I understand what your saying but sometimes we must let others handle their own children, I realize what your saying she's your niece but you didn't raise her therefore it sounds like she's not that inclined to listen to you. And yes your children and nephew are respectful but remember everyone is their own person and handles life's ups and downs differently even though they've been through the same loss of their mother. And I'm sure she knows what respect is but she sounds like she's at a rebellious stage, coupled with the loss of a parent and other things in her life she probably really doesn't care at this point because she's trying to cope in her own way (even though it's not good this is her way). So I would back off and not worry about getting her respect, which you might deserve but you can't force. Because it sounds like bigger problems her guardians have to deal with, with her. As a loving and caring family member I would gently relay my concern to her guardians if their receptive to it, then I would back off because to many people trying to handle and discipline her may just make matters worse. I understand as her mothers sister you want to do what is best for her, I think my suggestion is probably what's best even though I don't know either one of you, I can relate because my family has had some of the same issues with young people in the family. And to many people trying to tackle the situation never helps, sometimes it's better if their is outside intervention such as counseling or a church pastor depending on the problems.
And as far as facebook I can't stand it, it seems to keep drama going people share entirely to much and use it for more negative then positive. And truthfully I wouldn't really want to friend the young people in my family on a website I could only imagine what that would be like. Especially since I have a relationship outside the computer I don't need a website, and if you don't live close there is always the phone, texting, email. Computers can be impersonal and taken the wrong way especially when communicating with those closest to us, and people take the liberty to say things to you and about you on websites that they would never usually say if they know they have to face you eventually.
Hope this helped and didn't offend you in anyway, I was just keeping it honest as possible from someone who really understands what it's like to deal with young people in the family rebelling and what that's like when it's not your kid. As family we want to reach out and help in every aspect and save children from themselves and others, but at times the best thing to do is let go and let god and let them learn for themselves. I hope everything works out for the best
Edited by: FITMOM1969 at: 9/26/2012 (03:02)