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SALONKITTY SparkPoints: (12,064)
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11/1/12 4:59 P

I have a husband and a son who both require a bit more calorie-dense foods than I do. One thing I do is make a trail mix/ "cereal" from nuts, seeds, and dried fruits. They both eat this as trail mix (snack) and sometimes for breakfast with either full fat greek yogurt or coconut cream (or coconut milk). Another thing the guys eat a lot of that I don't are sweet potatoes. They like these pretty much any way I prepare them, and I put out full fat sour cream, real butter, coconut oil, and cinnamon for them to add. I make my own mayonnaise with eggs and olive oil--they both love that, and can eat it with all sorts of stuff. It also gets turned into salad dressing. Avocados are always around the house and they both eat at least 1 daily.

Smoothies are another great way to pack a whole bunch of healthy calories into a meal. You can use pretty much anything you can think of. Some of our favourite ingredients are apples, bananas, peaches, a spoonful or two of nut butter, coconut milk or cream, frozen or fresh berries, a handful of spinach, avocado, pumpkin (canned), various spices and extracts...we all have our own favourite recipes and are always playing around with different mixtures.

Both guys are quite slim, and I'm not trying to fatten them up....just keeping them full and making sure they're getting enough calories.

MOLLZ007 SparkPoints: (4,132)
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11/1/12 3:08 P

Thats all you can do unfortunately. He is a grown man and you cant make him eat veggies. Just keep making yourself healthy meals and offering them to him. I understand yourr concern for his health though, maybe yo can get him to go to a nutritionist or show him some articles on sp about healthy nutrition. Good luck!

KELPAT071903 Posts: 9
11/1/12 2:46 P

I clicked on this post because my husband is the same way. He is extremely thin and has a physical job and can eat whatever he wants without gaining a pound. I have not tried to fatten him up but I do worry about his healthy because what he does eat is not healthy. My husband does not eat any veggies. He doesn't like them. Over the years, I have just stopped making them because they go to waste. I have since realized that he can and will eat anything he wants so I need to cook for me. I cook all the healthy foods and he eats them if he wants.

I also keep snacks in the house but I make sure they are ones I don't like! My husband loves jalapeno pretzles and I hate them! So, I am good wife for keeping ths stuff he likes and and less tempted by it!

MMEEAAGGX3 SparkPoints: (1,281)
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11/1/12 2:09 P

I would just let it be. Men who work that much can eat whatever they want regardless if it's healthy or not. The fact that he's underweight is sort of an anxiety trigger, but I have heard from a lot of people it's healthier to be underweight than overweight...Not that EITHER is healthy, but at least he's not doing that physical work while carrying extra weight and straining his heart.

Edited by: MMEEAAGGX3 at: 11/1/2012 (14:09)
JENG829 SparkPoints: (15,098)
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11/1/12 1:30 P

Same here, skinny boyfriend who is a carboholic. I find that making dinners that are made of different components helps & is inexpensive. Last night I made honey Dijon chicken, roasted potatoes, and spinach. I loaded up on spinach & chicken, with a few pieces of potato. My BF had the same, but more potatoes. Another example is Swiss steak.. I eat that with some veggies, while my BF wraps his in tortillas for a lot more calories & carbs. Putting leftovers into burritos/wraps also helps him remember to eat breakfast & lunch. Since I don't eat flour tortillas, it's easy for me to ignore them in the fridge :)

Also remember that skinny doesn't always mean healthy. Skipping meals and eating junk may keep someone skinny, but that doesn't mean he or she is getting all the nutrients their body needs.

LUCKYNUMBER23 SparkPoints: (12,368)
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11/1/12 1:15 P

I understand your concern. Being underweight will lead to other issues down the road - migranes, osto, low iron and other issues. He needs to eat some breakfast. Make some homemade granola mix and have him eat it on the way to work.

MAEBEA40 Posts: 252
11/1/12 12:34 P

I too have a very thin healthy DH. He has muscle not fat. He burns a lot more than I do. His metabolism burns better than mine. Sometimes I do make 2 meals because DD &DH like a lot of rich foods I avoid now. Sometimes they like red meat, I have to avoid a lot of these dinners due to a stomach condition. I don't deny them what they want. I do not force him to eat anything he doesn't want. I am not usually tempted because I have my goals in place of what I want to accomplish. If I am tempted I track it and save up for it. He doesn't eat breakfast just drinks a pot of coffee. He doesn't always eat lunch. But look out suppertime sometimes he eats 4 portions of everything. He is liking some of the healthier meals that I have planned. He eats more. He does have his snacks he likes I have mine He eats chips, soda, icecream, and candy I no longer do them. I no longer want them, If he wants cake I just make it healthy, we have loads of fruit available. I too don't have a big budget for food but I do sales Spark People has some of the best recipes we have ever ate he loves them everyone I have tried except the black bean brownies. I have to admit they aren't my favorite either.
He loves me the way I am thick or thin, I also love him the way he is no matter how he looks. He is healthy I am jealous of his metabolism. But I am working to better me for me. I hope this helps.

YOJULEZ SparkPoints: (15,605)
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11/1/12 11:49 A

I have the same issue too... skinny boyfriend who doesn't eat breakfast and sometimes skips lunch...and he works from home in a desk job. I don't make two meals. He just eats extra of what I make, as I often cook 4-6 servings at a time so there's also leftovers for lunches. He also has some of those Carnation Breakfast Shakes that he makes for himself before bed, and I do make him some baked goods that I don't like, like banana bread or stuff w/ pineapple in it. In the end though, he's a grown-up, and it's not my job to look after him and his eating habits... he did it on his own for 10 years before I showed up and did OK :)

Also, for my own eating, I don't eat a big breakfast (just not hungry) so that freed up more calories for dinners. That way I can make higher calorie things with stuff like pasta and cheeses and it still fit in just fine with my eating plan. I'm on a somewhat limited budget too, $75 or less a week for groceries. If you don't already meal plan, it's probably a good idea as it helps save money, and you can make sure you're getting a balanced meal ahead of time.

MISSRUTH Posts: 3,734
11/1/12 10:33 A

My DH can pack away an amazing amount of food, and not gain weight. All I have to do is smell a doughnut, and my butt gets bigger. sigh.

At any rate, I do not cook 2 different dinners. There are only the 2 of us, but I routinely cook enough for 4 people (most recipes make enough for 4 anyway). I eat my one serving, and he usually eats 2. Anything leftover is my lunch for the next day. DH sometimes will add a slice of bread (whole wheat!) to his dinner if he's feeling the need for more carbs, than what's in what I cooked.

We have snacks in the house-- nuts and fruit and granola bars, cheese or hummus or peanut butter and crackers, occasionally I'll try a Spark recipe for a dessert, or from another "skinny recipe" website. Pretty much I don't fuss at DH about what he eats, he's a grown man. And he doesn't "push" me to eat a doughnut.



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11/1/12 9:17 A

Why on earth are you trying to fatten your partner up anyway? Some people are just naturally very slender. No one who is unhealthily thin has 12 pounds of arm muscle. If the body is not getting enough fuel to function it will use muscle as fuel if fat is not available. If you can build muscle you are on the positive side of metabolic balance.

And, in any case, what we all need - whether too fat or too thin - is good healthy nutrition. Not junk food. He just might need larger portions than you.....

So I say, encourage him to eat breakfast (or take some on the go) but work on having healthy foods at home for meals and snacks. That way you both win.

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11/1/12 9:16 A

Thank you both - I guess being so focused on my own weight makes me focus on his too more than I should. Love the idea of the wraps!

JENMC14 Posts: 2,707
11/1/12 8:48 A

Definitely get the snacky stuff out of the house if you have issues with it. It's all about portion control. I make big portions because my husband is a big eater, but I only eat one portion (sometimes two, although I always account for it in my tracker). You can switch to leaner cuts of meat, but sneak some healthy fats in for him with olive oil. Also, has a doctor said he needs to gain weight? If not, why try to "fatten him up"? Especially with junky food? Just cook good, healthful meals for you both. You should be very mindful of portions and tracker everything, and that will help you to lose the weight you've gained, then maintain.

NIRERIN Posts: 12,032
11/1/12 8:02 A

beyond making breakfast for him, you don't need to be tempting him with snacks, so get that crap out of the house. while it was a good idea, if it's not fulfilling the reason you brought it in to the house and it's tempting you as well, there isn't any need to have it there.
if you want to send him with something higher cal and easy, try making wraps to go for him. nut butter and sliced fruit is a really easy way to go, and can be kept in the fridge for a day or two [though eating the first day is best]. it's also really easy to toss an omelet into a wrap, and wrap it up in parchment paper for an on the go meal [if he'll eat it]. the bonus is that you can add extras like cheese or avocado to his, while you still have a lighter base to work with].
ultimately he has to want to eat and make the effort to do so, and there isn't really anything that you can do about it. so offer to do so. send stuff if he'll eat it, and if not, he'll come around when he comes around. because he is an adult, and you can't make him do anything that he doesn't want to do.

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11/1/12 7:52 A

Hello all,

my partner and I have been together for a year and a half. From the moment we got together I've been introducing him to the many wonders of home cooking and have tried to fatten him up - he's 5'11 and weighs only 132lbs!. He's underweight and he works a very physical job, I swear 12lbs of that is arm muscle.

Obviously I love him dearly but the more I try and make sure he's eating enough (he's terrible for just skipping breakfast...and lunch!) by getting him snacks to tempt with and cooking pudding as well as dinner the fatter I get and he barely changes!

How do I keep looking after him without succumbing to temptation, we're not very well of financially at the moment so I tend to go for big cheap carb heavy dinners and not sure i'd be able to afford to always do two dinners...

all sugestions greatly appreciated x emoticon

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