First I want to congratulate you on a fantastic job losing that weight. That is NO mean fete!
You are in a new job situation and I understand the stress. I also understand that you are letting this other girl influence your choices - I would be inclined to tell her that you can/will only eat out once a week and the rest of the time take your own healthy lunches.
Am I correct in thinking that you are a solo mum? If so, this would make it harder for you because you don't have a partner to share the work-load and child-caring with. IF you DO have a partner at home, then does he help you at all? do you get any time for yourself to do what YOU want to do? Blob out and relax, take a long relaxing bubble bath, visit a spa or whatever? We all need to have this time for ourselves, so hopefully you have someone who can care for your little guy on a regular basis to allow this.
Sometimes it is a matter of sitting down with pen and paper and writing a list of ALL that you do. Then go through it and make THREE lists out of what you have on paper. The first are the things that NEED to be done - the second list the things that only need doing SOMEtimes and the third list the things that really don't matter if you don't do them.
If motivation to do these things is a problem, then work on just one or two things. It might be going and getting a week's worth of groceries, ensuring that the bulk of it is healthy - plenty of fruit/veges, and remember, frozen veges are often more nutritious than so-called fresh, and also often cheaper. The other might be doing a sink full of dishes, and leaving the rest for the next day, slowly catching up. Just working on something like this every day you will soon catch up and not feel overwhelmed. Perhaps you might be able to choose one day per week where you can bulk cook meals and have them containerized and in the freezer for when you are busy or really tired. I do this all the time and it works well - and it saves money too, because you can take advantage of good specials, AND save power/gas and cleaning up too, because it is all done in one hit.
The other thing is you may be suffering from mild depression called Dysthymia. Below is a link to the Mayo Clinic for you to check out: www.mayoclinic.com/health/dysthymia/DS0111
Bearing in mind I am NOT a professional and NOR am I trying to diagnose, merely providing food for thought, if need be, you might consider talking with your Dr about how you are feeling.
I am SURE that you can do this - you are catching this early in the piece which WILL make it easier!
Edited by: SLIMMERKIWI at: 10/14/2012 (04:18)