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ALEKSANDRA
Posts: 15
7/7/13 2:37 P

Thank you very much! You are kind emoticon Today i feel so much better. I guess yesterday was just one of those days emoticon



HEALTHYFOREVER4
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7/6/13 10:02 P

Try not to compare your body to your sister's, or anyone else's. We are all unique.

Also, not eating the entire day tomorrow won't do you any good. When we don't eat, our bodies go into "starvation" mode, and our metabolisms slow down, causing our bodies to hold onto fat. Please, choosing not to eat is the step towards an eating disorder. You are beautiful, and there is no need to starve yourself. Eat regular meals, and exercise. The exercise may help you to be hungry again.



ALEKSANDRA
Posts: 15
7/6/13 5:17 P

Yes, yes,i know that,but my older sister is the same height and she weighs 45 kg and she is totally healthy and i want that too. Hmmm, def i will not eat tomorrow for the entire day...



WILLOWYGIRL
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7/6/13 5:06 P

Keep in mind that you are still developing. Your body is going to change over time, regardless of weight. Its just natural.

If you are maintaining 49kgs and not gaining anymore then I would probably just go to the gym and stay fit.

Also, 45kg would put you at 18.7 which is at the limit of your BMI (close to underweight which can lead to health issues)

You should go to the doctor about the hunger. Next time you have a check up, ask about that. You should be getting hungry if you aren't eating. If you aren't getting hungry you need to find out why.

Edited by: WILLOWYGIRL at: 7/6/2013 (17:08)


ALEKSANDRA
Posts: 15
7/6/13 5:03 P

Well, i have always been 45 kg and now i am 49 kg. That upset me so much. Now i maintain that weight but i want to have 45 kg again! Maybe i should go to the doctor, but i'm pretty scared. I think i would easily lose that weight if only i knew how to convince my grandmother that i don't want to eat when i'm not hungry.



ALEKSANDRA
Posts: 15
7/6/13 4:53 P

I eat because i'm never hungry and feel that i need to eat something because if i tell my family that i am never hungry and don't want to eat,they ask me what is wrong with me and they don't really understand me. No, i don't snack throughout the day. I only eat regular meals and small portions.



WILLOWYGIRL
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7/6/13 4:47 P

Also reading your immediate previous post, if you just aren't getting hungry or you arent eating anything all day because of your worry about getting fat, I might go talk to the doctor. You might be heading to an eating disorder, or your complete lack of hunger could be a symptom of something else.

Have you gained weight and that is why you are so worried? Or have your eating habits changed? I think maybe you could relax a little bit since you are already on the low end of the bmi.



WILLOWYGIRL
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7/6/13 4:43 P

You have a bmi of 20.4, which is perfect (a healthy bmi is between 18.5 and 25). If you cannot move out or buy your own choices then start limiting your portions. Even if your grandma wants you to eat everything on your plate, if you don't overstack it to begin with then you won't overeat. Also, stop eating when you aren't hungry. Why are you eating when you arent hungry to begin with? Is it just family pressure? are you not hungry at meal times? Is it too much snacking or previous meals being too big?



ALEKSANDRA
Posts: 15
7/6/13 4:16 P

Thank you very much for your answer. I really appreciate it,but i don't think you understand what i am really trying to say. It is impossible for me to move out right now, because i am 18 years old and i am still going to high school. And now i am really worried about my eating. It has been taken to a whole another level. I never feel hungry because of that, and therefore i can mindlessly eat and i can't feel full. I mean, this is crazy, because i am not even hungry and i can go throughout the day without even eating. I don't know if anything of that makes sense, because english isn't my native language. But, on the other hand, do you think i'm fat. I'm 155 cm tall and 49 kg weigh. Thanks!!



HEALTHYFOREVER4
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7/6/13 12:19 P

As someone who goes through something similar (although admittedly, not quite as harsh) when I visit with my own grandmother, I do understand. However, there comes a point when you just have to stand up for yourself, because in that type of situation, you're the only one who can. Explain to her that you mean her no disrespect by not eating as much of her food as she wants, but you are not going to eat when you are not hungry. That's step 1. If she complains about the waste, politely explain that she does not need to make so much food at one time. If she doesn't listen, well, you can't do anything about that, but you CAN still choose to not eat when you are not hungry.

If it is possible for you, buy some healthy foods to supplement what your grandmother makes. So, for example, buy stuff to make salads. Then you can have a smaller portion of what your grandmother is making, and a large portion of salad. You can do this with other freggies too, and you can supply your own healthy snacks.

I hope this helps. I understand that moving out on your own is not always an option, and we do the best we can in our own situations. Standing up for yourself and your health is the first step. Only you truly control what goes into your mouth. Try not to let her guilt you into eating when you don't want to. I know she is your grandmother, but that also means she loves you. She may come around eventually, but only if you show her you really mean it.



TALKIEBARB
Posts: 5,511
7/6/13 11:27 A

If you are living with your grandmother perhaps it is time to get a place of your own, then you can buy your own food and eat what you want.



ALEKSANDRA
Posts: 15
7/6/13 11:18 A

This is my story: My grandmother preparing food for all of us, and that food is so unhealthy with lots of fats and fried things and i can not change her mind no matter what i do or say. She says: "You must eat my food because i do not want to waste food and throw it to the trash" and stuff like that. And i must eat that, and i feel guilty for ruining my hard work. And because of her, i am forced to eat when i am not even hungry at all, just to satisfied her. This is happening everyday and i hit the point where i eat WHEN I AM NOT HUNGRY and i feel so bloated and disgusting with myself. And i am constantly thinking that i am fat, even when everyone tells me that i am not. I am 155 cm tall and my current weight is 49 kg. What do you think? It's a circle i want to break so badly, but i don't know how. I am trying to have 45 kg, but i think that i'll never reach that goal because of my eating. I think, if i eat only when i'm hungry i will make that happen. And, i tried to tell this to my sister, but she didn't take me
seriously, so i am writing this to you and maybe you can help me!

P.S.Basically, what i am trying to say is: I eat when i don't feel hunger and this is happening for months, and i think that if i continue doing this, i will gain weight and i'm scared of that so much.
I'd like to hear your opinions and maybe some advices? Thanks.



 
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