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BLUENOSE63 SparkPoints: (108,021)
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6/4/13 6:46 A

I know exactly what you mean. A couple of months ago at my gym, one of the plus size woman I frequently encourage in her exercise etc., told me I was her HERO....I just about fell over when she said that.....she said that as we are the same age (50) I showed her what was possible in her future as I do Iron 70.3s.....made my whole week.

TACDGB Posts: 6,136
6/3/13 11:37 P

I always knew this was true. The 210 lb. person is envious of the 175 lb. person. and the 175 lb. person is envious of the 145 lb. person who in turn is envious of the 125 lb. person. I have to remember this when I pick my weight apart.

BLUENOSE63 SparkPoints: (108,021)
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6/3/13 11:17 P

I am happy with the way I look after years of dedicated exercise.

ONLINEASLLOU SparkPoints: (64,509)
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6/3/13 9:17 P

... and I have seen people here who are already at my goal weight writing about how they look and feel so fat and hideous.

I think some of it has nothing to do with the reality of how good a person looks or how healthy they are. It's just their self-image -- not necessarily based on objective reality (if there is such a thing).

EMMYERS76 SparkPoints: (10,444)
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6/3/13 3:50 P

I have thought about similar things when I look at people's tickers at the bottom of their page. Often I see that they still want to lose 15 or 20 pounds and they are what I weigh now. So, I have to remind myself that everyone's goal is their own personal goal. I have to work hard at not comparing myself and my goal with others.

But, I do love how you have put it into perspective and are working on not beating yourself up.

CLRWILLIAMS25 SparkPoints: (34,625)
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6/3/13 3:15 P

I actually think about this quite a bit and try to keep it in mind when I get angry about my weight or when it fluctuates so often. We are always our own harshest critic.e

OBIESMOM2 SparkPoints: (148,986)
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6/3/13 12:15 P

that's what I like about the YMCA - there is always somebody there who can be your 'goal'.

it doesn't have to be about the number on the scale - it can be the weight that a person is able to lift, or how many push-ups they can do, or the pace they can run on the treadmill.

heck, if you can do ONE pull-up, you've definitely met one of my goals!

6/3/13 12:11 P

It's when I feel this way that I feel like helping others even more than I already do!

LILSPARKIE85 SparkPoints: (33,086)
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6/3/13 10:56 A

That is a fantastic way to look at it. I do this myself. Whenever I feel down on myself, I remember how fortunate I am to be as healthy as I am and that others are trying to get to where I am today. It motivates me to keep going!

KCLARK89 SparkPoints: (33,336)
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6/3/13 10:51 A

Love it!! I had a conversation at work recently with one of my managers and she mentioned how much she weighs which is about 3-4 pounds more than I do (we're about the same height) but my weight looks much better on me than on her (and it only being a few pounds, that's shocking). Sometimes it IS a wake-up call about the number on the scale that you HAVE to be at a certain number to be happy or to feel amazing which just isn't true.

I've had friends who are shocked to find out how "much" I weigh and they always give me a number 20 pounds lighter than what I actually am. Go out and be that inspiration that it IS more than just the number on the scale :)

LORIVIOLA SparkPoints: (136,345)
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6/3/13 9:21 A

a good way to look at it. Thanks for posting

I_HEART_MY_FAM Posts: 1,809
6/3/13 9:07 A

We all have those days, it is human nature. I hope today is better for you in your choices and your self image.

SHERYLDS Posts: 15,865
6/3/13 8:12 A

Very true ...but everything is relative
and the only goal that counts is the one we set for ourselves.
There is a fine line between accepting ourselves for what we are
and not pushing ourselves to where we want to be.

It's like someone's post signature that reads:
It is not okay for an alcoholic to get drunk once in a while.
So do not tell a food addict it is okay to eat like sh*t once in a while
emoticon gee ... I wonder who posted that?

ELMA1913 Posts: 5,051
6/3/13 7:30 A

Never thought about it that way. Gives me a whole new outlook. emoticon

JENNILACEY SparkPoints: (80,279)
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6/3/13 7:23 A

Wow. How weird! I was just having a similar thought this morning.

I've been really, really hard on myself lately because while transitioning to maintenance I have been falling for some terrible binging and have been struggling to get it under control. I've gained weight as a result over the last 2 months. Yes... I've been feeling like a fat slob, I'm ashamed to admit. Like my inner fat girl is trying to resurface and gain back control.

But just before I read your post I was thinking there are people right now who would kill to be where I'm at right now. I would have killed to be where I'm at right now last summer!

I probably need to stop being so hard on myself and reflect on how far I've come. Be proud of my accomplishments rather than focusing on every little trip and mistake I make. I know I will never give up my new lifestyle because I love it and with time and determination I will conquer maintenance just like I conquered my weight.

Edited by: JENNILACEY at: 6/3/2013 (07:27)
GYPSYROVER Posts: 3,240
6/3/13 6:45 A

I think that's a great way to look at this journey! You just might be where someone else is aiming for! I also see so many posts - and make my own - about stumbles, discouragement, etc.! It shows me that although my performance is not always stellar - I just get back on the right track & keep going!

Wishing you a great week! emoticon emoticon emoticon

Edited by: GYPSYROVER at: 6/3/2013 (06:46)
NAUSIKAA Posts: 4,848
6/3/13 6:21 A

I feel the reverse of this a lot, actually. A LOT of women on SP consider my current weight (on them, not on me) to be really really high and overweight and terrible. This is either because they are shorter (I'm 5'8") or they have a different body type or they are not muscular or just personal taste - but I am constantly seeing posts and spark pages of women who are at my current weight and really unhappy about it. I actually am at a fantastic weight (though I am working hard to reduce my body fat - so it's not actually my GOAL weight) and I sometimes have to remind myself that there's nothing wrong with my number, it's mine and no one else's and yes, there are a lot of women who will not be satisfied until they're in the 110s or 120s. So YES you are correct.

TRYINGHARD54 Posts: 5,288
6/3/13 5:55 A

Stop posting the disclaimers ! lol

6/3/13 5:53 A

So here I sit thinking to myself what a fat slob I feel like today after some not great food choices over the weekend then I thought, "I may not be happy with how I look/feel today but maybe, just MAYbe, I'm at a place where someone else may want to be..."

I know I should be thankful to myself for getting the results I have gained rather than picking on myself for what I perceive as shortfalls and remember that I may just be at someone else's goal weight, fitness, whatever...

What do YOU think?
(disclaimer: no personal attacks on me please, this is only a primer question.....jeezsh, one day I won't have to keep posting these disclaimers)

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