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GLITTERFAIRY77 Posts: 8,023
11/27/12 12:14 P

Do like my kids' father..."Well, it's different. The important thing is that you like it." Smartest...move...ever...

Edited by: GLITTERFAIRY77 at: 11/27/2012 (12:14)
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STEELER71 Posts: 7,135
11/27/12 9:33 A

Knowing myself like I do, Iwould tactfully invite her to come with me and visit my hairdresser and maybe just make a few little adjustments. All my friends know my hairdresser can perform miracles so maybe she wouldn't be too insulted. One can only hope for the best.

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11/27/12 9:27 A

The advice I have read in this thread could apply to men as well. I would never be the first to mention it. If the owner of the haircut brings it up, then I would consider making a positive comment. You had better know the person really, really well to make a negative comment.

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11/27/12 9:18 A

NSMANN,You are so right! Our society can be so critical of women! It's our responsibility, as women, to be supportive of one another!

NSMANN Posts: 965
11/26/12 5:13 P

I definitely would not say anything negative. When it comes to personal appearance we ladies need to stick together and not tear each other down. She knows already whether she likes the cut or not. You might as well make her feel good about it; why would you even THINK of criticizing her?

LOUNMOUN Posts: 1,332
11/26/12 3:10 P

If the person didn't ask for your opinion you don't have to say anything at all.

I would find out how they feel about the haircut. "I see you got your haircut. It is a pretty big change for you. How do you feel about it?"

If they did ask my opinion on their new cut and seem happy about the cut then I would find one positive thing to say about it at least- not a lie. "I bet it is easy to care for when it is shorter" "It looks much cooler for summer" I might then add that I preferred their previous style.

If they ask but seem unhappy about the cut I might say that I also don't think that style suits them and ask if they plan to let it grow out or try something different.

I would never use the words hideous or horrendous when speaking to them about it.



1954MARG Posts: 243
11/26/12 1:37 P

Say I preferred the old style, but I am an old fogey!

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11/26/12 1:30 P

It depends... If you've always had an open relationship, gently say you liked it better before. However, if she's sensitive, I'd "fib" and say "It's fine". Deep down most people already know if they look silly or not! Sometimes reminding a person isn't worth it. It's like when I've gained weight back in the past, I know my close friends see it... But they're kind, so they don't acknowledge it. I would feel terrible if someone pointed it out. Maybe think of your friend's situation this way... All (most) of us on SP can relate to feeling self-conscious, at one point or another, about weight gain. Hope this helps!

CMCOLE Posts: 2,667
11/26/12 1:21 P

do not mention it.
If asked; try to avoid the question by saying something else, (but I can't think of anything at present to tell you to say)

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11/26/12 11:52 A

This is exactly why most men pretend to act oblivious towards clothes and haircuts. We notice, we just dent want to have to give an opinion on it.

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11/26/12 11:50 A

Ignore it.

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SONICB Posts: 4,304
11/26/12 11:38 A

I ignore it. Not my hair, not my place. :)

JICKEE Posts: 411
11/26/12 11:34 A

Sounds like an issue for Dr. Phil, myself i would say it looks good on you

JOANIEBUG46 Posts: 4,212
11/26/12 11:25 A

If He/she likes it, it doesn't matter how you feel about it! I think haircuts should be totally up to the individual. He/she may feel absolutely spectacular in it!

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EOWYN2424 Posts: 6,320
11/26/12 11:13 A

If she's a close friend and she asked for your honest opinion, I would break it to her gently.....

If she's not a close friend, I would keep quiet about it....

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11/26/12 11:00 A

I always live by the "can't say anything nice rule" unless it is life threatening. You know people always ask me to tell them the truth and when I say, "do you really want the truth" they say yes.....I would say about 25% of the time it works out well. So the odds arent' in your favour for telling her what you think......

HONEYFLOWER43 Posts: 1,420
11/26/12 10:48 A

if it is a close friend, ask her how she likes it, if she loves it then keep quite.

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11/26/12 10:03 A

lie looks good! but say you liked the otherway better

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11/26/12 9:55 A

I wouldn't comment on it unless she asked my opinion. If we're close friends, I would tell her the truth in the nicest way possible. If we're not close, then I would compliment some other aspect of her hair. "It looks so shiny!" "Your hair is so healthy and the color is just perfect."

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11/26/12 9:46 A

ignore it

SUNSHINE99999 Posts: 8,434
11/26/12 9:38 A

I would choose my words carefully.

MOTOMAMA Posts: 2,010
11/26/12 8:54 A

If they hate it then I will commiserate and try to help come up with a solution, but if I think at all that they like the haircut then I would never say anything negative! I think it would hurt if someone told me they didn't like my haircut.

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11/26/12 8:35 A


. . . that depends . . . it can all be perspective.

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11/26/12 8:35 A

gently say in a nice way that you liked it better before but only if she asks. If she doesn't ask I would ignore it, she will get the message.

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DIDS70 Posts: 5,368
11/26/12 8:32 A

Well first you hope since you haven't made a decision that the friend is not also on SP. Learning that a friend didn't like something and then went to social media to find out how to react to something would hurt more than just telling the friend that you really don't like it.

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11/26/12 4:58 A

Say you liked it a little better before the haircut-that it was familiar. Seemed more "her".

Edited by: PT.JEFFGIRL at: 11/26/2012 (04:58)
EX-PRESSO Posts: 478
11/26/12 4:34 A

depends - If she ASK me if I like it, I don't lie - I would say that I liked it better before.
But for ex. a very close friend of mine got always a not so suiting haircut and its simply not a topic we talk about.
Last time I saw her she wore a very very ugly jumper. Grey, polyacrylic, with a very odd pattern, to thick, to shapeless. She was very proud and said that she liked it so much, but her husband not ... I told her, that I'm with her husband this time .... But I laughed and she was not offended :)

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11/26/12 3:40 A

Depends on your relationship with the friend, and whether they have asked for your honest opinion. For a good friend who has asked for the truth - you owe her nothing less, but be gentle....

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11/26/12 1:51 A

I know in the past with my sister, I just said, "Oh, that's cute; I like it better long, but it's cute..." She grew it back out. This is a tough one! Good luck :)

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11/26/12 1:28 A

Years ago my MIL painted her house a really hideous colour combination. She was very proud of it. I never made any comment about whether I did or didn't like it but kind of skirted around it so that it was open-ended. I told my son about it while we were on our way up to her place, and warned him that she would ask him - he was 16 at the time. He told me not to worry. Well, she DID ask him, He just responded "Well, Nana, you are a trend setter!" She was very happy with that, and he got away with NOT telling her just what he thought of it!

Is there some way you can apply this to your friend?

I know when my mother told me she didn't like my hair cut (which I really DID like) I was a wee bit hurt. Mind you, I hadn't asked her for her opinion, either!

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11/26/12 12:20 A

Never say anything it will grow out....

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11/26/12 12:10 A

Depends on the friend... if they love it.... then just ignore it. But if this is a friend you guys a re brutally honest to eachother... let them know!

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11/26/12 12:07 A

What do you do when a close friend gets a truly horrendous new haircut? Do you just ignore it, or lie and pretend to like it, or tell them you liked it better before the haircut?

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