.

SUNSHINE20001 Posts: 638
3/12/13 10:14 P

I've lost 26 so far and do use a combination of eating and exercising. I myself don't really eat sweets or desserts myself; not because I feel they aren't "allowed" or anything like that. I just have never really had dessert to often when I was younger, so I don't feel that need now. I personally feel anything is fine in moderation and no foods should be banned or not allowed. You just set yourself up for failure and binge eating if you cut out some foods all together. emoticon

BUNNYKICKS Posts: 2,433
3/12/13 10:00 P

I have lost 22 pounds (245 to 223 since the beginning of the year). I do no formal exercise, I just watch my calorie and nutrient ranges (and I do eat "healthy" - almost no junk/restaurant/processed foods).

And almost every day I allot 100-200 calories to a "snack" which is most often a biscotti-type cookie or a home-made cookie. Some days I have cheese (but only an ounce). Some days I have wine (but only 3 ounces).Feel free to look at my nutrition tracker if you wish :)

I was sad when my biscotti stash ran dry (haven't gone to buy more just yet) as i found them to be a VERY satisfying indulgence. So crunchy, takes a while to nibble through one alongside a cup of tea. Sweet, but not too sweet. On the low-cal/low-fat side for a "treat."

You can't cut out EVERYTHING or it just feels too much like deprivation/punishment and (for me anyways) would lead me to abandon the whole venture. Eat as you could envision yourself eating "for the rest of your life," and watch your portion sizes. Look, if a biscotti a day leaves you feeling satisfied and like "you weren't even on a diet" then i say, good job biscotti :) Crunch on!

KRISTEN_SAYS SparkPoints: (81,431)
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3/12/13 9:51 P

I've lost 50 pounds and have maintained my weight for almost a year. (Actually, I'm in much better shape now than I was when I reached my weight loss goal). And my diet is FARRR from perfect. I'll have chocolate or cookies or ice cream every now and then. In fact, there are girl scout cookies in the cabinet and Ben and Jerry's in the freezer. As long as you don't go crazy, there is nothing wrong with a sweet treat. Just have one serving and track it.

I also make healthy alternatives, which helps me with my sweet tooth.

Edited by: KRISTEN_SAYS at: 3/12/2013 (21:54)
3/12/13 9:48 P

I've really cut down on baked goods like cookies and cake, but once in awhile I have some. I eat fresh fruit for a sugar fix, but I also have one small serving of dark chocolate once in awhile, or one Fiber One Brownie, which are only 90 calories and have some fiber. There's nothing wrong with a little bit of biscotti once in awhile. In fact, of the desserts you could eat, one piece of biscotti is probably pretty mild. I've lost about 100 pounds and desserts are NOT a sin. Moderation in all things.

DGRIFFIN782 Posts: 20
3/12/13 8:30 P

I have lost 32 pounds and I have dessert every day, I added it as an extra meal in my planner. It's usually just a couple of chocolate mints, 30 cal each. But today I had a brownie! I plan to keep logging my calories the rest of my life. But I do exercise twice a day, a hard workout early and something easy like dance or stationery bike after that dessert!

JEANNINEW1 Posts: 548
3/12/13 7:53 P

I use whipped yogurts or fruit yogurt as a desert some are very good and curbs the sweet tooth. Ginger snaps fig newtons or some sugar free cookies. I have one or 2 tops only when I am within my allotted calories for the day.

Edited by: JEANNINEW1 at: 3/12/2013 (19:54)
ANCELA1 Posts: 16
3/12/13 7:48 P

One of my family members and I got into an argument about sweets because I was having a biscotti after dinner (100 cal, 3.5 g fat). They said that there's no way someone can have any sweets if they want to lose weight. I know that's not true--there's tracking, portion control, and smart choices.

But I want to know--if you've been losing weight, esp. 15 lbs or more, what works for you when it comes to "dessert"? Do you eat something sweet each day, or rarely? What do you have, and how often? emoticon

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