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ONLYBABY90 SparkPoints: (5,891)
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5/11/13 11:24 P

Hi ARCHIMEDESII Thank you for responding. I'm not a new Spark member; I've been a member since 2011 I believe. Lost majority of the 50 pounds with Spark. I fell off recently because of stress, classes and these overwhelming urges for junk food. I'll try the things I like about myself. I've had huge self esteem issues since I was a teen, when I started gaining all this weight. It's hard to look in the mirror sometimes but I'll do what you said. Thank you again

ONLYBABY90 SparkPoints: (5,891)
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5/11/13 10:40 P

Thank you all for your responses and support. I really appreciate it. I guess I have to just brush myself off and try again.

JULIEXOXO Posts: 1,985
5/11/13 9:21 P

Im sorry you are so upset. I understand first hand your pain and disappointment. This is such an emotional journey we are on. The first battle you need to overcome is your state of mind right now. Getting yourself back on track and letting it go. Stay in touch with your spark friends to regain your motivation. You know we are all here for you.

VATRUCKER SparkPoints: (20,629)
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5/11/13 7:22 P

this will never do, you cannot beat your self up over a set back, listen quit concentrating on weight loss and start consentrating on a LIFESTYLE CHANGE . the more u worry about weight loss the move u are going to be disappointed. I used to weigh 378lbs, now I weight 170, BUT it took a heart attack, heart disease and 18 days in the hospital to convince me not to worry about my weight, change the way I eat, exercise and live and I promise the weight loss will come and you will not have to worry about regaining emoticon

SLIMMERKIWI SparkPoints: (131,977)
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5/11/13 6:45 P

Do you weigh all of your food (for increased accuracy) and enter it all into the Nutrition Tracker? If you do, then you will be able to see what is happening from that. Maybe you have allowed your calories to sneak up??

When I had lost most of my weight, I suddenly started to crave sweet foods. I mentioned this to my Dr. He told me that I had lost a lost of weight, and sometimes it is like the body is trying to get the weight back on to where it had been for a lot of years. He said to try to resist these cravings. I managed to get through that, and now don't really have much of a problem any more. I have been maintaining for over 2 years - occasionally have a wee bit of a 'blow-out' with food, but not often.

Don't worry about what others can eat or not - don't worry about the fact that they are smaller than you. I USED to be very slim ........... when I was a lot younger. I used to eat like nothing else. Probably around the 3-4,000 calories or more, in a day - on a fairly regular basis. (I was also very active and did tons of running.) Time has a habit of catching up with most of those people!!! It may not be today ..... it may not be tomorrow, but odds are, it WILL catch up on them!

Kris



DOLPHINSPOTTER Posts: 169
5/11/13 4:28 P

I can totally relate to how awful you feel. I lost 104 lbs. then gained 70 back. When I stepped on the scale and I was over 300 lbs. again I did cry. I swore I would never weigh that much again. Now here I am struggling to repose the same weight again. Only this time it is much harder to get off and I can't keep motivated for any length of time. Joining the accountability partners group has helped. I have several good partners that listen and share their ideas and it helps me to encourage them. Just don't give up. Keep at it. Slow but sure wins the race. Anything I can help with, let me know. I'm here for you. Marsha. 👼

ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (140,488)
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5/11/13 4:04 P

ONLYBABY90,

I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.

You can't beat yourself up because you've regained some weight. That's something every single member of Spark has experienced at one time or another. Instead, let's be like the old song and "accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". You may have regained 14 pounds.

BUT, you've still kept 36 OFF ! That is how you accentuate the positive. You have to stop comparing yourself to those around you. Think of them this way, some of those tiny 5 ft 4 girls you work with may have been overweight themselves.

We make assumptions that if a person is thin, they must have been thin their entire life. Not so. You'd be surprized how many overweight people have been able to take the weight off and keep it off. They may be some of those women. So, don't look at them and think how far you have to go. Look at them and realize they achieved their goals and SO CAN YOU.

But the negative self talk has to stop. the beatings have to stop. You'll never be healthy if you keep telling yourself you're a fattie. I know it's going to be hard, but you have to start learning to love yourself AS IS. because if you don't love yourself now, you're not going to love yourself 50 pounds from now.

Here's what to do, I want you to sit down and write a list. I don't want anything negative on that list. I want you to list all the things you do like about your body. Do you have nice skin ? Do you have lovely eyes ? Do you have nice hair ? Do you like your fingers ? If so, write it down. Then I want you to put that list where you can see it regularly. Each week, I want you to add something to that list. And it doesn't have to be something you like about yourself. It can be something healthy you did for yourself, just because.

Are you willing to try that ? If so.... you'll be accentuating the positive !




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5/11/13 4:02 P

Lots of us have struggled with regaining some (or even all) of our weight. What matters is that you don't give up now. Look at it this way -- you're getting re-focused and you've maintained a 37 pound weight loss! That's incredibly awesome. It truly is all in what you choose to focus on -- the 14 pounds you put back on, or the 37 (THIRTY-SEVEN!!!) you have kept off.

Let yourself cry it out a little, but, seriously, give yourself a huge high-five for getting back in the saddle today. Take a 30 minute walk, drink your water, eat some veggies, and call it a win.

Success does not belong to those who never have a set back. it belongs to those who keep going when faced with a set back. Fall down 100 times, get up 101 and you're a winner.

ONLYBABY90 SparkPoints: (5,891)
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5/11/13 3:40 P

I was so happy to lose 50 pounds...I wrote a post about it and got so much praise for it. I looked great and felt great. That was about 9 months ago and now I have gained about 14 pounds back. I'm so upset. I wanted to lose more weight but I'm finding it harder and harder now that I've gotten out of the 200's. I clocked in a 201 pounds today and I felt like crying in the middle of the gym. I was so close to tears I had to go home BEFORE even working out today knowing I should have gotten at least 30 minutes in. I didn't realize that my diet and workouts have lacked. I'm in college so its so hard to eat healthy especially when I'm surrounded by tiny 5'4 girls who wear a size 2(I'm 5'7 and wear a 12-14...probably bigger now that I've gained nearly 20 pounds back) that eat and drink whatever they want. I don't know where to go from here. I've gained this weight in a matter of 2 months I believe. I want to quit so bad. No one knows what I'm going through. My friends tell me I look fine and my potential boyfriend(not official) says he likes girls with some meat on them. But I still feel like a failure and a fattie.

Sorry if this post is a debbie downer or if I sound like a wuss. I just needed to vent and wallow in my misery for a minute. I started this about 2 years ago and I'm still in the high 100s and bust the scale at 200 today after I said I'd never be that weight again. I don't want to be fat anymore I'm just tired of this struggle emoticon

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