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URBANK9 Posts: 894
11/30/12 3:57 P

There is only one shelter that I know that has dogs that is close enough that I could get to regularly, and I volunteered there before (a long time ago), they only walk the dogs to the parking lot and then back inside. :( Plus their volunteer shifts are only one day a week...

Edited by: URBANK9 at: 11/30/2012 (18:38)
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11/30/12 2:23 P

Let me start with, I am so sorry for your loss. I know how much dogs add to your life and without my two energetic monsters life would be very sad.

I also know it is way too soon to look at replacing her; however, given she was your exercise buddy, why not check with the Humane Society in your area to see if they are looking for people to walk dogs for them. In our area anyway, they are always looking for help with the animals there. There are just too many for the staff to walk on a regular basis, but they need the socialization with people to keep them adoptable. If you go in with the mind set that the dogs belong to someone else it is easier to leave them back a the shelters when you are done and it feels so good to know you are helping both the dogs and the staff.

Just an idea.


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11/29/12 7:47 P

Please make an appointment with your Dr and discuss this with him/her. Grief and depression often go hand-in-hand. Your Dr will be able to refer you to a Therapist to help you through this in a positive way.

Of course, where it comes to a 'positive purpose' - there IS a positive purpose - it is called "REDDWOLF's Health and Wellbeing!" what about a TWO-legged friend to go walking /rollerblading, or playing bowls with? You may just find THAT enjoyable and productive, too! Exercise is also a proven way to help with depression, and so is good nutrition. Try using the baby steps methods to get into it again.

BIG hugs,

URBANK9 Posts: 894
11/29/12 7:35 P

I have been doing really badly lately... I'm afraid to weigh myself and see how much weight I've gained... I just want to tell myself to "stop &%*ing eating!" I tend to snack at night, especially, or just making unhealthy choices like having Velveeta macaroni and cheese for lunch and then adding shredded cheese to it because it tastes better that way...
I keep saying I need to eat better and to exercise and I just can't seem to get on track. Most of my exercise involved walking the dog, rollerblading with her, etc... I can't seem to do it without a purpose. I think I'm depressed too which doesn't help.
I did get off my lazy butt and walk 2 miles today though now if I could just somehow get myself motivated to do that every day and stop pigging out. The cold weather doesn't help either because I always tend to exercise less when it's cold out anyway. I wish I had someone to go out with but none of my friends want to go out for activities with me ever, or they are busy whenever I ask.

Edited by: URBANK9 at: 11/29/2012 (19:36)
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11/16/12 1:14 A

Are you in a situation where you could volunteer at an animal refuge? ....perhaps as a dog walker! That way you would get some companionship AND exercise at the same time. You would be able to confide in those animals who will be craving for some affection, but know that your secrets are safe!


URBANK9 Posts: 894
11/16/12 12:48 A

It's really hard, I miss Bianca so much and she was too young, it was so sudden. She suddenly had an internal bleeding episode at the end of August and had emergency surgery to remove her spleen and then we found out it was cancer...we did everything we could for her but I lost her Oct 23rd.
It is hard too because I always walked with her when I was upset or stressed to destress, but since she got sick I wasn't able to do that.. We used to do 3 or more miles most walks.
I also lots my previous two dogs to cancer in 2008 within 3 months of each other (and one was also in the end of October) but they were both senior dogs.

I don't think I am ready to get another dog but even if I was I would not be able to afford it right now, I borrowed money from family to help pay for Bianca's surgery/treatment that I still need to pay back and I have cats with health issues that require expensive medication, so I need to have more/better income before I get another pet so unfortunately it will probably be quite a while before I can get a dog again (which is difficult, I've never been without a dog that long in my life).

SIMPLELIFE2 Posts: 707
11/13/12 1:34 P

I'm so sorry for your loss. It is understandable that in your grief and depression that you went back to ways that gave you comfort. You're human, so allow yourself that. But, please don't let it spiral out of control. It's obvious that you realize you need to get back in the game and your are reaching out. Perhaps a close family member or friend, faith group member or counselor can help you process your grief.

In the meantime, sometimes you need to force yourself to get out there, even if your heart isn't in it. Set a schedule and just do it, whether you want to or not. Soon you will find yourself feeling better about it. Research has shown that exercise is very beneficial in helping deal with stress and mild depression. Maybe you need to find a new route to walk if the memories are too much to bear or just go out there and have a cathartic breakdown. Is there a shelter or rescue operation near where you live? I'm sure those dogs could use walks. Sometimes people find a way through their pain by helping others.

Above all, be kind to yourself.

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11/13/12 1:24 P


I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved pet. I know we all grieve differently, but have you considered getting a new dog ? There's nothing like a new puppy to pep up a person's life. Why not take a walk over to your nearest shelter and see what kinds of dogs can be adopted. There are lots of wonderful dogs looking for new homes. I'm sure you'd be able to find a new walking buddy.

If you're not ready to get a new dog, how about listening to some music ? Lots of members listen to music while they walk. They find it helps them pass the time.

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11/13/12 8:28 A

I looked at your tracking bar and you've done much better than I have, despite my every day exercises. That's because I have a different problem!

You've done a great job of losing weight, and you'll soon be ready to go at it again. The last animal I lost was a cat (to cancer), and I bawled around the house for days. (Luckily my husband was out of town so I could without embarrassing myself!)

My solution would be to to get yourself an energetic puppy, but you're probably not ready for that yet. I "replace" my animals as soon as I can; there's always animals that need a home.

You're doing a great job. Good luck to you.

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11/13/12 2:12 A

I am really sorry to hear that you have lost a loved family member. Our dogs are part of us just as our children are. Grief is understandable and affects us in many ways. Don't worry about the why's and wherefores of your weight loss/gain, because that is quite natural at a time like this. At the moment it is a matter of finding something that you can do that you can enjoy.

It may seem crazy but the bulk of my exercise is actually putting my groceries and laundry away one at a time. Today I got a lot of groceries and bringing them in from the car in light-weight bags, and then putting them all away one at a time, I managed a total of 46 minutes fairly brisk walk. That is more than I would normally get with that. The laundry can clock up a bit of time, too. The beauty of this is that it doesn't seem like work, but it doesn't seem like exercise. It MAY be an option for you while you are sorting out what you would like to do.

Start on track with your nutrition again, too. Be aware of your portion sizes and limit the processed carbs and fattier types of treats to very occasionally. Include plenty of fruit and veges and quality protein, along with some nuts/grains, and you may find that your weight starts to turn around.

You WILL get to your goal weight - you must have faith in yourself!

We had 2 German Shepherds - both pedigrees. One was short-haired and the other long-haired. We also had a Doberman/Greyhound. All three died of cancer. We have a real litter bitser now - I THINK that the bulk of her breed is Border Collie. She is only little (fully grown). She was born with one eye and no tail, but is absolutely beautiful. She even sleeps on our bed, snuggling up on a cold night -)

BIG hugs,

URBANK9 Posts: 894
11/13/12 1:16 A

Help please! I have been having trouble getting back on track, I gained some weight back and I had been trying to get back into watching my food intake better and exercising more...then I lost my dog to cancer, my German Shepherd, she was only 8 years old. I mostly did my exercise with her (walking, rollerblading, etc) and since she got sick I have hardly gotten any exercise and have not been watching my food...first I lost 5+ pounds in a week or less due to the stress/not eating enough when she got sick... Then after I lost her I think I put on more weight probably at least 9-10 pounds but I am scared to get on the scale to see how bad it is, and I am having a lot of trouble getting into any type of routine or finding activities I can enjoy to get exercise, I hate doing boring exercises...
I really want to get to my goal weight but I just can't seem to keep on track, there is always a setback.

Edited by: URBANK9 at: 11/13/2012 (01:22)
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