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CYGNATIUS
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7/4/10 4:55 A

Some people feel the need to put others down whatever their size. How you react is your choice, you can either let the jerk ruin your day and send your diet off track or you can chose to ignore him and not let it affect you.
Wasn't it Eleanor Roosevelt who said "no one can make you feel inferior without your permission"?
His comments say more about him than you. There are no laws about wearing shorts whatever your size (unless you are in Saudia Arabia hen you'd be arrested regardless of how hot you look!).
The people that love and care about you and who really matter love you for who you are regardless of what you weigh.




JEEPNBOYZ
Posts: 539
7/4/10 3:17 A

Angie...just cruzed through your page and well..you're absolutely adorable.
You had a crappy day and unfortunately, if you don't live in a bubble, you will have a few more days like this but not too often. People, for the most part, are happy and considerate but sometimes we run into the occasional loser. The thing is that you'll reach your goal weight and be just as adorable BUT will still have to deal with a stupid comment once in awhile. Everyone experiences this; EVERYONE! Think of it as a small test of your inner strength. I think you passed this recent test with a A+. You didn't drown your hurt feelings with crappy, unhealthy food. That would have just made you feel worse and you realized that on your own. You're strong and you're determined. I don't feel sorry for you. I admire you.



FJELLREV
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7/4/10 1:48 A

I just remind myself that the person is ignorant and I shouldn't let ignorant people get to me since they're not worth it. and their opinions shouldn't even matter.



KALVINS_MAMA
Posts: 2,657
7/3/10 11:33 P

Gosh that must have hurt, it is okay to hurt but think how miserable that poor $#@&%$# must be to treat another human being in such a way. He isn't happy with himself is all! I hope you get over that rude comment and turn it into positive energy. emoticon



TRILLIANTOO
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7/3/10 10:20 P

There are a tremendous lot of really low class people who think making comments like that is appropriate or acceptable.

I have more patience for a child ... but adults, forget it.


Think about those kinds of comments as practice ... because jerks and rude people will be jerks and rude about something, whatever they can find. And they like to pick on whomever stands out most.

There's a Japanese saying that goes "never be the tallest nail because that's the one that gets hit".

Ok, so it's kinda opposite how we think, that we should strive to stand out, be innovative, excel, not conform, but the idea is the same.

If they're not rude to you about your weight they'll pick on your clothes, your hair, your car, your food, your ... whatever.

I've never weighed over 200 lbs, but I've gotten my fair share of rude comments and verbal attacks for a variety of things ... my interests, my hobbies, my choice in music, my passion for certain work related things (let's just say if I was an accountant that I enjoyed accounting), my hair, my extra-curricular activities, my methods of helping people understand new concepts, how I look, what I wear ....

One time I was feeling particularly wonderful and got all dressed up, met my friends for coffee, and this one guy just verbally bashed the crap out of me for my clothing choice. I actually questioned if I was looking idiodic ... but then I met another guy, an actual friend, and he was just blown away by how marvelous I looked.


So, it's going to happen, if not for one thing, than another.


When I read your post, my first thought of my struggles with this guy I was living with. I'd just started changing my eating and was really struggling with all those cravings and desires, and having to work really hard at "being good" vs. now where my taste buds are all swiched over to liking the good stuff.

Anyway, he had chocolate, cookies, ice cream, refined flour pasta, tortillas, crackers, cookies, sugary this and that, all over the place. I'd be finished dinner we'd watch a movie, and he'd get out a big bowl of chocolate ice cream which smelled incredible, and then lean over to kiss me with chocolate breath, which, though it sounds kinda gross, the smell of all that chocolate just drove me crazy.

But he didn't decide to lose weight and essentially I just had to learn to live with the temptations ... and it made me stronger. So for instance going to a party or BBQ is no big deal because I faced far more temptations at home on a never-ending basis.

Not that being treated rudely should be never ending, but having to deal with it makes you stronger.


Honestly, were it me, I'd be saying someting like "Oh yeah, check me out ... I'm smaller than I used to be ... lost 45 lbs and going strong! Whoo hoo!"


Or, like others have said, just realized the guy is an idiot and feel sorry for him that his parents didn't raise him better to be a decent man.








KRICKET57
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7/3/10 9:43 P

First and foremost, congratulations on the weight loss. You are doing so well, keep up the good work. The strength and perseverance to get that far is phenomenal.

Second, when people make comments that should not be made, remember, you are doing something positive, they are not. Not everyone takes the time to look inside and see the wonderful person there. Obviously your co-workers think you are great, your friends think you are great, and you think you are doing great. Don't let small minded people get you down. It doesn't matter what you wear, it is how far you have come. Part of the journey is learning to love yourself and be proud of yourself. Don't let small minded, bored or angry people put you down, and do not let them put you off the track, you are doing great, keep up the good work.

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RUNANDRUN
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7/3/10 9:20 P

What I really want to say, can't on this public forum. First, cograts on the weight loss...see it as the accomplishment that it is. Second, you're losing weight for yourself, so keep that in perspective. Third, no matter who you are, or what you do, there is always some poor, twisted, sick and sad soul who needs to put you down to feel better about themselves. Keep your head up and see the beauty in who you are and where you are going. You're probably much happier with what you see when you look in the mirror than what that sucker does!



BEGONIAC
Posts: 3,723
7/3/10 9:11 P

Some people are just plain ignorant. You're beautiful!
Don't give it another thought. Do you think maybe the guys weren't hitting on you because you were feeling down on yourself? You KNOW you look good! You were just off that night!!!
Congrats on your fantastic loss! Don't let one turkey mess you up...you're doing sooo great! emoticon



GLITTERFAIRY77
Posts: 8,023
7/3/10 8:48 P

Baby, in my neck of the woods, "Damn you got a fat @$$!" is a compliment. Big girls do it better. Don't you know???!

And even when I've heard it in such a way when it was not a compliment, I'd laugh it off. Or counter, "Yeah. It's fat, and my man loves it." or "OH NO! I swear, I was a size four this morning!" to drive home the fact that they aren't telling me anything I don't already know. In your case though, I would have let him know you heard him..."And I look good, too. Don't I? Say I don't." And give him an "I dare you" look.

220 is sexy. I can hardly wait til I'm back to that again.



CINDYA1962
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7/3/10 8:45 P

With people like that, I think it could always be worse...I could either be them or wake up next to them.



SALEMWITCHCHILD
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7/3/10 8:41 P

Just re-affirm in my mind that they mean nothing, that I am my owner person with my own beliefs, values, and thoughts and what I believe is the only thing that matters. I've had a lot of practice trust me. If its someone you respect and love thats harder, but for some acquaintance on the net its easy to do.



KENP22
Posts: 1,247
7/3/10 8:21 P

i pray for them



LDYREBEL1010
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7/3/10 7:48 P

What I think is most telling is compare the one person who made the rude comment with the number of people here who are responding and encouraging you. That ratio is definitely in your favor, and the people who have only terrible things to say are in the tiny minority. I'm a firm believer in the fact that there are more people out there willing to support you then there are people who want to tear you down.

And as others have said, if somebody thinks its acceptable to say something so hurtful, and say it to your face, then they have their own problems that they will hopefully someday deal with. Either they are so insecure about themselves that they must tear others down to feel better about themselves, or they might just be a heartless jerk who doesn't care about others feelings. Either way, they deserve pity more than anything else.

As for the club, I know that can be tough. But realize that clubs are filled with skeevy dudes who are just looking to pick up a woman on the "meat market". Ew, I wouldn't want any of them looking my way. Focus on meeting guys who would appreciate you for more than just how much you look like a vogue model.



SUZZYBFIT
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7/3/10 6:54 P

Anyone that makes such comments are purely ignorant of life itself.
On the other hand however hon, don't allow such comments to drive you to emotional eating because this is self punishment.

You don't have to feel guilty because you are already heading down on the scale and doing what you need to do to get healthy.

In your lifetime you will have many more rude comments just as we all will but how you yourself handle the comments is what will make or break you.
You want to be a winner so don't allow rudeness beat you down. Pull yourself back up where you deserve to be for all of the accomplishments you have made and because you are soooo worth it.

Good luck my friend and know there are all sorts of people in the world who don't care who they hurt but you are better than them. emoticon

Edited by: SUZZYBFIT at: 7/3/2010 (18:55)


COUNTCALORIE2
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7/3/10 5:58 P

If there's one thing I've figured out, I'm not going to "measure up" for everyone. That's why staying centered, knowing where I've come from and what I've accomplished, and being proud of myself is all important. We're our own worst critics...and best supporters! If we love ourselves for who we are right now, it shouldn't matter what anyone else says/thinks.



CAMEOSUN
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7/3/10 5:36 P

Don't give up on your goals...you've already done so well !!

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SWEETLIPS
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7/3/10 5:32 P

Hey, Hey, Hey - Congratulations on a 45 pound weight loss - you are rocking it. All of my life, I have been at the end of someone' negative comments - I am tall and large bones - even when thin, and proportioned for my height, it would be comments like " Oh, you are such a big girl", "Jolly Green Giant", "you got some big feet", as a result, I spent many a year being ashamed, after awhile, I was able to move past the negative and started to celebrate me - it no longer matters what people say about my physical self, it is the heart of the matter for me. I am fearfully and wonderfully made and grateful. I have also adapted this saying from Ghandi -"don't let people walk through your mind with dirty feet".

Shake a loose those feelings from the one who said, you have made an accomplishment and no one can take it from you, unless you decide to give it AWAY. keep doing what you have been doing and remember you are your own precious - and life is yours to live. Wear your shorts proudly as a young generously built young lady and love you hard and on purpose - then pain will lessen and a smile will come and peace will enter your heart.



BANKER-CHUCK
Posts: 5,570
7/3/10 5:19 P

You can turn it right back to him and say: "Well at least I can go on a diet but you are ugly and that will last forever"
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SLENDER2B
Posts: 474
7/3/10 4:39 P

I remind myself that "What goes around comes around."
Some day these rude people will reap the consequences of what they say or do even though I will probably never be a witness to it.



KARATE_KID
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7/3/10 4:22 P

Mudmouse - I admire your restraint. I would have been sorely tempted to make the store owner wear his stupid cake.
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KARATE_KID
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7/3/10 4:17 P

If somebody tries to unload their garbage on your front step, would you accept it, or would you tell them it's their problem to deal with? It's the same with rude comments. You don't have to respond or react to jerks; in fact, since they may be acting rude to get attention, ignoring them will make them crazy. Then go and do something nice for yourself.

You've got lots of reasons to be proud of yourself.

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DISLIMPET
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7/3/10 4:16 P

You are FANTASTIC! Both for being dedicated to losing weight and getting healthy AND for sticking to a plan that's working so well for you! AWESOME!!!!!!

The truck driver was just plain rude. And, sorry to say, there are a few real jerks out there who feel they have some innate right to make insensitive, hurtful comments out loud. No subject is taboo to people like them. Could be overweight, underweight, big boobs, little boobs, big noses, little noses, clothes, wrinkles, hair color, our cars, our kids, our pets, our spouses, our politics....the list goes on and on. Sadly, they're around. Fortunately, they seem to be a small, ignorant portion of humanity. Most folks have manners!

I know you felt left out about not being 'hit' on when you went out with your friend, especially after the events earlier in the day, but isn't getting bothered by strange men when going out for the evening more annoying than esteem building?

I'm proud of you for dealing with the insult and moving on. That takes guts because it's really, really hard; but you did it!

My trick, and it's kinda weird, is to treat those hateful comments like someone just 'passed stinky gas' in public.

No comment needed; just get clear of the 'cloud'!





SDIETRI1
Posts: 329
7/3/10 4:15 P

It's hard not to sometimes, but I usually feel sorry for the person since I feel they have a very low self-image that they feel they need to criticize someone else. Then I wonder what type of family they grew up in that they think it's okay to be rude at all. That is just sad.
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FLICKIE13
Posts: 3,951
7/3/10 4:12 P

Just remember that you're better than the idiot making bad remarks and consider the source. He's an idiot. It doesn't matter whether or not he knows you lost weight, he's an inconsiderate fool!



YANKEEGAL16
Posts: 1,283
7/3/10 4:09 P

First, congrats on the weight loss emoticon - as for the "idiot" that said that to you, he should be ashamed of himself. That is an idiot & low life if I have ever seen one. Never, ever let anyone get to you. You must hold your head high & let stuff roll off your shoulders. You will get thru life much better if you can do that. There will ALWAYS be mean spirited, unkind people in this world so you have to get over it.
I am so sorry this happened to you & do not let this comment get you to the point of giving up your weight loss journey - YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT!!!!

Take care & keep up the great work emoticon

Denise in PA



BROWNEYES8
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7/3/10 4:06 P

I don't, that is one of my "flaws", I am waaaay to
sensitive. My feelings get hurt often.



DELRIO1
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7/3/10 4:04 P

some good responses on here.

Edited by: DELRIO1 at: 7/3/2010 (16:04)


MSWANDACHAN
Posts: 508
7/3/10 3:49 P

People honk and yell stuff at me when I'm out walking and it just makes me walk harder. Keep up the good work, you are doing excellent. Your Spark People family will be here to have your back and give you words of encouragement! emoticon



RUNFAST5
Posts: 40
7/3/10 3:40 P

i just figure that people like that dont deserve a response. i have much better things to do with my time than to consume it with a comeback. life is too short. surround it with good energy



GOALIEGRANDMA3
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7/3/10 3:22 P

I try to consider the source ( that person must be ignorant, I consider my self smart. Therefore i know the truth.



JANLEEW
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7/3/10 3:20 P

Choice, choose to let those slide away!



BLUSTAR
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7/3/10 3:17 P

smile and not let it get to you



JILLTBNAGART
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7/3/10 3:03 P

I just don't understand. Girl was that man perfect? Did he have the right to say something to you? Most truck drivers are horribly fat themselves. Why would you even let a strangers comment, a person you don't know, don't want to know even bother you unless he was God's gift to the world. He wasn't. YOu know it. Move on. Why hurting yourself with bad food choices is going to make life better is another mystery to me.

Carry on. You're doing so well!



HINOTO
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7/3/10 2:57 P

First off, congratulations on the weight loss! I bet you feel amazing!

And as far as the rude comment, don't sweat it. Some people are just jerks who need to make comments like that so that they feel better about their own faults. You know that you've lost weight and that you are continuing to do good things for your body, so they can say whatever they want, cause you'll just get smaller and smaller!

Or you could be sassy like me and say "I may be fat, but you're ugly and I can diet!" :D



BILL60
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7/3/10 2:47 P

Ignore it.



PIANOLADY31
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7/3/10 2:44 P

I am a firm believer that when people say negative things, it's only because they feel bad about themselves. The fact that he would say anything about you at all without knowing you means that he has a problem with himself. You should be REALLY proud of your weight loss, that took a lot of hard work and dedication to lose all of that.

Anybody who wouldn't take the time to get to know you, or who would say anything rude is missing out. They are the ones who lose, not you. And the next time you go out and guys hit on your friend and not you, remember that those guys aren't worth having because they only look skin-deep. Any guy worth dating will adore you no-matter what size you are and support your journey wherever it leads.

Keep working hard and don't let some stupid comments get you down. :)



PEDAL-PUSHER
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7/3/10 2:26 P

I am adding my CONGRATS on the weight loss! I wore shorts at my biggest, 280 pounds. (even have a pic on my page with me at that weight in shorts) I would have rather heard the rude comments than pass out from the heat! Some people are just ignorant, and have the need to criticize others to feel superior. I recently had a guy that I had only exchanged a few emails with tell me that I was taking this exercise and running thinng to seriously..........I blogged about him in 'Jerks.'
Anyway, I have a quote somewhere about dealing with that sort of thing, but could not find it, found this one instead.

"It is easy - terribly easy - to shake a man's faith in himself. To take advantage of that, to break a man's spirit is devil's work."
- George Bernard Shaw


Remember to not let the negativity of others bring you to their level, make this your own personnal INDEPENDENCE DAY from the bad advice of well-meaning people, and athe comments from ignorant strangers.



BOOKAYB
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7/3/10 2:25 P

Oh, rude comments get to me . . . I just choose to respond or not, rather than to instantly react.



CINDYHOUGHTON
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7/3/10 1:49 P

You can choose to let them have control over your life or you can keep it for yourself. If there is any truth, do something about it and turn it in to something positive. Most of the time it is their insecurities that cause them to make the comments to begin with.



KJFITNESSDUDE
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7/3/10 1:44 P

Between 'stimuli' and 'response' there exists a space where WE ALONE get to choose our reaction.

Learn this concept and live by it and you will be FREE!

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btw - for what it's worth, I think you look sexy....



MRSNANABOAT
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7/3/10 1:10 P

Some people just don't have any manners and don't consider how their comments make others feel! It isn't easy to just shake it off or not let it bother you but I encourage you to focus on how far you have come(which that rude person knows nothing about), and how great you're doing! I'm proud of you girl I've lost 40 lbs and I can't even bring myself to wear shorts except around the house where only I will see them! I have had plenty of rude comments, one friend of a (former) friend, posted on a social network page asking if I was a man or a woman because she couldn't tell(and I was wearing a dress in the picture!) Just keep on going with your great progress(you didn't go to McDonald's way to go!), and know that you are a beautiful, strong, deserving woman. We're all here for you.



CMERLE1
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7/3/10 12:32 P

First of all, congratulations on the weight loss !! That's fantastic !!
The idiots who say things to you like that must really hate themselves to make comments like that to you. Maybe it's jealousy that you're doing so well and they're not. Maybe they get off on hurting others' feelings. Yes, you can consider the soure and ignore it, laugh it off, or whatever. But words do hurt, we all know that.
When I had put some weight back on, I went to visit some in-laws. At the time, their then 10-year-old neice came right out and asked me if I was pregnant or just fat? Talk about hurt, that was beyond hurt. But I didn't say anything and her mother made her apologize. A few years later, the girl, who I knew was pregnant, saw me in Wal-Mart. And yes, she looked really fat for how far she was along. It was very tempting to ask her if she was pregnant or just fat but I didn't say anything (or hardly anything to her) and walked away. But like I said, words hurt.
I'm not saying to ignore it, laugh it off, or whatever. If I were you, I'd just consider the soure and concentrate on how far you've come. You are a fantastic person and remember we're here for you.



RDYNOW
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7/3/10 12:31 P

Angie honey, I wish I could give you a big hug right now. I just sent up a little prayer for you that the Lord would heal those stings and keep you safe from hurtful looks or words. If I had a daughter I would tell her that she is unique and wonderful and a creation of God's. Remember Angie these things are meant for you too. You are unique and wonderful and His creation. The best thing to do is dont let the mean people drag you down to their meanness. Just be a lady and dont mind the mean ones.

Even being much older than you and many times I have a thick skin I can still get hurt by these very such things.

I went walking to better myself with my husband. I was mortified when I passed a teen age girl who gave me the bugged eye emoticon look when she was coming towards me. At first I just brushed it off because I am realistic about how I look is a bit large for most. I guess what hurt me is this girl kept doing it as if she was getting something from it. Isnt that sad for her. So young and so very mean already. Sweetheart it will be a tough road but in the end you can use it as a victory witness of how the Lord got you through such hurtful times. Sometimes it helps me to just pray to Him and ask for his guidence. You are not alone on here. There are plenty of kind people who understand.

Blessings,
RDYNOW

Edited by: RDYNOW at: 7/3/2010 (12:34)


OHIOGAL10
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7/3/10 11:48 A

Some people are just rude. Perhaps the insensitive person refering to you was never taught the social skills of being polite! Could be he left his manners in his kindergarten class! By the way, did HE have a Model Perfect body?! BE PROUD of YOURSELF! You lost a great deal of weight and that is not a easy task! Show off your new thinner body! Thats something to be proud of! Never allow that type of person bring you down! You are so much better! How not to let someone bring you Down?! Geee, just look at your before pic and you now! Progress! It may be those same people that you will overhear someday, while not recognizing you, say "WOW! shes's a hottie"!

Edited by: OHIOGAL10 at: 7/3/2010 (11:56)


FATROCKSTAR
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7/3/10 11:39 A

People need to clean up their "own backyards". There is such a thing as manners-nobody in this world is "more" or "less" than others-what I might lack in looks, I might make up for in brains, or if I am overweight I might be miles ahead in compassion. My mom always said that people who are deliberately mean to you by making statements etc. are really very insecure and trying to deflect the attention away from their own shortcomings! Be happy you are not those people, and hang in there-the world is only a nicer place when "we" make an effort to keep it nice!



FITWITHIN
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7/3/10 11:36 A

Girl be proud of your accomplishment you have made thus far. When I'm in a mood like this I push the negativity out by doing something that distracts me. I will go for a walk, gym, or just listen to some music and start dancing. And, then there are times when I just have to say what's on my mine of course in a polite way, because the average person is not expecting you to respond to the comment that is made, so saying something back to them is just empowering enough for you, because you didn't let them make you feel emoticon . Keep your head held high and walk/strut with pride. Your just as worthy as everyone else and don't allow anybody make you feel any different. Keep up the good work on your journey.



MADEMCHE
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7/3/10 11:35 A

Isn't it crazy that one little comment from a stranger can ruin your day? I totally have been there and I know how hard it is to shake that. I am so sorry that you had to experience that.

You have done an amazing job! You have lost weight, you are feeling better about yourself, so much so that you wore shorts! Wow. Those things are the things you should focus on.

Some people don't realize that their words stick. They make an off handed comments and think nothing of it, wherein turn it ruined your whole day. How do you handle it next time if there ever is one? I normally say something sarcastic right back at the person if I am having a good day. If I am not, I take a moment, go to the bathroom and do a little pep talk in the mirror. I remind myself of where I was, and how far I have come. I am proud of me, and if that person can't see that, too bad for them.

I hope you feel better soon, you are only part way through your journey and there will be rough patches, but you can do this!



BATTY30
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7/3/10 11:33 A

I always consider the source of the comment and it makes me feel better.



MUDMOUSE
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7/3/10 11:27 A

There are a lot of people here on Spark, who have a wonderful way with words, and who will likely come up with words that will heal and help you feel better. But based on my own experience, I don't think there is a way not to be hurt by people and their sometimes inexcusable behavior.

I remember picking up a cake for one of my kid's birthdays, and the fellow in the store told me it looked like I had bought too many of them, and how fat I was. I pretended to laugh at his words.. but they hurt so much! I never got over that one, and I never went back to that bakery - I won't even walk in front of it, and I'm a lot lighter now than I was then. People can be so incredibly cruel.

To tell you to avoid the lunch line - that you can't do. To tell you not to be proud of your body changes and to not wear shorts? No way...

You can always come to Spark and gripe about the dorks out there. But change them? Nope.. And change the hurt? Can't do that either.. I can only tell you that you're doing incredibly well.

And you didn't go to McDonald's!

I'm proud...

Barbara



ANELAKANOA
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7/3/10 10:48 A

Yesterday was one of the first days I wore shorts to work. I have lost 45 pounds and am more confident. I am still 220 pounds but feel much better. The guys I work with are pigs and loved that I was wearing shorts. Anyway a co worker and I were in shipping waiting to punch out for lunch, we were there only people in line. A truck driver that I've never seen before said to a worker in shipping, "Wow, that's a big girl, while looking at me". I nearly died of embarrassment. He has never seen me so he doesn't know I lost a lot of weight already. How do you not let that get to you? I ate bad last night for the first time in weeks and didn't go to the gym. I was so depressed about a comment a stranger said to me emoticon . Also last night I went out with my friend Ashley to the bar, 2 guys were hitting on her the whole time and ignoring me. It made me feel even worse.

On the upside today I woke up still feeling down about my horrible day/night yesterday and was going to eat bad. I went to the store and was going to get my fav binge junk foods and then McDonalds for breakfast. I am proud to say that I did go to the store but didn't get the bad foods or go to McDonalds.

In the future though how can I not let someone's rude comment get me down?



 
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