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MCFHARPIST SparkPoints: (46,200)
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5/8/13 1:02 A

LADYSTARWIND, I do the exact same thing as you on the Nutrition Tracker! It is THE BEST thing since rock 'n roll. Here's my for instance: I love Costco's Food Court hotdogs. So, maybe once a month, I plan for it on my Tracker. My whole day is tracked not to exceed my daily ranges AND enjoy my Costco hotdog. That's just one for instance. I have many!

Spark On!

LADYCJM SparkPoints: (55,304)
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5/8/13 1:00 A

Think about going to your doctor, have a physical. Check your thyroid, DHEA, iron etc. Make sure you are healthy.
And follow all the great suggestions!

LADYSTARWIND SparkPoints: (62,375)
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5/8/13 12:47 A

You clearly ring some bells with a lot of us! :)

I don't know if you have computer access during the day, but I've found it really helpful if I can track periodically...even using the tracker to plan what I might have/need for my next meal. Such as...ooops, my protein at breakfast wasn't enough...better add in some more for lunch.... hmmmm....if I have that whole potato for dinner, my carbs will be over...

I know its unreasonable to spend all day doing it, but the more I do it, the easier it has become. And the days I can engage in it, I am so much more in control of mindfully eating!

Wishing you every success on this journey!

THOMS1 Posts: 11,223
5/7/13 8:59 P

I agree that you have to take that word try out of your vocabulary. Don't try just do it. Take those secret foods out of your house and use some self discipline. Thiis lifestyle journey is hard and you have to always keep it in the forefront of your mind. I wish you success.

SUNSHINE603 Posts: 19
5/7/13 5:33 P

Your emails could have been written by me! Every week it's "ok here I go again" and I also expect immediate results. Why is that? This weight didn't go on overnight, it's not going to come off overnight. I am glad I found this community and there are people out there in the same boat who understand the frustration!

CLAUDIA_HE SparkPoints: (8,383)
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5/7/13 5:16 P

Hey Tammy,

I know this might sound silly, but could it be that you are a secret eater?
Before I signed up for spark people recently, I found out that I am a secret eater ;) I munched while I prepared food - even from veggies. I also found out that I ate mindlessly. I ate in front of TV or computer display. What actually opened my eyes that I am a secret eater was the British show on YouTube called "Secret Eaters" Take a look, maybe it will also open your eyes a bit. I wish you all the best with your journey, I know you will accomplish your goals, as we have big support system here.

Claudia :)

COANNIE SparkPoints: (9,512)
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5/7/13 2:13 P

You have gotten some great advice. I have started doing these specific things, and they have given me success:

1- drink 8 cups of water per day
2- log all of my food, every little bite
3- eat 6-7 veggies/fruits per day
4- exercise each day (mostly walking)
5- keep my calorie allowance at least 5 days a week

It doesn't seem like a lot, but it has allowed me to drop 15 pounds in 2 months. I am absolutely THRILLED. There were weeks where the scale didn't move AT all, but then one week, 6 pounds- I think all of the small steps just came together and made an impact. And I don't feel like I'm "on a diet". I am just living healthy for the first time in my life.

YOU CAN DO IT! If I can do it, anyone can!

STDWYNWEN SparkPoints: (11,507)
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5/7/13 1:18 P


Other things which might help.
Don't think of SparkPeople as a weight loss site.

When you get down to brass tax, SparkPeople is about changing habits. Improvements in your health is just a bi-product of....changing habits for the better.

When it comes to the choices you make ask yourself - 'what can I do better?'

Things like...
I'll wake up 10 minutes earlier and do squats/pushups/planks just to get the blood flowing.
I won't use as much cheese or sauce in this recipe. (try it see if it tastes just the same)
I'll work in more vegetables in my day today.
I'll swap out the cookie for an orange.
I'll make an effort to smile more today.

It's going to be the little choices you make day to day which will make the biggest impact.

Before you know it you've shaped new habits.

SKMBOK Posts: 61
5/7/13 10:46 A

Tammy, you are definitely not alone. This is my second (or third?) attempt at SparkPeople. One thing I have done differently this time is reach out to other members for support. It seems you made that same choice. Feel free to friend me and we can continue together. I have been struggling because I haven't seen the pounds come off of the scale, but I will say that my energy level is up, so I am calling that a win. Maybe that's what we need to do is find the wins to motivate us.


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ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (168,247)
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5/7/13 10:11 A


As the old song goes,"accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". give yourself credit for all the POSITIVE things you do for yourself and don't beat yourself up because you're not perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy. Every little bit really does make a difference.

We'd all love to be able to lose 10 pounds in a week, but that's just not happening unless you happen to be on the Biggest Loser ranch and spend your entire day concentrating on just losing weight. Most of us just don't have that luxury of time or money. thus the reason you need to be more patient with yourself.

No one ever became a healthy eater overnight. Change does take time.

TGILBERT1364 Posts: 22
5/7/13 9:13 A

I know who sabotages my efforts, that would be ME. I set myself up to fail because I think I have to be perfect and when I mess it up, I figure I might as well continue, which puts me in that cycle. I need to work on this for sure.

TGILBERT1364 Posts: 22
5/7/13 9:09 A


You are right, I say that all the time, "try" this, I would like to "try" that, I would like "try" and stick with a plan and yet I never get anywhere. No more "trying", just do it!

I will have a great day today!

TGILBERT1364 Posts: 22
5/7/13 9:07 A


Thank you for responding to my message. I had thought about planning my meals and I know when I did this other plan that I did really well, following a plan. So I'm going to do that this week as well as taking that all or nothing mentality out of my vocabulary and the "try" word. I set myself up every time for failure. If I fail to plan I plan to fail.

Thank You Again!

TGILBERT1364 Posts: 22
5/7/13 9:01 A


Thank you so much for your words. I agree, I do that a lot, the "All or Nothing" and you are right, it sets me up for failure. I always tell myself if I could just lose 10 pounds that would tell me I was on my way but the problem with that is that I expect that in one week! That leads me to the cycling that I've been doing. 2 steps forward 2 steps back, so I feel like I'm just spinning my wheels. I'm going to keep this in mind for sure. I need to make small goals and I need to plan my meals out for the week or at least a few days. If I fail to plan, I plan to fail. Today is a new day. Thank you.

5/7/13 12:34 A

MCFHARPIST is right...and I don't think it's trite at all. I tell people all the time that "trying" is not DOING ('s a Yoda thing).

What you need to say is, " I AM losing weight," not, "I'm TRYING to lose weight."


"I AM making progress," not, "I'm TRYING to make progress."

I have a friend who is a psychologist. He helped people stop smoking for years. He had his patients say, "I have stopped smoking," because if they said they were trying to stop smoking...that meant they hadn't yet.

Start moving forward. Don't pause. Don't double guess yourself. The sooner you start moving forward, the sooner you will reach your goal.

Edited by: LILLIPUTIANNA at: 5/7/2013 (18:19)
MCFHARPIST SparkPoints: (46,200)
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5/7/13 12:19 A

TGILBERT1364, I know it sounds way too trite and over-simplified, but get the word "try" out of your vocabulary. Banish it from your brain. A person who says he or she will try to do something, NEVER accomplishes what he or she is trying to achieve. Instead, replace the banished the word with "will" (I will not eat X.)

It works for me, at least some of the time.

Spark On!

EMMACORY SparkPoints: (177,480)
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5/6/13 11:48 P

I agree that working your food plan is necessary. I also think you may need to figure out why you sabotage your efforts? You are worth the effort. Go for it!

FITGLAMGIRL Posts: 2,045
5/6/13 7:30 P

Tammy you look so happy in your pic! Well you got 20% of the solution accomplished and that is the exercise, so good job! The other 80% is what we eat. Yes, we can select healthy alternatives, but if we overeat or add this or that it can become unhealthy.

I would suggest putting yourself on a meal program that you can live with. For example if your calories for the day are 1500 put together a meal program for a week that adds up to 1500 calories each day. Then work your plan. When the food is done for the day tell yourself well that is all you can have and then drink lots and lots of water if you run out of calories. Then work this plan for at least 90 days. You really need to give anything you try at least 90 days to see progress.

If you don't have a plan in place how can you expect to succeed? Then just keep working your plan day in and day out. That has been the best way that I have found success. Just tell me what to eat, otherwise I am off track in no time.

Now this will take some planning on your part, but you should see results. Good luck!

How bad do you want it?

Edited by: FITGLAMGIRL at: 5/6/2013 (19:33)
ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (168,247)
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5/6/13 6:44 P


I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.

Good health isn't all or nothing. Every little bit really DOES make a difference. So, if you eat a healthy breakfast and lunch, but over eat at dinner, that does not mean you've blown it. The fact that you ate a healthy breakfast and lunch IS a step in the right direction. You can't beat yourself up every time you eat more than you think you should. No one ever became a healthy eater overnight. It's impossible.

Thus the need to be patient with yourself and your body. Start with simple changes first. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. And that may be your problem, you may be expecting too much too soon. Set reasonable and realistic goals. don't set yourself up for failure.

Which is what I'm going to recommend to you. Set some simple goals first. If you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. if you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. if you're not getting any exercise, don't try to exercise for an hour a day, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.

And that's how good health starts. It starts with one small change because one small change can change your life.

TGILBERT1364 Posts: 22
5/6/13 1:42 P

I keep trying and trying, every single day I say this is going to be the day, the day I make a change, the day I get through the weight loss journey unscathed and it just seems to fall apart by the end of the day.

9 times out 10 I do track on my food tracker and trust me, I put everything and yet even when I look at it it just makes me more frustrated with myself and my weight keeps climbing, slowly but going up bit by bit. I exercise, always have, so the exercise isn't an issue for me, even eating healthy isn't. However, I can make up anything healthy and turn it into something unhealthy.

I've been a spark member on and off for many years but have never ever been close to my goal. I have all the support from my family, friends, you name it. I have everything I need to get healthy and I totally know what to do but something in my mind takes over and I go into this coma so to speak. When I wake up, I'm like why did I do that so I go back and put everything in and I'm holy moly what the heck happened. I know most of this is a habit and habits are hard to break but it is taking me over to the point of consuming all my efforts.

Spring is here and I looked in my closet and the close that were tight on me last year are unwearble. I can't even get them to clothes. So that makes me more frustrated.

I've tried keeping myself busy and yet I still find myself in the kitchen or grabbing something that no one knows about. I've been to a therapist, I've been on meds to try and control this and I'm just so tired of it. I know I'm not destined to be like this, I know it in my heart.

I want my son and husband to be proud of me and of course, I just want to be proud of myself. I look on spark people at all the people and I know I'm not the only one but it still makes you feel like you are. I just wish a switch would go off in my brain and just say enough is enough and get this going before I end of with health issues. I was at the doctor in January and I'm healthy as far as blood work and so on, just the weight. I just turned 49 so by the time I turn 50 I would like to be well on my way to being where I need to be.

Sorry about the long winded message but if anyone can provide me with some help, a kick in the butt, anything, that would be so welcomed!


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