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PETHORN
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10/26/11 6:25 P

I know how hard it is to stay motivated. I'm there right now. I have a great support teem in my husband, three sons and daughter, as well as a couple of friends who also have lost a lot of weight. Yet, here I am, with only eight pounds to go, and I can't stayed focused.

Having said that, what we all need to do when we get to this point in our lives, is to really think about what you want. For me, my goal is only 8lbs away. So, that's pretty easy to reach. But I'm stumbling. I am setting myself up for failing by my thought processes. In the past, when I have gotten to my goal weight, I'm happy with my accomplishments of being at a healthy weight and the added benefit of less pain from my Fibromyalgia. Then within six months, my weight starts to creep up, and soon, I'm right back where I was before. I don't want that to happen again. My mind is saying that I will not keep off to weight and my heart is saying just keep going!

How many of us have been told - listen to your head, not your heart? Well, I'm going to do what I do most of the time, and go against the flow. I'm going to listen to my heart this time!

By writing down and sending this post, I have just helped myself and hopefully some of you into searching deep within to figure out what I needed to do to break through the stumbling block. I know it will be a struggle, but I will work through it and loose that last 8lbs.

Just remember, we are all able to do anything we put our minds (and hearts emoticon ) to get to the goals we set for ourselves. Remember, this journey is for yourself and you will make it to the goal you have set.

Tricia



TREESH08
Posts: 4
10/26/11 5:29 P

REBCCA, is there a place that tells how to use the diet? I went to the website, but I don't see details on how to do it....just a place to register.



REBCCA
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10/25/11 9:54 P

When I feel myself moving off track I take a day to only eat fruit, vegetables and organic whole grains....(The Duke University Rice Diet). It is like rebooting my body, getting everything back to mindful eating.



TREESH08
Posts: 4
10/25/11 9:07 P

STARDUST, I'm sorry about the loss of your grandfather. I think your plan to maintain and focus on your education is a good one....I can't seem to just maintain right now.

SHINE, that's what I was doing....and that's how I kept the weight off. I stayed in my calorie range Mon-Fri and ate what I wanted within reason on the weekends. It worked fine for me. The problem is, it's not working now and I want to eat what I want every day. I can't seem to get back to my self control. I know other things in my life have a role in this, but even though I know it, I can't seem to overcome it. I'm so distraught; it's a vicious cycle and I can't break it.



SHINE222
Posts: 232
10/25/11 8:05 P

This is just a suggestion. It is something that I find works for me. I, too, struggled tremendously with the idea of restricting my calorie intake again. So, I find psychologically, I can get through it easier sometimes if I give myself permission to indulge one or two days a week. Then what I do, is balance that out during the other days of the week. Instead of looking at your calories limits on a daily basis, (i.e. 1200 calories per day), try taking that daily number times 7 and then giving yourself wiggle room throughout the week. So, if you are trying to stay around 1200 calories daily, and you eat 2000 one day instead, just adjust your limit on the other days where it is easier for you to cut back. For me, I know I can get through a day or two of low calorie intake, if it means tomorrow I get pizza and cookies with my kids!



STARDUST2K4
Posts: 1,343
10/25/11 6:38 P

I totally understand how that goes. In the last three years, I've managed to lose 91 pounds, but it's slowed down a LOT. I've been focusing on maintaining for now because I'm currently taking 17 credits at school, and my grandfather passed away last month which was particularly stressful. The university I'm going to next term has a full gym, so I'm going to get back on strong in January, but right now I'm just going to focus on my education and maintaining my weight.



TREESH08
Posts: 4
10/25/11 6:02 P

Thanks for your support. :) I am so glad you are able to find your way back. I am just not there yet, but I am encouraged that you are.



MATTNICK
Posts: 13
10/25/11 5:52 P

I hear you, I had lost 85 lbs by summer of 2010, I kept it off for a while and by new years it slowly started slipping away, I am up about 35lbs now. I am going to step back on the scale on Friday. 2 nights ago I went through my closet and could not believe that I have very little clothes to fit me, quite depressing actually, I have just taken a deep breath and vow to start again. I stopped trying to see what I did wrong and remembered what I did right the first time.I am learning all my lessons over, how to eat how to exercise, drinking my water...etc. I know I have learned to have a healthy lifestyle and to do it the right way, but I too struggle with maintaining it. I made my vow Sunday night and although only 2 days in, I mentally feel great, I know I can do it again. What is really funny is I stopped at U weight loss here in town and they are telling me that for $3500 I can lose 25lbs, hell no, I did it once I can do it again. Sparkpeople is a great reference and information system, just take 2 steps back and start over. You can do it to!



TREESH08
Posts: 4
10/25/11 4:52 P

This is no different than anything you've heard before. I lost 103 lbs. I have kept it off for over a year. This summer has been particularly stressful for me (but who doesn't have stress?). I had days where I really did well, but more days that I did not. I kept telling myself I will get back on track in the fall and here I still am, more bad days than good. I am totally lost. I am disgusted with myself. I am slowly gaining weight. I have nothing, no motivation. I am totally deflated and exhausted. The idea of not eating depresses me. The idea of all the clothes in my closing slowly but surely slipping out of my grasp because they are too tight depresses me even more. I know what to do. I know how to do it. Yet I just can't. Why?

I have NO idea how to turn this around. Tell me I'm an idiot. emoticon



 
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