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NEED2MOVE2 Posts: 1,128
11/5/12 8:01 P

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11/5/12 3:36 P

Nilumaleji---

I am the same exact way. I like to jump head first, all in on something I am doing. I guess because I want the fastest results and I figure that's the best way to go. But after reading these posts, I realized that its not. I need to take baby steps and make small goals.. Maybe we can help each other thru this with our goals and such. Add me if you need any support and what not :)

---Shelby

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11/5/12 12:20 A

Thanks a lot for the time you took to answer me !

It's so strange that you all saw right through me ! It's true that I'm the kind "all or nothing". I'm always thinking that if I can't be perfect I worth nothing...I need to think about it and to understand why I think like that.

Thank you for all your good advices, I will treasure them.

Nina

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11/4/12 8:55 A

Hi NILUMALEJI,

If your journey has a beginning than more than likely it is going to have an end, but the reality this journey you are on is one that you will need to be on for the rest of your life if your goal is to live a healthy lifestyle and not just lose weight.

Unlocking the door as to why we binge is probably one of the toughest parts of the journey.

First of all recognize that many times we are led to a binge because physiologically we allowed ourselves to get too hungry therefore as the old saying goes when we are exposed to food, many times "our eyes are bigger than our stomachs."

Secondly, you must really decide if you are truly hungry, or if you are eating out of stress, boredom, because you are tired or lonely, etc, etc. This is honing in on what I call, "the why we do, what we do, when we do it" scenario. This is where keeping a journal is a VERY helpful tool as it will help you see if there is a pattern with your bingeing.

Thirdly, know that when we continually deprive ourselves or make certain foods off limits, many times this draws us even more so to them. There are no 'good' foods or 'bad' foods, just choices. But if you allow yourself to occasionally have them (this is where planning is key), they no longer carry the stigma of thinking this will be it. And of course for me that meant I was less then perfect, therefore I would allow guilt to move, therefore I would abandon my plan until I was ready to try to lose weight again...no more.

Lastly, know that you are in full control over the food. In other words, food does not have control over us unless we allow it to.

Hang in there and know that you can do this!

Coach Nancy

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11/4/12 6:43 A

NILUMALEJI,

You can't look at weight loss or good health with an all or nothing mentality. If the only healthy thing you were to do for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction. Remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time. that's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. Change takes time, thus the need to cut yourself some slack.

Don't try to be perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy. Start with some simple changes first. Example, if you're not used to eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. if you're not used to drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. If you're not used to regular exercise, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals. then you set new ones.

Good health isn't all or nothing. One small change is all it takes to change your life. Stop trying to do everything at once. Start with baby steps, literally and figuratively.

Every little bit really does add up.

Patience, it's a virtue.



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11/4/12 2:51 A

I am wondering if you have started this journey with a 'change everything at once' attitude? If you have, then this would explain why you go off course.

Ensure that your changes are gradual and give your mind/body a chance to get used to the changes before adding something else to the mix. This applies to food AND to exercise.

Also, ensure that you are eating enough each meal, and have some healthy snacks on hand for those peckish times. Increasing your fruit and vege intake is very helpful - generally lower calories but loaded with fibre which helps you to stay full for longer, and other nutrients Also ensure that you are getting good quality protein because this will also help you to stay fuller for longer.

Other than that, is there something going on in your life which causes emotional binging? If there is it is best to deal with it otherwise it will keep sabotaging you. The fact is, you CAN do this but you need to have faith in your ability to do so.

Good luck,
Kris

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11/4/12 1:41 A

Dear sparkpeople members,

I'm writing here today because I'm really lost ! Every week I start monday full of good resolutions, but after 2 or 3 days, I start eating everything I can in my house, and I don't know how to stop.

For example, 3 months ago, I managed to loose 15lbs by eating right and trying to pratice exercice. But (I don't know why), I started eating, and eating and eating....without being able to stop.

I really need your help !!! I feel so insecure about the fact that I can do it...I feel like I will never defeat my binging problems.

Please, if you have any clue...

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