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1,172 6/20/14 12:36 A
Please don't be down on yourself over what a bunch of young punks said. I would love to be able to run but can't due to a knee problem. It's not yet bad enough for knee replacement surgery but bad enough to stop me from getting out and doing distance walking much less running.
Just know that I admire your gumption to be out there in the world doing something positive about your weight.
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572 6/19/14 11:15 P
That happened to me once. A school bus of kids felt the need to call me fatass while I was walking about.
What else can you do? I'm fat and I have no problem with people noticing it. Just don't get in my way and let me live. It sucks, but there isn't much you can do with people who don't have filters, common sense, or common decency.
Some people are only happy when they're putting someone else down. Just keep on going - if you drive by someone else who's walking or running . . . give them a thumb's up or say "keep going - you're doing great!" It will make you feel good yourself and think how it will help them.
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6/19/14 2:30 P
Ignore the ignorant people. Just keep heading in the right direction !! As you are!
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3,739 6/19/14 10:45 A
You are both losers. You, on the scale. Him, in general. I know which one I prefer. Years from now, being a weight loser will take you from fat to fit. He will still be a disgusting man trying to impress his friends. Use him as motivation whenever you want to give up. Run longer, run faster, run harder. The shame will pass.
Of course no one here would either admit it or stick up for this kind of "boys will be boys" behavior and the more we "ignore" calling people out on it the more that that's a sign of silent approval.
That said men who display this kind of behavior are most likely in a very unhappy place in their lives and also most likely in denial of such a sad hell.
Next time, perhaps show them a sign that they're number 1
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6/19/14 10:20 A
This reminded me of an incident that happened to me a few years ago. I had already taken off the weight. So, I was/am considered slim by societal standards. One summer day, I was coming home from running errands. I was wearing baggy pants and a rather loud Hawaiian shirt. There I was, just walking along minding my own business when a teen on a bike rides by and shouts,"NICE SHIRT".
I replied,"Thank you".... idiot. I'm pretty sure had I been overweight, he would have commented on my weight instead. So, he latched on to the one thing he could comment on i.e. my loud shirt.
Here's the thing, you just happened to be an easy target for those teens. Can you imagine what they would have said had you looked like Pamela Anderson ? I'm sure plenty of young women were targets of their sexual comments that day too.
So, don't feel badly about being taunted. The fact is, some jerks will harass anyone. They didn't care about you. You really were nothing more than an easy target for them.
A couple of loud kids were trying to make each other laugh at your expense. It sucks but don't let them get into your head.
Think of all the people who see you running and are proud of you and are inspired by you. They will probably never tell you that but trust me, they are out there smiling every time they see you running.
I'm so sorry this happened to you! People are always going to be jerks, that's why it's so important to get support HERE and from people who love you! Who care what some jerk says? You keep on running my sister!
So sorry this happened to you, but why should you be "humiliated?" You are an awesome & beautiful human being and just happened to cross the path of some immature fools with a cruel streak in their warped personalities and probably too much time on their hands.
No, that is NOT the way the rest of the world sees you. It's not even the way the fools in the car see you. I guarantee they are the kind of kids (I'm assuming they are young) who say things like that to anyone unlucky enough to get their minuscule attention span focused on them.
Don't give these jerks house room in your brain. They are the ones who humiliated themselves. Feel sorry for them.
6/19/14 5:31 A
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1,065 6/19/14 3:04 A
I'm sorry that happened. So many people in this world are just plain rotten.
6/19/14 2:27 A
Don't let them make you feel bad. They are the ones who should be ashamed of themselves.
In a few years, they are going to lose their youthful metabolisms. They are going to be shocked when that happens... They won't be laughing then.
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10,956 6/19/14 12:14 A
Never, ever allow anybody to make you feel humiliated or inferior. People who do that have a very low self-esteem, so don't worry about it, keep on running!!!!
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11,755 6/18/14 11:59 P
I completely agree with ladycjm. Keeping on runnin' :)
6/18/14 10:41 P
Stuff like that does say more about the person that is saying it. I would be humiliated if those were my sons. It is said but their mothers are probably just like them. After all the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
I have known nasty drama queen girls and guys that were just plain hateful. And then I met their mothers, and knew where their nastiness came from.
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2,545 6/18/14 10:39 P
The only reason to be humiliated would be if you were the parent of the young man in question.
Ignore and keep running.
His comment says more about him then it does about you.
6/18/14 9:50 P
I am sorry that you had to hear that. There are jerks everywhere. And you can improve your life, but they will always be dumb jerks. Don't let them take up space in your head. And this is coming from someone that was once mooed and oinked at.
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6/18/14 9:33 P
Sorry you had to experience that. Most of us here have probably had some variant of that experience, probably multiple times, and it hurts every time. But it seems particularly hurtful when you're out there obviously trying to make a change. But that doesn't stop idiots from being idiots. And some people, frankly, are just mean. (As people way cooler than me have put it: "Haters gonna hate.")
Don't let it stop you. You're doing great, and you're doing that for you, not them. I know that's easier said than done -- I had some comment like that throw me off track more than once over the years. But you can't control what other people do or think -- you can only take care of yourself. You do get to decide what you do with yourself and your health. Treat yourself right.
Some people will think negative thoughts or say negative things about others. They are poisoned inside. Think about how sad someone has to be to try to hurt some strangers feelings like that. Obviously size doesn't make someone smarter, nicer or a better human being.
You know exactly what your weight is and if it is good for you. You should run if you like exercising that way. If you never lose another pound you should stay active.
Your value as a person is about more than your size.
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4,271 6/18/14 7:35 P
They were showing their own fears and doubts -- trying to make themselves look better for taunting you.
Don't give them a second thought -- they are not worth your time, energy, or effort.
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388 6/18/14 5:59 P
I agree 100% with everything Floridita said. I'm sorry it happened & words do hurt, but here's the way I try to look at it: if a stranger who doesn't know me at all feels the need to say something derogatory to me, why should I give it any merit? I think about how sad their life must be that they actually feel what they did was okay. You will not ever regret making the choice to become healthy; those guys may regret their actions one day. If not, imagine the kind of unhappy life it is having the kind of personality they all certainly must have!
Something very similar happened to me. A group of guys in my grade yelled out to me as I walked by that I should "skip a meal." Hurtful yes, but this happened when I & the idiots were about 14 years old. So that group of guys who yelled to you have the maturity level of 8th graders. Nice. Good luck being single for the rest of your lives, guys!
Oh-one more thing-for every carful of idiots, I guarantee you there are 10 cars passing by with the people inside thinking, "you go girl!" Remember that the next time you are out running! It is too bad only the bad apples make noise, but I know I think that every time I see someone out jogging/walking/riding a bike. I'd yell encouragement but I'd be afraid of scaring them!
6/18/14 5:25 P
I'm so sorry you had to experience that. Sometimes others are so unhappy with themselves that they make themselves feel better by attempting to make others just as unhappy. It's supposedly the definitely of what bullies do. You are doing what's best for you at this point in your life. Don't let someone who was showing off for friends by acting like a jerk bring you down. It's true that someone can only hurt you if you let them, but sometimes it's really hard to move on from the hurt emotions when it happens.
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6/18/14 5:24 P
So you carry a few extra pounds, well that is a temporary and you are working on that. The problems that the guys in car have are far more serious and difficult to change. Cruelty, lack of empathy and unkindness suggest deep rooted psychological problems that are likely never to change. It didn't matter that you are overweight, you could of been a person of colour or had red hair or any number of perceived faults that these guys wanted to pick on. That was the whole point, to pick on someone vulnerable and ruin their day. What does that tell you about these people? They have some serious issues and that the problem is with them. Bullies don't discriminate, they will try to bully everyone and anyone. You have the choice to allow it to affect you. It can be shocking to come face to face with such bizarre behaviour but live long enough and you will witness all kinds of injustice and cruelty. The lesson for you is not to take this personally but to know that you will likely face more of in the future. How you handle such moments is the most important factor. Allowing yourself to feel hurt by idiots who have no role in your life is just being unkind to yourself. Imagine what they would of thought if you had yelled back, "Thanks guys, you bet I will!" But who cares what they think and why should you care what the rest of the world thinks of you???
Why do we allow ourselves to feel less than others because we are fat? Why worry about the rest of the world viewing you as a fatty? If we are fat, the world will see us as fat but if they are people who are important to us and worthy enough to be in our lives, they see us as much more than a person who carries extra pounds. We are just walking down the street living our lives, not walking down runways and being followed by paparazzi, life is not a contest where we are being judged. We need to get over ourselves and this idea that we must perfect some image to be worthy. You are as worthy as anyone else that walks this planet, you can be a person of integrity, of strength, of kindness and so many other attributes that are far more important than what is simply reflected in a mirror.
Self esteem and lack thereof is simply a matter of confidence vs anxiety. Anxiety eats away at every thing and the best way to beat anxiety is to build confidence. You build confidence by becoming knowledgeable and building skills. Each step you take, each pound you lose, every subject or skill you master, every door you walk through builds confidence. Hiding behind the idea of poor self esteem allows you to never stick your neck out and never feel success. Don't lose weight so you won't be seen as a fatty, lose weight to become the best of you. Losing weight won't make you more popular, more lovable, more intelligent or a better person. It simply means a smaller dress size, it will not fix all that is wrong in your life or the world. If you have family and friends that say or do things that make you feel less worthy, divorce your family and get new friends. Life is too short to spend time with people who are not supportive.
A bunch of yahoos yelling nasty things isn't worth one iota of your time or energy. On the flip side, whistles and cat calls are just as humiliating and embarrassing, and that is the point. People who do these things do them to intimidate, humiliate and to cause distress. Sadly they are the pond scum that attempt to suck the oxygen out of people's lives. Ignore and seek those that lift you up and feed your soul. Don't let one small moment ruin an otherwise beautiful and productive day.
Good on you for getting out for a run, bask in glow of that success and go for it again tomorrow. When those nasty guys drive by, laugh and wave at them and keep up the good work!
Edited by: FLORADITA at: 6/18/2014 (17:30)
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162 6/18/14 5:05 P
I am so sorry to hear that this happened. I have had similar things happen to me. People really need to learn that words do hurt....
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6/18/14 4:56 P
I'm really sorry this happened to you, and sad that, yes, some kids are morons.
I admire people of all sizes walking and running. You have to start somewhere. Hugs for you.
the world is full of idiots...obviously the local chapter passed you in a car.
Just think of these little pests as the gnats they are, and keep working on making yourself healthy and happy.
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120 6/18/14 3:54 P
Same happened to me last week, a carload of self absorbed teens yelled out " Audition for "My 600 lb Life" then drove off laughing! RUDE! Yes, it Hurt, I already lost a lot of weight and they didn't know me. I Accepted the Challenge! More motivated to reach my goal and keep going! More motivated to eat healthier and stay on track! Someday those "skinny young things" become older, may be battleing being overweight themselves! I hope they remember yelling this when it may happen to them! I will NOT Allow Anyone to Break Me!
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6/18/14 3:29 P
It's time for group Those evil clowns should be put down permanently. Once I caught a guy gesturing about my former size. What a A..hole!
Edited by: BARBZUMBA at: 6/18/2014 (15:39)
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6/18/14 3:28 P
My first thought was, he is lucky you didn't have a gun!! Second thought, why are so many young men in this country idiots? And many of them keep on getting older being the same idiots. Forget them, they are dust and ashes amongst the rest of the humans in this world.
In the immortal words of RuPaul, "What other people think of me is none of my d**ned business."
Regardless of what you look like, someone will find fault with you for something. You aren't this guy's idea of perfection? Who cares? You're working hard to make yourself the best self that you can be.
Even at goal, I'm not the ideal weight for a distance runner. My body just isn't built to be that lean and light. It doesn't keep me from running and trying to increase my distance. I'm just happy that I have a body that can run when so many people can't. I'm happy that I can run and continue to improve my health.
6/18/14 3:10 P
Sweetie - I'm sorry that happened.
You had a carload of 20 yo a$$holes pass you by. That's it. They exist in life - sad, but true.
Look at it for what it was.
I once fell at a concert - and this kid (guy) laughed - and I said "You're a f***** a$$hole".
Know what though? You have no idea how many people see you, and get inspired!
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6/18/14 2:37 P
just remember you are doing something great to improve your life. one day they will be in the same boat as us and they will know how it feels. just keep up the good work and let it slide. they arent worth a second glance.
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6/18/14 2:26 P
People who make comments like that show the world what idiots they are. Don't ever let them get you down and if it happens, come on in to SP where there are lots of people who care about you and will build you up!
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6/18/14 2:23 P
I have a story that might help you feel a bit better.
Winston Churchill had been drinking heavily at a party when he bumped into Bessie Braddock, a Socialist Member of Parliament.
"Mr. Churchill, you are drunk," Braddock said harshly.
Churchill paused and said, "And Bessie, you are ugly. You are very ugly. I'll be sober in the morning."
The morale of the story
You may be overweight today, but tomorrow you will be lean and they will still be ugly.
Edited by: ARCHIMEDESII at: 6/18/2014 (14:30)
6/18/14 12:56 P
I'm so sorry that happened to you don't let some jerk make you feel bad about yourself. I can guarantee you he isnt thinking about you right now so don't give him the power to continue to hurt you!
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6/18/14 12:55 P
You can't let the boorish behavior of idiots keep you from doing what you want to get healthy. When guys like that see someone running the comment is either going to be sexually explicit and/or offensive or just straight up derogatory. Respond to them however you want, but remember that you're improving yourself and they'll just continue to be idiots.
Was out for a run on my lunch break today. I car full of guys, probably in their 20's, drove by, and one of them yelled out the window "keep running fatty". And yes, I'm sure that's what he said, because I guess he wanted to make sure that I heard him so he yelled it a second time.
I already have awful self-esteem, it's not really helping to know that the rest of the world views me as I feared - a fatty.
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