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RITAROSE
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11/1/12 9:58 A

Just go, it's not nearly as bad as your imagination is telling you it will be! In fact, once you try it you'll be proud of yourself for going and you can begin a streak of exercise! It's a win/win situation! emoticon



NEPTUNE1939
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11/1/12 9:48 A

Don't worry about other gym rats. Check out Bodybuilding.com. First off exercise routines need to be performed in a way that avoids injury. This site will show you the correct way to workout. The videos are many and free. Knowledge will boost your confidence. It won't be long before you will begin to notice that too many gym rats really do not know how to use the equipment. Exercise wisely and learn how to develop routines, plateaus,and change ups.
Let me know if I can help you further. May God bless your progress, Earl emoticon emoticon



FARRAH511
Posts: 2,639
11/1/12 9:21 A

What are you talking about?

gym are not for fitness people (only) is for people that wants to get/be fit, so stop those "completely out of line" thoughts and MOVE!!!

- Farrah



MOTOMAMA
Posts: 2,000
11/1/12 7:40 A

You can do this!! Just keep telling yourself you are doing it for you, nobody else matters! When I first joined my current gym I was always so nervous to go because I thought everyone would notice how out of shape I was and they all seemed so strong. However, I realized that nobody pays that close attention and some faces became familiar and we would say hi and it seemed more friendly (it's not a big gym so nobody is super social, everyone is just there to work out). Now my issues are more dealing with people who hog machines because I want to get my workout in!

I can also relate to the person who talked about running at night so others wouldn't see, I used to do the same thing. I got better at it and got more confidence and now I don't care.



PEELERONE
Posts: 229
11/1/12 7:36 A

It looks as though the general theme is to be who you are, proud that you are making an effort on the road to better health.
Those who pass judgement on another for how they look w/o looking in to the person are not worth a thought anyway.
GO TO THE GYM! be proud of who you are and what you are doing emoticon



KIPPER15
Posts: 5,631
11/1/12 7:29 A

I was too, but then met a 75 yr old who could kick my a** in both cardio and strength. She told me she had lost 85 lbs at age 65 and this was how she was keeping it off.



TENNISJIM
Posts: 9,504
11/1/12 6:17 A

Why? Are there members that know you? If so, go early in the morning or late at night.



128PERFECT
Posts: 3,026
11/1/12 6:14 A

I get it but you have to just try. One thing that may help is get a dvd that shows you how to use free weighs. Also does your gym have classes. They are just fun and everyone goes at a different pace.



EOWYN2424
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11/1/12 6:05 A

I wish I could join a water aerobics class, or maybe learn synchronized swimming! But in Malaysia, it's pretty hard to find a water aerobics class.

There are public pools and some people do swim regularly but I dare not go swimming alone.



BLUBEL1
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11/1/12 2:36 A

Thank you everyone for your encouragement & helpful suggestions. Special thanks to On2Victory. Your comments really resonated with me. emoticon



KSWILDANGELL
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10/30/12 10:48 P

I also go to Planet Fitness. Their motto is "No Judgment." And they don't play around with it.

Being 100% honest, I have been going for a month, and it still makes me shy and nervous to approach the gym. But there are all sorts of people there!

I suggest that you research the gym. Some are geared towards bodybuilders and draw the super muscled super fit. I feel weird walking "fast" while the person next to me is running at top speed and I could almost swear I smell smoke coming off their feet!

At my gym, I asked how to use the machines, and they told me. I poked buttons like I was playing Mortal Kombat and that worked too. The trainers there are FREE (yes free) and motivate you . . think of it as you probably don't want someone overweight teaching you how to be fit and healthy . . right? Mine is wonderful and pushes me. Her motto seems to be that if I'm not mad at her . . she's not pushing enough! :D

Good luck, bring a book, bring a magazine, audiobooks, or meet someone in a class! You'll be surprised!!



FENWAYGIRL18
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10/30/12 10:10 P

your going for you and to make yourself healthy... don't be afraid anymore to be yourself! Believe in yourself , you can do this don't let a bunch of strangers not let you accomplish your goals!



ON2VICTORY
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10/30/12 10:02 P

your feelings are totally normal and it can be really scary getting out of your comfort zone. For me, the gym wasnt the issue, this issue was running and allowing people to see me run. I was ashamed o all the wiggling and jiggling so I only ran at night and did that for a long time. I finally came to the place where I didnt care anymore. This is my body, my journey and if anyone doesn't approve, IT'S THEIR LOSS.

At the gym, most people are so focused on what they are doing that they really don't notice you. The staff are there for you. Any reputable gym will have staff whose sole mission is to make sure that you have a good experience at their facility. This includes answering questions about how to properly and safely use their equipment so feel free to ask them to demonstrate.

hang in there and go for it!



NSMANN
Posts: 963
10/29/12 2:49 P

May I recommend my workout routine to you? Jump on the treadmill and hit quickstart. Increase the incline button until it says about 9% or so, and increase the speed button until it says 2 mph. Then just walk uphill. You will get into the fat burning cardio zone doing this workout, trust me. As you get better at it, you can increase the incline. Good luck, and don't be afraid to go for it!



AMALLECO
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10/29/12 2:23 P

Don't be! Anything you do at the gym is more than those sitting on the couch.

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CAMEOSUN
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10/29/12 2:15 P

Water aerobics would be a really good choice. You should talk to the instructor and tell her your concerns. Guaranteed there are/have been others in your shoes prior. After the 1st class you will feel more comfortable. You should just go for it.



KES74754
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10/28/12 2:39 P

I understand what you mean, however, at my gym there are all sizes especially in the pool. At the one particular gym there is a community shower. It was really weird at first to be in there with all naked women of all sizes and ages but I got used to it. In fact we have a lady that is about 80 years old crippled, overweight and walks with a walker and she swims pretty faithfully because she says how good it is for her arthritis! I love seeing her because she is such an inspiration. Is it possible you could just watch a swim class briefly that way you could see for yourself the sizes and ages of the women?

It's like one another sparker pointed out, no one really notices because you are all trying to do your own thing. Frankly I am so busy trying to work hard I barely notice anyone else. Good luck with what you choose. Also I am pretty cheap so I would be really upset with myself for wasting my money on a membership and not use it. You can use that as a motivator as well!



KNUCKLES145
Posts: 13,187
10/28/12 2:33 P

you may be surprised how many other people are in not perfect shape. in my weight watchers meeting is an "older lady" who has lost over 200 pounds doing water aerobics to start with. (and they are right, water stuff is better on your joints with arthritis)





LINDYLOO49
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10/28/12 2:23 P

I have been there but the longer you put it off the worse you are going to feel. Just jump in and you will feel so much better.



JHAACK39
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10/28/12 1:56 P

My gym's full of everything you can imagine, but it's a Planet Fitness. They kinda pride themselves on attracting a wide range of folks and not attracting "gym rats".

I was a bit scared of looking like a moron trying to push the right buttons on the cardio machines. Turns out, there are no 'right' buttons. Just hit "quick start" and go. You'll have plenty of time to stare at the buttons and then try pressing a few to see what they do. Or what those "programs" are...they'll make sense the more you kinda sit there and stare at them. You can also Google the machine by maker/model when you're home later.

Or, you can always get someone from the gym to show you what buttons to push. Nobody at all seems to care what's going on outside their earbuds.




AUDYBEE
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10/28/12 1:49 P

Blubel - go ahead and go and don't be afraid to ask for a trainer to show you how to use the machines. And yes, you can put on a bathing suit! The water aerobics are recommended because they are easier on your joints and it's easier to move in the water. Plus, it's fun! If you go, you will NOT regret it. It's only your first time once. After that, it gets easier!



DARJR50
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10/28/12 1:39 P

Just go and do the best you can. If you let other peoples opinions sidetrack you, you will never reach your goals.



GINNABOOTS
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10/28/12 1:25 P

Don't be embarrassed, go there for your health and well being. Once you take that plunge you will love it. I'm sure everyone will be happy you are there.



HOLLYM48
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10/28/12 1:20 P

You joined so you are only hurting yourself if you don't go. I agree with everyone else, they are focused on what they are doing to be looking and watching you. Good for you for joining and someday you may be able to help someone that looks lost that is just joining and you will feel like a pro by that time! Good luck! emoticon emoticon



BARBIE115
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10/28/12 1:13 P

We have people of all sizes at my gym. It is wonderful to see.



SCHOPPEK
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10/28/12 10:50 A

It's awesome that you joined a gym. I, too, was intimidated when I first started going to the gym. I belong to the University gym where I am employed, so 98% of the people in the gym are young college students. I am usually the oldest person in my spinning class, but I got over it. No one is paying any attention to me. They are focused on themselves or the friends they are with. I do my own thing and am very proud of how far I've come.

You belong there just as much as anyone else! You are worth this!



IVYLASS
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10/28/12 10:08 A

First off, congrats on joining the gym! Now, let me debunk some assumptions you may have.

NO ONE is looking at you. They are in their own little worlds, earbuds plugged in to their iPods or to the TV channel on the machine. They are listening to music or the TV show, concentrating on getting their sweat on and their heart rate up.

I see overweight people at the gym. Know what I think? "Good for them, I hope they come back."

I take Zumba classes on Saturdays. A more un-coordinated bunch of people you have never seen. But we concentrate on the instructor and don't even notice what others are doing, and it's a good workout. And I can tell you one of my Zumba instructors was not exactly, shall we say, svelte. Beefy is more like it. But she could sure shake her booty!!

I would recommend the elliptical machine for your first cardio. It's low impact and very easy on the knees. Talk to the gym instructors if you have any questions....they're there to HELP you, not laugh at you.

Take a deep breath and go. You can do this. You build confidence by stepping outside your comfort zone.



BLUBEL1
Posts: 1,003
10/28/12 9:51 A

I'm 230 lbs, 5. 5 inches,60 years old, flabby, and extremely out of shape. They suggest water exercises OMG. Me in a swim suit - no way
Bad arthritis in both knees. Basically I'm afraid of the machines, the super fit instructors and being humiliated. I haven't been once.
Any suggestions ?



 
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