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MJREIMERS Posts: 7,016
10/29/13 7:58 A

Oh, do I understand! My mom says I'm too skinny. Many of the people I that I haven't seen in a while say the same thing. I get, "You're going to blow away" quite a bit. A lady at church asked if I'd been ill and I simply told her that I'd been working out. She replied, "I guess so."

I even had a not-so-nice colleague make a comment to another that I was, "So effing skinny." I guess she was pretty rude about it. (Her opinion doesn't phase me at all nor do I care.)

I take all of these as either a) people are concerned b) most don't know what a healthy weight looks like or c) they are wishing they had my persistence to get healthy.

No matter what, you know what's right for you. Simply be nice and explain that you are at a healthy weight now and that you feel great!

TWILIGHTJANE SparkPoints: (68)
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10/29/13 4:00 A

Grow tall and ignore them

HTAMALE Posts: 106
10/28/13 7:39 P

Just tell everybody to mind their own business. I worked with a lady that had what I thought was a perfect figure. She was planning a trip to Spain and wanted to lose weight to look better in a bikini. She obsessed about it, tracking everything and only eating one veggie subway sandwich a day without mayo on flat bread and exercising like a mad woman. She drove everyone around her crazy with her obsession. She was difficult to work with and we all wished she would just eat something. She was bitchy, grouchy, and oh the drama over everything. I retired before she got back from Spain but I hope she's back to normal. She was a wonderful person before the obsession with losing weight.

I'm just saying maybe your driving people crazy and that's why they are making comments. My co-worker really did start looking too thin and gaunt. Like I said she was perfect before.


STITCH4EVER SparkPoints: (37,673)
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10/28/13 5:16 P

I TEND TO HAVE A REALLY WISE MOUTH ON ME. SO I CAN USUALLY COME UP WITH SOMETHING RIGHT OFF THE TOP OF MY HEAD, THAT REALLY PUTS THEM IN THEIR PLACE. IT USUALLY STOPS THE COMMENTS INSTANTLY.

BOSS61 Posts: 4,649
10/28/13 10:02 A

Negative comments are easily handled: I hate the commenter viscerally, with every fiber of my being, for the remainder of my natural days.

In part because my memory is near photographic, I have perfect recall of nearly every weight-related playground slight from the 1960s, every fat-based incidence of hazing from the 1970s, every turn-down from a prospective dating prospect in the 1980s... I neither forgive nor forget. It's how I'm wired, and the compliments over weight loss just stoke this fire more (where were the nice words before - I was the same person!).

I am also sure I am not alone. Recently I blogged on this very topic.

www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_
individual.asp?blog_id=5493854


SUSANK16 Posts: 1,242
10/28/13 6:52 A

I SO AGREE with SaraL72! I have always had an extremely negative image of myself. This does not refer only to weight but to looks as well. Over the past few years I have lost quite a bit of weight and really made myself happy with who I am. Now I have pictures taken all the time and when I look back to those old photographs, I wonder how I thought I looked so bad. What was really going on was that the people in my life were so very negative at that time and they made me focus on the negative and not the positive. Listening to them made me feel bad about myself and therefore gave them power over me. If you are in a healthy weight range, you feel physically good, stay there. Do not let people define your thought process on yourself!

SARAL72 SparkPoints: (8,795)
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10/28/13 12:58 A

Hi Tess,
I'm 5.4, and I have a really large frame. When I was at your weight (almost in an other life, before the kids) I was kind of skinny on the top area, but my legs have always been really curvy. My doctor was telling me I was too slim for my body type, but my family kept on telling me I was fat (which was technically not true regarding the BMI).

Looking back, now that I'm much older, I think I was feeling great inside my body at that time, and that's the only important thing. I should not have listen to all those people who made me feel bad about my body, and try stupid diets one after an other to look better when I was actually pretty lucky at that point..
What's important is how you feel inside your body, and how you like yourself. Do not listen to the noise around you.

As a parent I know that I'm always worried about the kids eating the right food, to have enough nutrients, but I think making bad comments about people's body's is wrong, and that's what I did teach my children. Because it did hurt me a lot when I was younger, and gave me a distorted image of my body.

Looking at the photos of that time, I was slim, not fat, not skinny.
Today I'm obese, but I'm in peace with my body who gave me issues, but also the joy to be a mother three times.
And now I can deal with the weight loss process better than before.
My husband who knows me since high school saw me at my lowest weight and my highest. When he comes back from a long business trip, he often tells me "gee you lost weight". I know it's a compliment, to say "good job" because he knows it's hard to battle the weight, but he loved me enough to get married to me when I was already big, because he doesn't care about my weight. When I was gaining weight he never said anything.
So enjoy your race, and do not listen to people. As far as you are in good health and feel good, you are the most important person you should listen to.

DIANE7786 Posts: 3,333
10/27/13 6:35 P

I had similar experiences while working toward my goal. Sometimes people don't think before speaking or think they are being helpful. All comments kept me motivated. After I reached my goal and maintained for a few months people were used to my new look and stopped commenting. I missed the compliments! There are several threads on this site from members who are upset because few people commented on their weight loss. They probably didn't want to be impolite. I'd rather people say well meaning but wrong words instead of not acknowledging my hard work and success.



VKKESU Posts: 978
10/27/13 3:34 P

I get the same thing because I'm 5'2 and spread the weight out well....... and cover the rest.

I've said these lines before .....

1. I hide it well, and you've never seen me naked before.
2. Isn't it amazing how eating healthy and exercising makes the fat drop off ?
3. I have more energy and feel better than I have in years since I started eating and exercising .
4. Thanks for thinking that but even my doctor agreed I could lose a couple of pounds to stay healthy, and keep cholesterol, diabetics, etc. under control before it becomes a problem.

It's amazing how they shut up when you bring up what a doctor says. Most are concerned and not used to seeing you that way. Don't ever give them your weight (I realized that can sometimes be a mistake if they are much heavier).

HEALTHY-SPARK SparkPoints: (43,032)
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10/27/13 11:11 A

These are obviously people who care about you and don't want to see you harm yourself. It might be a good idea to take a few minutes to figure out their motivation. Maybe they see you as being too fixed on a particular number, rather than on being healthy? Just a thought. It might be worthwhile getting biometric testing or seeing a doctor for an unbiased opinion on what a healthy weight range really is for someone of your stature, activity level and frame size.

FITNAPTURAL SparkPoints: (68,529)
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10/27/13 11:05 A

My mom usually looks at me and says I, getting too skinny. My dad says that running is bad for my knees and discourages me from training for my half marathon. I usually can get them to stop by giving them a death stare or explaining that I have a plan. Usually when I go into my running/weight schedule they shut up. I work out 6 days a week. I'm fit not skinny. But I agree with the one who said its hard for others to see you as you are now if they're used to seeing you differently. I was a fat child and teenager so it's hard for people to see me as a size 6 and not eating a plate of macaroni.


ANGELCITYGAL SparkPoints: (38,748)
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10/27/13 12:32 A

Here's a SP article about dealing with saboteurs. Some of the negative comments are not coming from saboteurs, of course, but many are. This might be useful.

http://www.sparkpeople.com/resource/nutr
ition_articles.asp?id=371

TAISIAKAT Posts: 228
10/26/13 11:37 P

I too have issues with peoples comments, suggestions, what to improve. This last year I have been working on being IMPERFECT and being authentic. I love Brene Brown and I am working each day on building my resilience to these things so they don't destroy me, or worse I change me to be someone I am not.

Do what YOU want - what makes you feel whole, authentic and complete for you. I know how hard it is to not 'hear' these things and let them just slide on by, but you need to do that.

BOREDA SparkPoints: (236,921)
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10/26/13 6:12 P

I've had the same problems: some people I haven't seen for a while are reluctant to comment on my weight loss because they think it might be the result of illness; others, who do know about my efforts to achieve the loss, then get critical about my changed lifestyle ("Why do you eat so much fruit? You're turning into a fruit-bat!" and "It's really irritating having you doing those step-ups; you'll have to stop" and "You really don't need to lose any more weight"). My BMI is now down to around 21.5 (from a just-obese 30.6), so I'm perfectly healthy in that respect and not too skinny; I'd like to lose another 5lbs, but I'm not hung up about it. I largely ignore the negative comments: I try to take my irritating fruit-eating and exercising habits into another room/space/place if I am a guest in someone's house, but I'm not going to change what I do because of someone else's (probably slightly jealous) views.

CHARLOTTE1947 SparkPoints: (43,804)
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10/26/13 5:19 P

I've shared this story before, but it's worth repeating. My dh lost about 50 lbs and started working out. He looks great! But one of his colleagues who hadn't seen him in awhile asked,
"Why are you so thin? You dying or sumthin?" We laugh about it all the time.

Since it's your mother who's commenting, well, she's allowed to worry. She's your MOM. Just remind her that you're an adult now.

MELISKY999 SparkPoints: (16,775)
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10/26/13 5:00 P

People are so weird sometimes that it's best to simply go about your business and just pretend that you didn't hear them. Right now, my eating plan includes lots of raw vegetables and fruit and since I don't get a lunch hour, I bring my crunchy lunch to work, crunching my way through lots of tomatoes, celery, peppers, carrots and apples plus turkey/tofu/protein. Well, my supervisor, who happens to be a cancer survivor who once warned me against eating carrots because "they're *so* high in sugar, which cancer feeds on," lives on coffee/diet soda/fake sugars/candy bars/fake "health" granola/fiber bars cannot let an opportunity slip by to make some comment about my "rabbit food." I just let it go and not say a word. I'm not the one who fought against cancer and won! ;) I just like vegetables but somehow it's threatening. I really don't understand why, as we're on the same page, aren't we?

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10/26/13 3:45 P

To be honest, you don't owe anyone an explanation...Your opinion about yourself is the only one that matters. I personally ignore negative comments, several years ago I had lost a lot of weight and I had people do the same to me...Are you eating, are you anorexic, you don't need to lose more weight, you look too thin, your face is sinking in, and the list goes on...I would simply say, I am following a healthy work out and nutrition plan, i feel good about myself, I appreciate your concern but I am fine:)

I understand that everyone has an opinion but that doesn't mean I have to agree with that opinion. You can still love them, respect them, etc...but you just have to be confident in the fact that you are taking care of yourself and building a stronger, healthier you!!

JEFFCANN Posts: 241
10/26/13 11:33 A

When I was losing weight (now maintaining), I received a lot of comments. Most of the people who commented (especially with concern / negativity / not supportive) were folks that had their own weight / body issues.

I was taught that feedback is a gift. Sometimes you can treasure it and keep it. Other times, you may keep it in its package until you are ready to open it. Other times, it's really not yours to keep so it's ok to discard it.

So, I learned to say, "thank you for your input" or "I appreciate your comment". This helps the person (like your mom) feel like you heard her but you do not have to take her comment to heart.

HTH

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10/26/13 10:40 A

Lots of great comments to your post.
Personally, I don't think you owe anyone an explanation. The bottom line is how you feel.
You can just reply: Thank you for your concern but I feel fabulous!
When they get used to seeing you at your new weight the comments will change and be more supportive.....except of course, from the saboteurs.


TWILIGHTJANE SparkPoints: (68)
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10/26/13 6:45 A

Your mum will worry. Mums do because they care so tell her all you want to do is lose four more pounds and that is well within the healthy range for you. She will want to be sure you are not becoming OCD. Some people do. But you don't need to explain yourself to anyone other than those who love you and might worry. Just shrug it off. You know what is right for you.

GLORIAMAJDI Posts: 2,529
10/25/13 11:38 P

I get these kind of comments all of the time and I just tell these people that I am at the weight that my doctor wants me to be at, and that I carefully count my calories every day to make sure that I am eating enough. They usually can't say much about that.

JOY73YL Posts: 1,405
10/25/13 11:22 P

Right on

JOY73YL Posts: 1,405
10/25/13 11:08 P

And it really isn't for everyone emoticon

JOY73YL Posts: 1,405
10/25/13 11:05 P

I recently changed to a "PLANT BASED DIET" emoticon emoticon so I get a fair amount of comments. "It's not for everyone but sure working for me. I feel great and these are the figures emoticon emoticon glucose, cholesterol weight". And I keep smiling .
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I haven't felt this good in twelve years. It's working for me and think to myself 'I could care what you think' emoticon

BLUEANNIEDOG Posts: 321
10/25/13 6:29 P

"I feel great and would like to reach the weight I remember as feeling the best in my life."

WHEELS54 Posts: 492
10/25/13 5:56 P

sometimes the most negative comments I get are from myself

AGGIETERR Posts: 2,179
10/25/13 2:53 P

Do what is best for you. Ignore the rest.

Growing up, I had a grandmother that, from the time I was 5 years old, told me I needed to lose weight. In fact, when I got my first Graduate degree,her tearful comment to someone saying how proud she must be was "She's fat and she's smart -- she'll never get a husband". When I finally started getting the weight off, then she was worried that I was losing too much too fast and getting to skinny.

I have people that look at me now and think I have lost too much and should stop, others look at me and think I have a long way to go. I am 5'8' and 181 -- the smallest I have ever seen on a scale since the devastating 7th grade group weigh in for P.E.

The only person I have to please is me. I am not tiny, I am not giant. I am healthy, happy, don't have to buy plus sizes and bought a boat with what I don't spend on medications anymore. What more do I need?

The feeling you'll have when you cross the finish line at your 5K -- that means more than any comment anyone can make. Have a great run!! emoticon

SOUTHGOINGZAX Posts: 305
10/25/13 2:41 P

Hi Tess,

I know where you are coming from. I am 5'-4" and 122 pounds. I would like to get down to 118, too. I hear comments about not "having any fat to lose" and, "you don't need to lose weight" all the time. The important thing to remember is that it's not other people's opinions that matter. What matters is how you feel in your own skin, and as long as you're setting a realistic goal and going about things in a healthy way, then what you want to weigh is your business and nobody else's. If you think you will look and feel your best at 118 pounds, then who has the right to tell you no, you shouldn't look or feel your best?

I generally don't discuss my weight goals with anyone other than my bf. I might suggest that you try changing the discussion to one about fitness goals, as those types of goals seem to be ones people can more easily embrace. Instead of saying no to food because of a "weight" goal, then, you are saying no to food because you are trying to run a sub-7-minute mile, and you've been training really hard and eating clean so you can reach that goal. Or, maybe your goal is to do 10 unbroken pull ups or something else like that. By shifting the focus off your weight and onto some other measurable goal, it seems easier to swallow for some people. I think it's an interesting psychological issue - for some reason, discussions of weight tend to trend towards the negative - "oh, so-and-so is too fat," or "you're too skinny, you should eat more," whereas discussions about physical goals are usually met with more positive, encouraging responses.

BITSNPIECES38 Posts: 981
10/25/13 11:06 A

With your mom, you could always tell her your goal is the 5k, not the weight loss. And to placate her, you could offer that she come to your next doctor's visit.

ELAINEROSE5 Posts: 447
10/25/13 8:33 A

I think that women are bothered more by what others say than men are and honestly, you're not doing it for anybody but yourself, so you are the only one that matters. Don't let any of that bother you! I've had people use the "I thought you were sick" excuse also or say that I was too thin...... This time, I'm doing this all for me!!! I just ignore the people who make comments like that. I feel no need to explain or justify anything to them. I've become a runner and healthy eater and feel better than I have felt for years. My greatest confirmation was going to the doctor for a full physical and she said she wished that all her patients had the stats I had!

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10/25/13 12:36 A

Wow, 118# isn't small either for that height. It's probably about right. I *was 5' 3' and always was stuck at 108 # - - that was until child #5 came along...I'm now at 137# - going for 120 - 125 #. Are you large boned? I'm small frame.

*According to my last doctor appt. I am now 5" 2 1/2' -

Edited by: CAMEOSUN at: 10/25/2013 (00:42)
VARELSE Posts: 69
10/24/13 11:43 P

I just laugh and move on. Maybe not the most tactful approach, but it works for me.

KITTYCAT64 Posts: 599
10/24/13 5:58 P

I am retired and must say, my family is very supportive. My daughter is a nurse for my PA., so she is the one who had to call to tell me my sugar was high. She is all up in my grill to get healthy.


VUKELK Posts: 606
10/24/13 5:01 P

The people closest to you will be the most honest...sometimes too honest. Sometimes some subjects end up on the forbidden to talk about list because they are taken the wrong way then intended. This doesn't just happen with healthy living situations but other household topics as well.

TESS_TAYLOR Posts: 12
10/24/13 2:51 P

Thank you everyone for your brilliant messages! I think that from now on I will try and just brush it off by saying thank you for your concern, but you really don't need to worry about me trying to lose too much weight - I'm doing this to be strong and athletic not trying to get to a ridiculously low weight! after all I know what's best for my body and when I felt at my best and I definitely don't want to go under 118 lbs!

SIMONEKP you're right I think - its natural for mums to worry after all and she probably didn't even mean it in a negative way. I just feel sometimes I have to hide the fact that I'm trying to lose a bit of weight from her (I'm 25 so it's stupid I know) so the fact that she is noticing it and her comments are making me feel negative. It's not that I feel like I have to apologise for it (after all it is my own body and I know what's best for it) but it feels like her and others almost judge you when they see you taking sensible portions (considering theirs are so much larger) and think you're starving yourself, or ask "is that all you're having?" like I should be eating way more than a "portion", or measuring your portions and think you're becoming obsessed. I just wish I could make them understand that it might actually be a healthy thing and they shouldn't be telling me I need to stop! And maybe even do a bit themselves and start thinking about what they're putting in their bodies!

SIMONEKP Posts: 2,615
10/24/13 2:19 P

I don't necessarily see the comments as negative. Especially your mom, may just be concerned that you won't stop when you get there and that you might end up in dangerous territory. Just say something nice in return and move on.

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10/24/13 11:31 A

What helped me was to look at the comments in totality. Overwhelmingly, the comments have been favorable. I still get comments even today, esp by ppl that haven't seen me in a while. I am always appreciative.

I just kind of ignore the comments that "seem" like there's any negativity in them. I say "seem" as it is kind of hard to truly know what the person's intent is, so I prefer to give them the benefit of the doubt and then dismiss it. Sort of like believing in astrology when your horoscope is good and dismissing it as silliness when it's not!

I'll never forget: in a 3 wk period, I had one person gush about my weight loss, "Wow! You must have lost 100 lbs!" (uh, no...more like 50-60 but thanks for thinking I was THAT much heavier) and another say, "Wow. You must have lost..what , 25 lbs??"

Obviously, these people should never get a job guessing weight at the county fair!
Sometimes, you just have to assume they are trying to be nice and laugh it off.

If you keep getting pestered by worriers that you are losing too much a/o look ill, I agree w/ the other posters: smile sweetly, say, "Oh! You are so kind for your concern! It's all good - I promise." Then change the subject immediately...get busy doing something else and don't allow yourself to get drawn back in.

Congrats on your weight loss, btw!



CONTENTEDLADY Posts: 19
10/24/13 10:49 A

goof suggestion


CONTENTEDLADY Posts: 19
10/24/13 10:47 A

i know the feeling people just do not when to cut off even though I think they mean well


PATTIEMCD Posts: 1,104
10/24/13 10:45 A

When I first starting losing weight it showed the most in my face and neck first. People at work were just use to seeing me with a chubbier face. A little later the weight loss was more noticeable on my size. The response I didn't like was from one woman who started out nice,
" Wow, You've lost some weight, you look good " ! (followed by). " You were pretty heavy when I first met you".
It would've been nicer if she would've just stopped at the first comment.
But she was the only one with a backhanded compliment.


BUNNYKICKS Posts: 2,410
10/24/13 9:53 A

How to fix your ticker:

Go to the start page. Click the link to "account/email preferences" (top left, under where it says WELCOME!). From there, choose the "Account" tab and go to the "My Information" section. You'll see a little checkbox "use metric system" - uncheck it. Your ticker will then display correctly.

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10/24/13 9:42 A

TESS_TAYLOR,

I had a similar situation with a cousin of mine. I was obese for a very long time. So, when I started losing weight, my cousin praised me for all my efforts. Well, one day, when we were meeting for lunch, she looked at me and said,"Are you still losing weight ? are you sick ? you look gaunt". At the time, I was 160 pounds, hardly waif material.

How do you deal with those comments ? Part of the problem is that these people are not used to seeing you at a lower weight. I suspect that once your weight is stable and your family gets used to seeing the new you, the comments will stop. For now, just thank them for their concern and let them know you've never felt better.


BLOORP Posts: 611
10/24/13 9:42 A

I don't "own" other peoples comments. If you are doing whats right for you and it feels and looks great,keep moving. Ignore it. You have alot of support here, use it.

SKYVALLEYGAL Posts: 408
10/24/13 8:15 A

I am delighted to see this discussion. Tess_Taylor, I feel your pain. This month marked 1 year for me starting my SP journey in earnest. In Oct 2012 I weighed 167 at the Dr ofc I was told I was a "good size" for my height. I was horrified! I now weigh between 125 and 130 on a regular basis. I've had people ask my husband behind my back if I'm sick. I've gone from a sz12 to a 6 and can't fid any slacks I like that fit so I took some old ones to be altered the lady asked me twice "are you sure you haven't been sick" It has actually become demotivating for me. I usually tell them that I haven't lost anymore weight in several months (true) and all my blood work is normal (also true) and my BP med has been lowered! emoticon

Edited by: SKYVALLEYGAL at: 10/24/2013 (08:20)
TESS_TAYLOR Posts: 12
10/24/13 7:52 A

Thanks everyone for your help and encouragement! I guess I just wasn't prepared for people to start saying stuff like that - I mean I'm still eating healthily and training to run a 5k (then a 10k) so I thought people would see I'm not just trying to lose weight I'm trying to be healthier. Its discouraging when you're trying to be healthier and do the stuff you know you should be and they're not and then they're the ones to turn it around and say stop doing those things because you're obviously being unhealthy by losing weight. Like its healthy NOT to lose weight and just grumble about it instead. Especially since before when I've weighed a bit less they've said I've looked good then and they themselves have weighed less than that!

Anyway thanks for letting me rant! And thanks for the tip to change my ticker from kgs to lbs the only thing is I can't figure out how to do it! I've gone to the edit ticker bit and also to my goal page (where it is weighing me in lbs) but I can't find how to do it anywhere!

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10/24/13 5:13 A

Hmmm....I think I would probably say something like "Thank you so much for your concern. I am very much aware of the needs of my own body and I feel absolutely fantastic...I got this!"

Or you could tell the person who thought you had been ill (they probably didn't really think that) something like "My body really is my own business but thank you so very much for your concern." OR

"Let's make a deal. I won't comment on your body if you don't comment on mine!"

You can say any of these with a beaming smile on your face and that should stop the comments. Good luck!

SLIMMERKIWI SparkPoints: (185,418)
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10/24/13 5:13 A

You might want to check your weight ticker - Mine is in kg, and the weight you said you are in lbs, is showing in kg .... as in 128kg!

Kris

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10/24/13 5:11 A

Your BMI is just over 22 so it is healthy, and a wee bit lower can be healthy, too, but that doesn't mean that for you it is healthy - it is just a guide. For some over 25 can still be very healthy, and for some under the minimum can be. I understand that some races the BMI is even less accurate with. In NZ the Maori and Islanders often have a little higher range, but some Asians are regarded healthy in a lower range.

Often when people start saying you have lost enough, and ask you to NOT lose more, you have to ask why. Is it because they are surrounded by heavy people? OR, is it because they genuinely care, and feel that you really don't need to lose more, and that you shouldn't.

Perhaps if you went to a gym and asked them to measure your body fat using the 9 point skin fold calipers, that would be a far more accurate guide of whether you need to lose more, or to just tone up. I get the feeling that you are going more by appearance ............... "I want to be athletic and strong not skinny" and for that, often Mat Pilates will be more beneficial. That focuses on strengthening the core and lower back, but it does work all other muscles as well. It tones beautifully and also improves the posture, so it can drop a clothes size and give the appearance of having lost weight, even if you haven't.

As far as the how you respond to others comments, I would either not comment, or just comment something along the lines of "I'm keeping a close eye on it, but thank you for your concern."

Good luck,
Kris

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10/24/13 5:11 A

"my doctor says that I am in a healthy weight range."

TESS_TAYLOR Posts: 12
10/24/13 4:10 A

How do you deal with people who say you've lost enough weight and that you shouldn't lose any more? I'm 5' 3" and started at 138lbs and am now down to 126.8 lbs so not exactly huge but not exactly dangerously thin either. I want to get down to around 118 lbs - I did once weigh a little less but I don't think I looked good for my frame. The thing is I don't think 118 lbs is too small - I want to be athletic and strong not skinny - but I've already had people say please don't lose any more (my mother) and how somebody could tell I had been ill because I had lost weight (somebody I work with).

How do you deal with the negative comments? And how do you explain to people that in fact I do want to lose a little more weight but that its a healthy thing?

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