There ARE options. You just need to find what works for you. Discuss it with others if that helps (especially let your mother know that, while you thoroughly enjoy her desserts, you're trying to achieve a healthy lifestyle, and can only have a small serving (or none at all))
I would suggest paying close attention to what you're feeling before, during, and after eating like this. Before you even pick up the fork, stop and think.....am I hungry, or just diving in because it's there and it's tasty? While you're eating, pay attention to your body's signals....and SLOW DOWN!!! I can say from experience that may be just what you need to gain back the self-control. Enjoy each small bite, and put down the fork between each one. Drink a BIG glass of water with it. I have a tendency to eat very quickly and without even thinking about what I'm doing....I have no clue why, but it's particularly bad with chocolate and other treat foods. If I pay attention, I'm much less likely to overdo it.
After the next binge, write down how you're feeling. Keep this in your pocket and pull it out the next time you're faced with the cake challenge.
I agree with the other posters about talking with your mom...make sure you bring it up in a very neutral, non-blaming way. Who knows, she might want to join you on your journey.
start thinking about how plentiful cakes are. they're in the store, there are tons of recipes for them, tons of pans to bake them in and if civilization ended tomorrow, you'd still be able to find someone with a cake recipe memorized because they have made it so often. the point of all of this is that whatever cake you are presented with, you have to remember that it isn't your last opportunity to have cake. and just like you don't use every bathroom you pass by or you don't stop it at every grocery store you see, you don't need to eat every cake you come across. you can choose not to have some cake this time. and i think for a lot of us, choosing not to have it this time is easier to do than planning on never having it again [especially if that just makes us want it more]. which means that right now, if you love cake, you do need to plan some in. a slice or two because, again, it's not like this is the last cake you will ever see. cake is plentiful and you simply can't eat every one you come across. so start by choosing to skip it once. or skip it every fifth time you are presented with cake. if you can get that down solid, cut it back to skipping every fourth time, then every third, then every other. once you get there you can work on skipping it twice and having it once, then skipping three and having it and keep pushing back how frequently you have the cake.
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4/3/13 6:30 P
"After eating the cakes I felt satisfied yet my mum offered me some more"
Does your mum know you are trying to limit your cake consumption? If you ask her to please not offer you more than one piece, explaining that "having to say no" is really so much more difficult than walking away.... would she support you and abide by your request?
Or would she still try to feed you?
If she agrees to help you - there's a good solution.
If she keeps on offering, take it and secretly throw it away, and don't feel the least bit guilty about it.
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4/3/13 1:21 P
Denying yourself cake will only make cakes seem more special...and naughty. Try to remove the specialness from cakes. I often eat vegan cupcakes. It's a healthier choice and takes care of my sweet tooth.
Also,track everything on your nutrition tracker...even if it's a day filled with cake! Seeing those totals add up can really be a motivator to stop eating more than one serving of cake!
4/3/13 9:58 A
why don't you ask your mom to avoid buying them? if they're not around for a while you can try to get this under control better.
also, try starting a spark streak where you don't eat any cake! cake shouldn't be a daily indulgence- find healthier foods you enjoy (for example, if you MUST have cake, make angel food cake at home and have it with fresh berries- toss a few cups of berries with a teaspoon or two of sugar- they will let out liquid and that can be your 'sauce'- you'll save TONS of calories this way).
have you talked to your mom about your goals and concerns? maybe she can give you in-person support to help!
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1 4/3/13 9:49 A
I just can't stop eating cakes whenever I see some. I always have a great meal plan for the day, however, my plan gets ruined whenever I eat cakes. I try to portion them but them I always end up eating more than I have initially planned to consume.
For instance, I told myself this morning that I will only eat 1 serving of Victoria sponge cake with fresh strawberries and 1 serving of chocolate cake with chocolate frosting. After eating the cakes I felt satisfied yet my mum offered me some more so I took some without realizing that I ate almost half of the chocolate cake and a third of the Victoria sponge. I felt guilty afterwards and so frustrated, therefore, I have decided to throw them away to stop the temptation of eating more and simply told my mum that I ate all of them. However, I also felt bad for throwing food away and lying to my mum.
So whenever I eat cakes, I always forget that I have a meal plan to follow which is designed to help me become more healthy and lose weight. I genuinely don't know what to do. Please someone help me. I have to stop this bad habit because it is frustrating me. It stresses me out but I do not want to give up. I need your help.
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