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DMJAKES
Posts: 1,546
10/26/12 2:18 P

Katiemae - you've gotten some great advice already, but here's my 2 cents....

You need to keep in mind that you don't have a lot to lose, so it's going to take some time and a definite WILL to make it happen despite any setbacks, holidays, bad days, or what have you. Commit to a healthy lifestyle for LIFE, not just until those few pounds are gone. This means you should not start anything that you are not willing/able to do for the rest of your life. No fads, no elimination of food groups, no severe restrictions, just sensible and well-informed choices, day after day.

We all have those moments when we can't figure out what we were thinking (like you with the nutella). All you can do at that point is try to figure out what triggered it and what you can do differently next time. Were you stressed, tired, or truly hungry? If you were truly hungry, why? Did you skip a meal earlier in the day, or eat too much "empty" food that left your body begging for some sustenance? Tracking will help you to pinpoint these weak areas, and knowledge really is power in these circumstances. Once you've figured it out, dust yourself off, get up and start over again at the very next meal (not the next day or week).

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Edited by: DMJAKES at: 10/26/2012 (14:19)


NEED2MOVE2
Posts: 1,112
10/26/12 1:48 P

I know what you are saying.. I have days like this too. But do not ever give up... keep trying. We only fail when we stop trying! emoticon emoticon



CANDICEJ25
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10/26/12 12:20 P

I opened this message board because the title "I just want to cry" is me right now! Through the first 6 month of this year I lost 20 ponds, ran my first 5K and felt great! Then summer came, I got busy made less time for the gym, ate on the go. Then at the end of summer, I went back to work full time, eat out for lunch most days, make whatever is quick (and usually unhealthy) for dinner and still haven't found a schedule for fitting in exercise regularly. I got on the scale for the first time in a long time this morning to find out I have gained back 8 of the 20 pounds I lost!!!! I feel like a terrible failure to have gone backwards but I can only do better today. And crafty_loser's comment was so helpful! It is only one day at a time (sometimes one minute at a time) and you can only try to do better in any given moment. Its so easy to just say screw it but you know that only ends up making you feel worse in the long run. Keep your head up and know that you are not alone! Best of luck!



CMCOLE
Posts: 2,667
10/26/12 7:43 A

Try not to dwell on the past, and resolve to go from here.
If it takes small steps and changes at first; at least you've done something - rather than giving into frustration and allowing it to defeat you

Best wishes on a healthy journey



CADDYBROWN
Posts: 532
10/26/12 7:32 A

Hope today is a good day for you. Everybody here, please resolve to do better today.



KATIEMAE10
Posts: 200
10/26/12 7:12 A

To the wonderful women who responded to this post. You have given me so much inspiration, simply in the fact that you are in the same position that I am in. I like the support of SP and because of my busy life, I would [probably end up doing weight watchers online, which is this. I already know how to eat healthy, I'm aware that a bag of chips is NOT a way to lose weight, so that is why i Don't need WW. Thank so much for your posts. I would love for all of us to reach our goal weight : :) I will pray for you.



CRAFTY_LOSER
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10/26/12 5:29 A

One of the first things you need to do, really (at least for me), is to try and not care what others think. Really, you shouldn't bother with those that are going to belittle you or other such things. They're just not worth your time or your mental health. Get over that fear of saying how much you weigh in public and you'll be surprised at how much of a weight is lifted off of your shoulders.

I use to be embarrassed about that. However, the other day at work my boss and a maintenance GUY were talking about gaining weight with where we work (school kitchen, around food all the time). I started to say how much I weighed and stopped (can't remember why...think I was trying to think of how much I DID weigh...haha) and my boss was all "Phew, I thought you were going to say how much you weighed." Like that was the most taboo thing for a woman to say. So I just went ahead and said it. "I weigh 244.5 pounds." and shrugged. The man looked over at me and said that was more than he weighed but that was the only comment from him that was negative in any way. They didn't CARE about that number because they like me for who I AM not how much I weigh. Really, it's so obvious that I'm overweight (though many may not realize I'm obese)...what kind of difference is there in knowing that number that's associated with my size?

It's very important to get that confidence back. I'm not saying it's easy but it's a important and vital part of this journey. I think that's where SP helped me. On here, we're all here to either lose weight, become healthier and maybe even some want to GAIN weight. We all have problems. It's what brings us together.

If you're worried about joining weight watchers then don't. Honestly, SP is just as good, if not better. SP is more of a lifestyle change. And WW costs money to join where as SP is free (most aspects). We're also a vastly larger support group than you could get with a local WW program. You should try posting up a weight ticker in your profile, join teams and challenges (this really helped me get kick started), etc. Maybe look for a team that focuses on helping it's members eat healthier. Visit sparkrecipes.com and look up some of those healthier recipes posted by SP staff or SP's user base.

Trust me, we all know that this journey is not an easy one. We've all struggled with it at some point in time. It takes time to break those old habits. Just take it one tiny step at a time. Get rid of the junk food in your house and don't buy it again. Or start buying fruit you like. If you find yourself going after a sweet snack, grab a piece of fruit instead. OR try buying the lower calorie sweet snacks (like the 100 pack stuff). They're not the best thing to snack on but they're only 100 calories so they're not as bad as a butt load of Nutella (though I can't blame you, that stuff is killer).

If you need anyone to talk to about things, I'm here. I'm at a bit of an impasse right now with my eating habits and getting them back on track. So maybe we can figure this out together! I was there once and I can be there again. I just need to, like you, kick myself in the butt and stop making excuses.

Edited by: CRAFTY_LOSER at: 10/26/2012 (05:31)


TONKS1313
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10/26/12 12:20 A

No I understand where you are coming from! I know that I am at an unhealthy weight from having my son but I was overweight before I got pregnant. I use to never weigh more than 120 maybe 125 and now I am trying everything to get to 140. I dont think that you should be embarrrassed about joining Weight Watchers, I think that if you need to lose some weight and that will help you who cares what other people think. I am really trying to listen to myself but the weight loss has to be for us and we cant care what others are thinking about us. I know we need the support but we have to be our main supporter which is really HARD! I am so hard and mean to myself but I have to start being nicer. I would totally join Weight Watchers but I am cheap. LOL I think that if you feel to be healthy and feel more like you; you need to lose 8-10 pounds then join them and try (I know I need to) not to think of what others are thinking. I get jealous of my Aunt in law when she loses weight I feel like the fat one in the family but I need to get over it and move forward and just work harder. I have mess up days but you do just have to start fresh the next day! Dont say Monday or anything like that cause you wont. Just start new the very next day! We can do this!

I will say that I joined SparkPeople this time to have the help! I am really glad that I did!



CADDYBROWN
Posts: 532
10/25/12 11:49 P

because I feel like a failure. I have totally lost control of the food this week. I binged three out of the first four days. I have to start again tomorrow.



KATIEMAE10
Posts: 200
10/25/12 11:04 P

No it does help. It's just, I have gained 16-17 pounds in the past 4 years. I know that's not a lot, and that 17 pounds ago I was unhealthy, but at 8-10 pounds ago, I was doing ok. I just didn't realize how thin I was until I got up to where I am now. And I feel like I'm just sabatoging myself by not watching what I put into my mouth!! I'm embarrassed to join weight watchers b/c I feel like I'm not big enough to be there and that people will just want to hit me because I don't have anything to complain about. I've thought about buying slim quick to help kickstart everything, but Im nervous. My biggest problem is that I am self concious of what people will think. My 50-year old step mother in law lost too much weight this year, but she is thin, and doesn't eat, but makes me feel like crap about myself just by being her. She's coming to visit next weekend, and I know that this is weighing down on me.....I'm all over the place too...it's ok......



TONKS1313
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10/25/12 11:00 P

I am there with you! I just wanna cry and eat like my husband does and not gain weight. I love food so much! I have been good for a week and a half which is my point I normally get to and stop cause I get too stressed, I dont know how to make this stress free or at leasr less stressful! Im sore from working out which feels good but I think I did too much. I wish I could help you! I wish that this weight loss thing was easier. I am kinda opposite of you I want to snack so instead I wont eat which I know is really bad. I think that it is really good that you are still working out, maybe if you snack more than add another 30 minutes of working out... or do something that will burn the amount of calories you are over. :-) I am sorry Im all over in my response lol my mind just keeps going with thoughts lol I am sorry if this doesnt help at all... but you have someone who is feeling the way you are too



KATIEMAE10
Posts: 200
10/25/12 10:21 P

I CAN'T STAY ON TRACK!!!!!!!

Everyday I wake up and I want to try. I have officially reached my highest weight of my life. I'm still within "normal" but I feel awful about myself. All I want to do is control my weight and start to get it back down. But every NIGHT I find myself in the kitchen snacking. And then snacking....tonight.....turned into binging. Somehow I pulled out the tortilla chips and the nutella and just started to dip.....and dip.....and now I'm 400 calories over my daily goal and I am so upset with myself. I have only been on track for 2 days this week. Even though I'm working out. Do you think I need to seek professional help?



 
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