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GRANGER_ENVY SparkPoints: (0)
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10/3/11 6:16 P

Hi X_Serena_X, I've been in this same boat. It was easy to diet the first time around (well, the first many few times around), but this last time has just been Hell for me. I lost about 20+ lbs at first and was (like you said) about half way to my goal weight. And then I just stopped. For no reason!! And when I finally did step back on the scale, I had gained back about 10 lbs. I was distraught, and it's taken a couple months since then of yo-yo dieting until I joined this site and decided enough was enough. This isn't going to be a diet, it's a lifestyle change. If you still haven't weighed yourself, I suggest you don't just yet. Give yourself a week or a couple solid weeks of no messups with diet and exercise, and then weigh yourself (so as to not feel discouraged). Be strong and remember that everyone plateaus and everyone messes up at times and everyone is human. We all make mistakes and especially struggle with diet in some form or another. Don't be too strict about what not to eat or do (don't turn into an orthorexic! lol), but learn or reinforce smarter habits.

MAGGIEVAN SparkPoints: (204,392)
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10/3/11 5:28 P

Start with setting Spark Streaks, at first for only a week, then for a month and build on that. Good luck.

CRYSALLIS1 SparkPoints: (73,544)
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10/2/11 9:47 P

I'm sure glad to have discovered that there is a Panic Button! I have done so well as a 1 month new spark member then I let the usual stumbling blocks trip me up. "I'm to busy to plan." Also travelled out of town for work and was overcome with restaurant temptations! New week. New plan.Spark people has been fun & motivating. I have missed it. emoticon

X_SERENA_X Posts: 63
9/29/11 5:25 P

Thanks for the advice guys!! After sleeping on it im feeling a lot more positive! .. I got on the scales and it actually wasnt that bad :) .. Iv gotten back into my workout regime and now i just need to get my food patterns back on track. I already slipped up once today but hey, nobodys perfect. Guess i just gotta take it one day at a time and keep connected to sparkpeople where i know people are on the same journey as me .. Thanks Again!!! xx

ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (197,155)
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9/29/11 10:06 A


Everyone is right. You can't look at this as a diet. Diets are short term fixes for a long term problem. If you want to take the weight off and keep it off, this must be a complete lifestyle change. The changes you're making to your healthy today, you keep for the rest of your life, not the amount of time it takes to lose the weight. Because what happens once you do lose all the weight ? Do you go back to your old eating habits ? If you do, you will regain all the weight.

If you want to take the weight off and keep the weight off, you must continue to eat right, watch your portions and get some regular exercise that includes some strength training. AND you don't have to give up foods you really like. Spark People has never been about deprivation. It's all about moderation and portion control. Yes, a cheeseburger, fries, beer, brownie, cookie, chocolate, etc... can all be a part of a healthy lifestyle as long as you are mindful of the portion.

So, what to do is try to reincorporate those healthy habits back into your daily life. Do you eat 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies ? If not that's a great place to start making improvements. If eating 6-9 seems like eating too much, then start with 2-3 servings. Keep adding a serving each week until you are eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies.

What are you doing for exercise ? Do you have a gym membership ? if so, pick a time you'd like to go and check out their class schedule. try a class. use the weight room. try the bikes or treadmills. Get your body moving.

What's Newton's First Law ? A body in motion tends to stay in motion.


BRITOMART Posts: 8,160
9/28/11 10:31 P

Serena, I'm with Coach Nancy on this one: you need to find what will work for the rest of your life--and that's unlikely to be not eating when others do BUT it will mean portion control and attention to what you are eating. (Just one example.) She calls it "diet mentality:" I call it 'short-term thinking'--the idea that I-can-endure-anything-for-x-amount-of-time
-and-then-I'll-get-back-to-normal. That's NOT going to work: never has, never will.

HOW to get back...well, with one small change. Practice that till it's a comfortable habit--maybe your 8 glasses of water, maybe a 15 (then 30) minute walk, maybe...whatever seems right to you. WHEN it's a comfortable habit (experts say 30 days...I find that's ok for water, but I needed more time with exercise) then select another small change and make that. Slower? yeah, but fast didn't work for you (or me...)

Good success on this LIFE-LONG journey!

JIMR625 SparkPoints: (6,356)
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9/28/11 10:16 P

Try to remember what it was that made you feel the best about your previous experience. When I started, I started with the diet part first. After getting through the hunger at the very beginning I really noticed a difference in how I felt eating healthier foods. A little later I started with the exercise and remember the great feeling of having more energy.

Whichever thing you did previously that gave you the best feeling, start with that. once you start to see or feel some positive results then add another thing, one at a time untill you are back on track.

And I know you are scared to hop back on the scale, so don't do it right away unless you feel like it will be of a benefit to you. You know yourself better than any of us and if seeing a number will get you down and be a bad experience then don't risk it. if an increase will motivate you to get back on track then use that motivation. The scale will always be there when you feel like you are ready for it.

Most important keep trying. Like you said you have done it before and there is absolutely no reason you can't do it again!!!!!! Were pulling for you.

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9/28/11 9:35 P


Letting go of the diet mentality was a big breakthrough to me. I spent over 30 years stuck in a yo-yo diet pattern until I decided 6 1/2 years ago that I was no longer going to just lose weight via yet another diet--I was going to get healthy which meant I was going to have to integrate small permanent changes into my lifestyle.

Just by making small permanent changes into your life can lead to big results down the road. There is no place for perfection in this journey we call healthy living. One oopsie moment doesn't mean we have blown it for the day...we always have the opportunity to make healthy choices any time.

Every day brings the opportunity of new beginnings...if you fall, pick yourself back up and carry on and know that your SparkPeople friends are here to help you along.

I hope this helps! emoticon

Coach Nancy

X_SERENA_X Posts: 63
9/28/11 8:15 P

Hey All ..

.. My diet was going soooo well, I lost over half of the weight I wanted to get rid of and then .. i stopped! I just got sick of seeing everyone eating when i cant and i gave in to my desires! Iv been off it for about a month and im sooo scared to get on the scales again .. Its gonna be horrible!

It was soo easy for me to start the first time round, i just woke up one morning and decided to do something about my weight but now, im finding it hard to get back on track. Iv done it before so i know i can do it but it just seems like a mountain im never gonna be able to cross! What they hell do i do to get back on track!?

Phew .. Just needed to rant for a while :)

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