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7/18/13 12:48 P

Thank you all for the love and support. We all have bad days for sure. I know that I am going to be ok and having this support is part of that progress. I am so grateful and blessed!
The lunch was wonderful and there were a ton of people I have not seen since I have lost the weight and that actually was cool. It reminded me of how far I have came.
I am blessed to have a career that I love but also to work with and for amazing people.

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7/18/13 12:24 P

emoticon I've had times when I've had those same feelings. I know it's rough. I'm glad you're here so we can love on you and help you thru it. :) I hope you're feeling a bit better. Hang in there!

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7/18/13 12:08 P

hugs for you!

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7/18/13 10:20 A

Hugs to you! Ok, back in the day, you know, 25 years ago in HIGH SCHOOL, I was a gentle 145. Every once in a while, I run into a person who says "You look exactly the SAME!" What the heck! I am over 100lbs heavier! Evil! But what they remember was my face and personality. I go through phases where I don't want any photos- but just like you DON'T look at someone in a photo and think "bad hair day" (unless it was the 80's)- people are not looking the picture and she's fat- they're thinking about Christmas or something. No one, except for the catty people are thinking, "She's at this luncheon and she's fat again." They are looking for your smile and thinking, "I am so glad she's been here for 5 years!" And don't tell me you have not seen a co-worker in an unflattering outfit- we all have those days- but I bet that same co-worker has helped you out a time or few, or told a joke that you repeated- we are more than just our appearances! Go have fun at that luncheon! It is a great thing!

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7/18/13 10:09 A

I saw your post and went over to your SPage and oh my goodness . . . you've lost over 50 lbs! What an accomplishment! I've been fighting with the same 3-5 lbs for over a month now and I'm barely down 10 from the 40-50 I need to lose in over 4 months! you're doing great! Come out from hiding! You have so much to be proud of!
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7/18/13 10:02 A

It's a new day. Start over. Forget the past. Ready set Go !

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7/18/13 9:46 A

Sending you a huge bear hug from Ottawa Ontario Canda emoticon

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7/18/13 9:37 A

Here is my your self and give yourself a good squeeze.

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7/18/13 2:04 A


Don't be so hard on yourself!

Just carry on with the healthy lifestyle, the weight will come off soon.

In the meantime, get a new outfit for your party, one that fits well & enjoy yourself!

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7/17/13 11:10 P

Virtual hug given.

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7/17/13 2:02 P

emoticon how did that feel

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Consider yourself hugged

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7/17/13 10:00 A

Hope you're better today.

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7/17/13 9:31 A

emoticon Every one slips. This too shall pass. Love yourself. emoticon

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7/17/13 7:29 A

Hugs! emoticon It is about progress not perfection! 5 years in positions these days is an accomplishment! Celebrate that!!!!!!!

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7/16/13 11:11 P

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7/16/13 9:30 P

ask for it.

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7/16/13 9:28 P

You're in lots and lots of company...or there wouldn't be a SparkPeople! If I had a dollar for every pound I've lost and gained and lost in my life, I could make Donald Trump look like a pauper...

Don't hide. Did you know that the average American woman is 5'4" and weighs 164? Yet we idealize skinniness.

Skinniness is ONLY skinniness...and weight that's been gained can ALWAYS be lost, so take heart!


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Hugs!!! You are BEAUTIFUL!!! Hugs!!

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7/16/13 2:33 P

I feel the same when I gain some weight as well. I realize not everyone looks that closely and you lost a lot so far and others may not see the weight gain. I would put on an outfit that you like not one that you hate. Do your hair a little differently and draw attention to that and have a good time and enjoy yourself at the party for YOU!

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7/16/13 2:24 P

Sending lots of emoticon ! You sound like an awesome person and shouldn't measure your worth based on your weight or appearance. Hope you feel better soon!

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7/16/13 1:40 P

Big hugs to you -hang in there and don't beat yourself up.

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7/16/13 1:19 P

emoticon Here is one from me

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7/16/13 1:13 P

emoticon emoticon Hope you get lots more.

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7/16/13 12:52 P

Sorry you are feeling so crappy today, I know how you feel...I see on your ticker that you have lost weight already...You should feel proud of yourself!!! I have been telling myself to start eating healthier and start working out, but it is so hard!! I am feeling the same way right now as far as how I look. Nothing fits, and I also get embarrased when I see someone I havent seen in a while :/......All I can say is keep up the good work, I know we will all have our days, but it will be so worth it in the end. Hope you have a better day and try to keep positive!!! Crongrats on the weight you have already lost!

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7/16/13 12:47 P

I am so down on myself today and I really need to stop.

I have gained back about 15 pounds in the last 6 months and am working hard to fix it but in the mean time none of my clothes fit and I feel horrid. I have to go to a lunch today with my company to celebrate my 5 years with the company and I want to hide. I hate my outfit, I don't want anyone to look at me or talk to me. It is just crazy.

Before I gained weight I had no problem being in groups. I am a singer and I joke. I am loud and I loved life. When I got really big I started to hide. Didn't want to talk to people or have anyone look at me. Stopped singing and doing the things that I love because I was depressed and felt bad about myself.

I know that I have came a long way and I should feel proud but I don't right now. I feel like hiding.

Good Lord help me through this day

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