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MYREALANA SparkPoints: (30,332)
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7/18/11 1:10 P

I have a 16-year-old son.

I leave him a list and say they all must be done before anything with a screen gets turned on.

He doesn't do it. I know he wakes up and watches TV for a couple of hours before lunch, then rushes around like a madman trying to get done before I get home.

But he has learned to finish the list. If I didn't leave him a list, he would spend the whole day in front of the XBox.

If I thought he would be outside getting exercise or playing with his friends, I would probably be less insistant on chores.

I generally leave him one big chore, and several small ones. For instance, today is wash, dry, fold and put away all of his clothes and his little brother's; take out the trash; scoop the cat litter.

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7/17/11 10:08 A

I agree with the list. If he doesn't get it done by the end of the day, talk about the need for time management and if the problem is bad enough, something like, "you can't leave the house until you get everything on the list done" will motivate him to get it done a bit faster.

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7/17/11 8:45 A

A list would be better for a teenager. They are master manipulators when it comes to wasting time. The workload would be appropriate to whatever you have going on in your home. I assume he is already responsible for his own room and own messes? Add his own laundry if he doesn't do it already. Chores are part of life, so make them integral to his life where possible. In my opinion, chores should be every day.

MJREIMERS Posts: 7,527
7/16/11 8:07 P

We use a list with our four kids. They take turns mowing lawn and cleaning the cat litter box. They also have to make dinner once a week. Each child, ages 11-16, chose to do their own laundry and all of them help take out the trash each week. Everyone divides the dusting, vacuuming, and general cleaning. They each take turn cleaning "the kids" bathroom each week.

It works well for us and I hope it helps your family. (My daughter has to read three of the classics for a class in the fall, so she does homework, too. Plus she has a part time job outside of the house.)

JENMC14 Posts: 2,786
7/16/11 7:41 P

A list is better than a time limit, I think. I think one or two items each day would probablybe appropriate.

Or, things like tidy your room, clear the table, do the dishes, etc. that is an everyday routine. You could also offer incentives for "extra" chores such as more TV/Video game time or a dinner out at the end of the week it so many extras are completed or even money, if you're comfortable with that.

7/16/11 2:34 P

There's currently a feud in our home and it's over chores and determining the right amount of responsibility for a 15 year old.

I could use some input here. It's summer time and there's no school, although my son is studying an hour a day on a subject he had trouble with last year.

So after one hour of study time, how much time would be appropriate for chores?
Is it best to have a certain number of hours per day for chores or to have a list and be finished once the list is completed?
How many days of the week should chores be done?

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