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WORDWOMAN7
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4/25/13 8:16 P

You can do it, Liz! I bet that you're building muscle; stick with it, as those babies will soon start helping to melt away the pounds.

This is a great program and opportunity. Hang in there and let the progress happen! emoticon



BURNHAM
Posts: 15
4/25/13 7:01 P

All good advise. How do you make a Vegi Burger? My husband is actually doing well with me eating different. I will make a meat for both of us and pair it with a salad or vegi for myself and if he wants bread/rice/potatoes he will make his own. He is also an avid Hunter so the meat that is not chicken or pork is all wild so very lean to begin with. We have also started riding our bikes to work again this year. Did this last year. I averaged 3 days per week (6 miles each way) and am sorry to say only lost 5 pounds then gained it and 5 more over the holidays due to a Thyroid surgery. NOT GOING TO GIVE UP!!!



KKOMAIL
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4/25/13 3:58 P

Hi Liz,

I can relate to making different meals. I am a vegetarian and my daughter doesn't even eat veggies. She is meat and carbs all the way. What I do to cope is I make enough for several meals at one time. For me, on Sunday is cooking day. For me, I'll roast broccoli and cauliflower and carrots in the oven. that gives me plenty of veggies for the week. I'll have them with rice on one day, with beans another day, and with salad another day. I make 2-4 veggie burgers at a time, in the oven. Then I reheat them for me for lunches or dinners later in the week. For my daugher I'll make a caserole or a pot roast. That will last her a few days. Maybe you could make a roast chicken or a few burgers in advance for your husband. It makes it easier if you don't try to cook a fresh meal each night, just change up what you already have made earlier in the week, into slightly different options. Good luck.



LIZNC1
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4/25/13 2:54 P

Thanks for all the encouragement everyone. I love the saying "weight loss happens the moment you don't give up". I've adopted that one and am going to add it to my profile! I can't give up this time. I'm afraid if I do, I'll never get control. To the one who said she never had a weight problem until she turned 40 and hadn't adjusted her eating habits yet - that was me 20 years ago. My advice is get a handle on it now before it really gets out of hand.

I've joined a gym and will go after work to get the strength training done. Anyone have any ideas how often I need to do that? Would 3x a week be enough or do I need more?

I've adjusted - at least some - how I cook. I can't change my husband so I'll just have to come up with a way to deal with him. The funny thing is he doesn't much like that I'm overwieght but he doesn't do anything to encourage me. He just doesn't say much of anything about it. Part of that, I guess, is 40+ years of mariage.

I had already incorporated salads into my lunches and now that the weather is warming up, I'll be able to sit outside to eat.

I just need to cultivate patience which has never been my strong point. I' amgoing to make it work this time!



AMBERT79
Posts: 52
4/25/13 12:20 P

Yes, you have to track track track as said. The minute I stop tracking/weighing, I gain! Even though I feel like have a good grip on eyeballing portions. Strength training is almost more important than cardio. I would offer to you focus on that more than making sure you get a walk everyday. (or still walk everyday with the intent to still do ST) Yes, we still want to move and get our hearts a workout, but the more muscle mass you have, the healthier you will be. You will have a much better metabolism, clothes will feel/look better, and you will prevent many injuries that can occur as we age. As far as meals, I say cook what YOU need to cook. When I first started with SP, I really didn't offer my husband the choice. If your husband won't eat turkey bacon, then let him go without! (?) Or, if that will cause issues, just don't use meals that have bacon. Look through the recipes here and all over the internet that are not just "chicken, salad and yogurt". However, you will learn that a large veggie intake is essential to optimal weight loss and health. I have salads EVERY DAY also, usually for lunches. I constantly mix them up: mexican, asian, cobb, etc. to prevent boredom. You can add anything to salad. This week my lunch salads were spinach with the Taylor Farms Chopped Vegetables Asian mix, mixed with tofu noodles, chicken and extra veggies. (And came in at under 400 calories and 30g of protein) It does take some time to learn everything, so be patient, track, learn, and experiment what works for you. It takes us all that learning curve as all our bodies are different. emoticon



SIMPLYABUNDANT
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4/25/13 11:35 A

I am almost 62, and it has occurred to me that if I don't get a handle on my weight, I might not live to see retirement! (Being able to afford it is another subject!) I have worked all my life, long hours for not much money. My employer does not supply medical insurance. I have a lot of weight to lose. It is very easy to get depressed about my health and my circumstances. I feel like so many things are out of my control, as far as determining the future and the quality of life I might have.

HOWEVER, one thing I can do for myself ~ and so can you ~ is to take charge of the things that ARE within your control. It feels overwhelming at first, which is why SparkPeople advises breaking things down into small, manageable pieces. Believe me, I've done the "go-to-meeting" weight loss route, lost, and gained every bit of it back. Three times. Because I did not find something I could do for the rest of my life.

Yes, getting fit at our age is a challenge, but I have to believe it is possible. Maybe after only one month, you are still wrapping your head around the changes you might need to make, which ones you can do, and which ones simply don't fit your life right now. That's okay. Choose a few small, reachable goals, and just focus on THEM for a while. Don't worry about the things you can't do (yet). Focus on those changes that you can actually make and commit to them. When you start to feel successful with those, you'll feel more incentive to add a few more goals. Gradually, you can build on this small start, with success motivating you to keep moving forward.

If you haven't already, go check out the very long list of Fast Break Goals and see just how many there are from which to choose. Any of these would be a great starting point where you can start making changes.

Above all, don't give up! You are worth the effort!



BURNHAM
Posts: 15
4/25/13 11:10 A

I love your sayings!! I think I will adopt them. I also agree with most of the other posts on this topic. I am about to turn 50 (July) and have been gaining 5 to 10 pounds every year for the last 5 years. I never had a problem with weight until I turned 40 then WOW what a wake up. I have resisted changing the way I eat as I like fruits and vegetables, but love sweets of any kind and gravy seems to be my downfall. Am trying once again to get down in weight. Thanks for posting.



WEBBQT
Posts: 161
4/25/13 10:55 A

It's never to late to be the person you were meant to be.

Even if you can't physically see the results in front of you, every single effort is changing your body from the inside. Never get discouraged.

Weight loss happens the moment you don't give up.

ok, I don't usually like a bunch of "sayings and what not" but I've been discouraged the last couple of months too, and those 3 have really helped. I'm 50 years old and on medicine that has caused a lot of issues with weight loss. I do keep telling myself that it's about being healthy not the weight loss, but it just would be nice for the scale to be encouraging! Just keep with it because it really is true that it all happens when we don't give up!



JENSTRESS
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4/25/13 10:47 A

I can definitely see why you are discouraged.

Do you get regular checkups at the doctor? I only ask because you could have any host of issues that make losing weight more difficult.

What range of calories is SP giving you? Are you coming in at that range? Or are you on the top side?

I definitely recommend using SP to its fullest and track track track. Make sure you are weighing food.

If it were very easy to do, we wouldn't have such a weight problem in this country.

And definitely add weight training to your workout routine. We lose so much muscle mass as we age, your new muscles could be retaining a lot of water with the new use. Eventually, you will see a difference on that scale.



JESSAELINN
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4/25/13 10:39 A

You have been working hard for about a month. Did you know that as you age, you lose muscle mass if you don't exercise? You said you began strength training. So are probably putting on muscle weight now, which is a good thing! The muscle has probably replaced the fat, and it will show in how your clothing feels, and in your appearance. But it is still very early, and yes it will take longer than when you were younger, so just keep with your routine and be persistent. Remember it takes a lot more effort to lose the weight than it does to gain. I'm sorry I don't know what to say about your husband. I usually cook similar ingredients with his meals, and tweak mine so that there are less calories, but it is basically the same meal. It does take a little extra effort, but in the grande scheme of things, it isn't a big deal and it is worth it.



LIZNC1
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4/25/13 9:44 A

Today was my weekly weigh in and I'm UP several pounds. I started this in late March and I've been up and down every week. I haven't looked today but I'm probably close to where I started. I'm over 60 and knew that losing got harder as you got older but this is ridiculous. I have to succeed at this - I can't continue to gain 5 - 10 lbs a year.

I spent a couple of weeks just tracking what I ate then began trying to adjust the "mix" so I was getting more protein and fewer carbs. That's tougher than I thought it would be. I walk pretty much every day and have started adding some strength training. Right now I can only do about 15 crunches.

I have a dear friend who has lost over 100 lbs in the last two years doing another weight loss program (the one where you have to go to meetings) but she has lived on grilled chicken, salad and yogurt.

My husband is no help at all. He loves to eat and will open a bottle of wine and say just one glass. I know alcohol calories are really bad but I do enjoy a glass with dinner. I work so our main meal is at night. Switching to things like Bocca burgers and turkey bacon isn't an option because my husband would pitch a fit and I don't want to cook two meals every night. (HE doesn't have a weight problem!)

I'm pretty much a loner and don't like to share what I'm trying to do. Mostly because I've tried in the past and failed and don't want everyone thinking "oh here she goes again!"

I'm at my wits end and just don't know what to do. Any help would be most appreciated. I can't just give up!! It's too important to my health.







 
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