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Have you talked w/ him about this, and he says he wants a relationship? As long as he does, and is committed to an exclusive relationship w/ you, then if you feel like you do for him, give him time.
2 months is not a long time, nor is 4 years if he was really emotionally impacted by the ex's betrayal. It may be hard, but give him a few more months as long as he is doing everything else that shows he wants a commitment.
Now, if he just mouths the words but does everything else other than a commitment to you, then the warning sign should go up that he is not serious about anything more than a "sure thing", but the way you describe him he doesn't sound like that.
Do any of you guys consider yourself 'emotionally unavailable'? I've known my BF for about 8 months and we started off kind of slow but had alot of ups and downs along the way. He was fairly attentive and affectionate towards me, that is until we decided to try an actual 'relationship'. As soon as we put the label on it (just 2 months ago), he almost completely shut down emotionally. Affection-gone! He is 43 and was married for 20 years and it ended with her having more than one affair so needless to say he was devastated. That was almost 4 years ago. He says he wants a relationship but its scary for him. My question for you guys is, what is the best way to deal with this? How can I get him to open up to me? I do love him and don't want to leave but at the same time, what about my needs?
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