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DMJAKES Posts: 1,635
9/26/13 8:50 P

Your happiness/healthiness will be the sweetest go, girl!!!

Try something new and completely different. I recently started back to yoga and it's been the shot in the arm my fitness routine needed. It could be anything that strikes your fancy....boxing, zumba, cross fit, whatever. Just make sure it's challenging enough to really pour yourself info.

You'll be better on the "other side"....

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9/26/13 1:15 P

His loss. Soon he'll be crawling back and you'll kick him to the curb. :)

9/25/13 6:50 P

Wow - thank you all! Yeah, it's the "trying something new" that will probably tip the scales (pun somewhat intended).

My fitness goals have always been to maintain good health and keep the pounds off. The relationship undermined those efforts TERRIBLY; but as CARRIENIGN said - now that the relationship is out of the way, I don't have to feel hindered by it anymore. Leverage my efforts...!

I usually run about 5K when I do go for a run, and I did complete a 10K earlier this year. Initially the BF and I were supposed to run in an event in November: me, the half-marathon and he, a full marathon (probably his 3rd by now). It's too late to do that particular one, but that should be my next goal: a half marathon. I know I can do it! I know I have it in me... I just need to strap on those shoes!

And if that barking voice starts to bubble up in the back of my head when I start out, I'll just yell out, "SHUT UP, YOU!!" (I'm sure the neighbors will have a good laugh.)

Thanks again for the insight! :)

CARRIENIGN SparkPoints: (98,991)
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9/25/13 4:58 P

I was in a very similar situation. My boyfriend of 1.5 years broke up with me just a couple months after I started getting serious about eating better and working out. He, too, was the more athletic of the two and got me into running and other things I had never done and never would have done. I feel like the break up really leveraged my efforts instead of hindering them. It gave me more time to focus on myself and what I was doing. I could eat well at home without worrying about going out to eat all the time. I had more time to exercise and experiment with different workouts. I also used all of this as a distraction for myself. It actually worked out quite well, considering. If you're looking for cheaper workout options, there's always Planet Fitness ($20/month), home workout videos (I'm not a fan, but a lot of people do well with them), youtube workout videos, or just jogging and working out at a local park. Good luck with everything!

TAMARAST1974 SparkPoints: (20,629)
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9/25/13 4:50 P

Be kind to yourself.
My favorite quote, "this to shall pass", I think it applies to all areas of life. And it applies to the good and the bad

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9/25/13 2:38 P

Even though I'm a stranger may I make a couple of suggestions? First let me suggest you simply try some new and different exercises or routines, just plain different stuff. For me finding Leslie Sansone Walk Away The Pounds last week was a major motivator. No I don't own stock in the company! emoticon I'm just guessing but you are perhaps in much better shape than I am, but Ms Leslie's approach to exercise is so refreshing to me, plus no gym is needed. Just take a shot at something new and you may find motivation from something different. Hit a Zumba class, do a Spark Yoga routine, talk Salsa Dance classes. Now there is an idea, learn Salsa Dancing and he will wish he hadn't walked away!

Oh and, In my best male radio announcer voice, your old BF did not deserve YOU. One more rep, one more set, tell yourself, "his loss he didn't deserve THIS, and sure doesn't deserve what I'm becoming". Can you imagine the look on his face when you walk past in your new curve fitting outfit? Seriously you are beautiful and it is his misfortune to run off such a lady.

Best Wishes!

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9/25/13 2:33 P


How about getting a new gym membership for yourself ? If you don't want to go to the one that your former BF uses, I'm sure there are lots of other options out there. Get your own gym membership. If you can't afford a gym membership, how about a fitness goal ? Have you ever run a 5K before ? If not, running a 5K would be a great goal and something you might enjoy. If you don't want to run, there are plenty of other fitness activities you could do.

Winter is coming ! That means winter sports like ice skating, snowboarding, skiing, etc... how about taking skiing lessons ? What is it YOU wanted to do when you started working out with the boyfriend ? Surely you must have had some goals of your own. If so, why not return to those goals.

What to do about the nasty voices in your head ? No one says you have to listen to them. as the old song goes,"accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". give yourself credit for all the positive things you do for yourself and don't beat yourself up because you're not perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy.

Oh, how about doing the 100 push up challenge ? How would you feel about yourself if you were able to do 100 good military style pushups ? That's something else you could try for.

9/25/13 1:04 P

Alright... I need some little mind tricks to get me back on the exercise track!!!

My BF of 1 1/2 yrs and I broke up 3 months ago. Since then, every time I think about getting back into a fitness routine, I kinda sorta freak out.

See, the BF was/is *very* athletic. I had some athletic inclination before the relationship, but really dove into the fitness world with the BF. I already had a pretty good internal mental "coach" to get me to push just a little harder to finish that last mile, or do one more good rep ("C'mon girl, you can do it!!). But in the relationship, the BF became a second "mental coach" - but the kind of coach that's more like a drill sergeant. "Do more; you're not working hard enough; don't be lazy!" I wanted the relationship to work, so I let that nasty "coach" creep in...

Now that the relationship is over (and I've had to suspend my gym membership and workout from home), I can't seem to get myself motivated to work out AT ALL. So...I need some tips, some motivational thinking, some new mental "coach" voices to replace the nasty, unhealthy ones of the BF.

What are some things you say to coach yourself? How do you get the Nasties out of your head so you can get back to doing something you enjoy?!

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