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8/10/11 11:28 A

I went to the community tab and searched for a team that would support others during recovery and found this one:

www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_individ
ual.asp?gid=46057

If that doesn't look like one you want, try doing a few searches yourself. Having an active team that can support you during this time can help your recovery.

Talk to your doctor about the emotional and psychological support that you need. He/she would be most familiar with counseling options or support groups in your area.

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8/10/11 7:10 A

I agree -- check with your doctor, he / she may want you to have those extra calories for cell repair. Your brain needs fat to heal.

You are a SURVIVOR, not a failure.

When you're in a unique situation that your immediate, local circle isn't experiencing, it's easy to feel like you're alone or the only one. I know that feeling; I got an autoimmune disease in my 20's and in my real life am the only one I "know" with a chronic illness.

HOWEVER, one of the coolest things about SparkPeople is that, if you hang around and explore enough, you'll find other people who are in your boat, and you don't feel so alone in it! Sometimes you even find lots of them!

Sometimes you even find someone, or several someones, who have been where you are and conquered it.

I highly recommend checking out YOOVIE's blog. She's one of the latter.

Hang in there! You can do this.

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8/9/11 11:16 A

Keep fighting -- we're all pulling for you! The SP community is incredibly supportive, so I hope you are able to keep posting here for support. Believe it or not, you might end up motivating many other people along the way as well.

SparkCheers!

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8/9/11 10:43 A

Gosh, POETICSIREN3080 !!

I'm so sorry to hear that you were in such a horrible accident. I know that you're unhappy that you've gained 10 pounds, but you can't worry about that right now. You've got to work on healing your body. Talk to your doctor. They might not want you trying to cut calories. You need those calories to help your body recover.

For now, if you want to do something good for your body, concentrate on eating healthy foods that nourish your body. Don't worry about cutting calories. Keep eating as many healthy and wholesome foods as you can. Plenty of fresh fruit and veggies. Lots of whole grains. Remember, weight loss is nothing more than a byproduct of a healthy lifestyle. So, if you're eating right, the weight really will come off on its own. but, once again, don't worry about that.

Talk to your doctor. Like I said, they might not want you cutting calories while your body is still in recovery. Also, some of that weight gain may not be fat. It may be water retention because of the medications you're on. Many medications can cause a person to gain weight even though they've been eating right. I can't tell you how many women I know who packed on weight because they changed their birth control.

Take things one day at a time.

Get well soon !!

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8/9/11 8:42 A

You’ve had a horrific experience that altered your life. It’s normal to feel badly for yourself. The bright side is that you are a survivor! Focus on what you can control. One is food choices. Healthy choices will help you lose weight as well as improve your health and mood. You don’t want to add to your medical problems by gaining weight from diving into unhealthy foods. You can face your challenges with grace--and a slim body!

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8/9/11 8:22 A

Oh my, I am so sorry you are having so many issues--wow, what a time you have had.

For many of us, trying to change everything that we have known for most of our lives can be very overwhelming, therefore, replacing one unhealthy habit every week may be the way to go. Healthy living is really about replacing one habit with another.

I wish you a speedy recovery. Be well!

Nancy

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8/9/11 6:51 A

As you know, we are just every day people here - trying to achieve some goals for ourselves, and maybe support each other along the way.
You have undergone an horrific experience - one I can not even imagine.
It sounds to me like some counselling would be helpful, for you to come to terms with what you have lost.

On a personal level, let me say that no one is a failure - unless they give up permanently. Whilst you are still in the fight, you have not lost.

I would go back to the beginning with SP. Go through the stages at a pace that feels right to you. Pick up the healthy habits one at a time. Once you are comfortable with one, add another.
There are various support teams that might help you as well. Have a look through these for any that jump out at you.

All the best with your journey

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8/9/11 6:28 A

Hi People:

I use to be quite faithful to this website, but my life changed for the worse. I was in a horrible car accident, in which I almost died. I was ran off the road, my flipped and rolled 10 times, took out a tree and a sign. I now deal with having to go to physical therapy and having to visit a neurologist about the trauma to my brain. I suffer from sporadic searing headaches as well as a lot of aches and pains. There is also some memory loss as well. I am thankful to have my life, but at times it is very hard to see the bright side. I've also pack on roughly 10 lbs and I am beginning to feel like a failure. How do I overcome this? My life has been permanently altered.