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IMATIKIGIRL
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6/28/13 3:31 P

Patti, I read your page and you nailed it! Yes, you are right. We can't hope and wish the weight away. We have to do the plan, do the work, watch calories in and portion sizes and content, and get our bodies moving.

It amazes me how long we fight ourselves. If we just do the work, we'd have lost the weight already, right. I keep telling myself that!



CAMEOSUN
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6/28/13 2:35 P

emoticon Don't lose hope. One-day-at-a-time. After I joined SP I actually got to my heaviest. Then I started to look at what others were doing who were successful. I read their Shared Food & Fitness trackers. Then I cut way back on Calorie intake per day and I still exercise, but not strenuously. It is working. I also read that some of these people who are losing and maintaining have cut out foods that are "Reactive Foods" - meaning foods that make their body go into a type of inflammation. It makes sense. They had to find out which foods were "reactive" by the process of elimination. It's an eye opener. I have found that "dairy" no longer agrees with me & makes me swell. Something to think about.



MALAMI518
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6/28/13 11:42 A

It's great that you are committing to DOING instead of hoping and that you've set some smaller goals.

I, too, spent many (too many!) years hoping and wishing and thinking. I've restarted my health plan too many times to count, but this time I think it's sticking. I do not know how I finally broke the barrier. I think that I finally realized that it is something that I HAVE to do. Like you, I want to live a long and healthy life for myself and my family. I want to be able to be active and have adventures when we retire. For some reason, the fact that it's a CHOICE is very clear to me this time.

Best wishes on your journey and finding a way to crash through that barrier and never look back!

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OBIESMOM2
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6/28/13 10:17 A

"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." - Anais Nin

keep trying, Patti. I doubt anybody gets this right the FIRST time!



PATTIJOHNSON
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6/28/13 9:48 A

I am in awe of everyone's support and encouragement here and on my SparkPage. The day just came where I decided something needed to be done. I have always felt so alone when I see what progress others are making, not realizing that there are tons of people who fall into the same boat of ups and downs with their health plans. BTW, I made it through my first day of "Doing" instead of "Hoping," and I did well. So many of you have given me great ideas and thoughts on how to lose weight and ways to think about why I need to lose weight. I'm glad to have all of you as Spark friends! Thank you.





GLITTERFAIRY77
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6/28/13 8:22 A

Oh, Patti! Don't give up! I've been here since 2006! With bulimic type behavior, I was able to go from 320 to 203.5 in just a little over a year, but of course, I gained most of that back when I stopped purging. I started and stopped about 100 times (okay-maybe 10) since then. This time, I've got this attitude that even if it takes me a few years to get all this weight off, then I am going to do it. Little bit by little bit. Keep your chin up. *hugs*



LADYSTARWIND
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6/28/13 12:51 A

Great "way to go" post!! You'll no doubt succeed with that kind of attitude....
the Best to you, emoticon
patti



KOALA_BEAR
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6/28/13 12:39 A

I too can so relate to what you wrote and how you feel. As we age it gets tougher to lose the weight, and I for one get tired of having to say no to French fries, or candy, or seconds, or whatever. We live in a culture that is obsessed with food and I love it. Some types are more addictive than drugs, and the food manufacturers have this down to a science.

Last week I had just recommitted to weight loss following my recent check at the doctor's and wham! two days this week I went way over my calorie range. However there is no choice. I must lose some more weight. Setting smaller goals can help but for me now, just following the program is where I am concentrating.

Do I hate that when I was younger and thin I took it for granted that I could eat all I wanted? And didn't learn any behaviors that would help me now? Yes of course but this really is a battle of life or death - just a slow one. And that is why too much of the wrong food is dangerous. So I keep plugging along and know that there are many other Sparkers out there who share my struggles and will be there to support me.

I wish my schedule were different and I had more time to work out, and no knee problems which limit what I can do. But I choose to focus on what I did accomplish this week. I walked two days, and will work out tomorrow. I ate too much but am consuming healthier foods.

My game plan is to continue to focus on increasing the fresh fruit and most veggies, cut back my alcohol - which I have - and move more. I am taking some time off from work and will try some new recipes, and repeat some that worked for me before. Grilled eggplant, here I come!
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YOJULEZ
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6/28/13 12:12 A

Doing instead of Hoping is definitely a step in the right direction :) I also think setting up smaller goals for yourself is a great idea... when you hit small goals, you gain more and more momentum and motivation to complete more of them, and eventually the small goals add up to big ones!

I was never one to start and stop trying to lose weight. I was OK with being bigger for a long time. But one day, after this guy I went out with, and had a great date with, told me I was a cool girl but he wasn't attracted to me because of my weight, I decided enough was enough, and just started DOING it. I wasn't doing it for him, I never actually talked to him again after that, but I was tired of it happening to me and didn't want to end up alone. I didn't even have a goal at first, I just started making changes. After I saw I could do it, I actually figured out goals. Once I hit those goals, I set new ones, and once I hit those, set new ones, etc etc. And, well, here I am now :)

Edited by: YOJULEZ at: 6/28/2013 (00:16)


PATTIJOHNSON
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6/28/13 12:01 A

Thanks for your messages....I've explained all on my SparkPage.



JANIEWWJD
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6/27/13 11:56 P

Don't lose hope. With God, all things are possible.



FIREWOMN
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6/27/13 10:18 P

My motivation flows in and out. I allow that pattern to be what it is, and I try not to beat myself up when I am not motivated. I start making better choices and I begin to lose again, and I get motivated again.

Forgive yourself for stalls, and just make one good choice per day.

Good luck.



LOLEMA
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6/27/13 10:17 P

Patty,

Don't give up, just take a little break! Right there with you, it is a tough battle but one
that we can win. emoticon



PATTIJOHNSON
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6/27/13 9:51 P

Today, after weeks and months of hoping that I would get in gear and lose some weight and wanting to be fit and healthy, I decided to make a change. My new SparkPage explains why I have lost hope.

How many times have you restarted your health plan and what did you do to finally break the barrier?

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