" How to Unspoil your Child Fast" (I think Richard Bromfield wrote it) is a book I recently read as my 5 and 4 year old wouldn't sleep in their own beds. I had to lay down with them at night or face the crying....
Within one week, they go to bed without me.(The five year old sleps with mom and da's photo, but I'm sure that will not last too long.) I actually get to have some time before I pass out to have adult time.
Basically what I got from the book: Do not feel guilty. It is laziness that made me lay down with them becaue I didn't want the crying battle, but in the end, it was worth the few nights of tears. We are all much healthier, happier, and saner.
I am much more empowered. Now of course--they come into my bed in the morning--so we do get our cuddle time!!