I'm reading a great book by Judith Stein, Ph.D: The Beck Diet Solution: Train Your Brain to Think Like a Thin Person.
It doesn't address food items -- it lets you choose your own strategy. SP is my strategy of choice. But it has opened my eyes in a week...and I've changed dramatically. And I've lost my cravings, am eating very healthy meals with no difficulty and managing what I do.
I highly recommend it! She has a straight-forward plan and rebuttals to all the excuses we are so ready to use so that we don't have to change things. It's probably at your library. I've been trying to lose my weight for many decades. Try it, try it, please!
Thank you for writing this message, I am having the same issues. Six months ago, I wouldn't have touched a McDonalds meal and now I am dreaming of the dinner box and devouring it all on trip home. Seriously, what has changed, I wish I knew. I guess I hide my stress until it totally consumes me. I have been crying all morning feeling sorry for myself and wondering when the strong, hopeful, dedicated person is coming back. I have been depressed for a while now, and I came here looking for some encouragement, maybe a little kick in the pants, realization that I need to stop doing this to myself. I hope it has helped you as much as it has helped me. I am not 100% all in yet, but I think I found a shred of desire to be healthy again. Haven't had that in a while.......Thank you.
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8/28/14 11:52 A
Hello, Sandi !
What's different about the past 7 months ? Have you been under any unusual stress at home, work, school, relationship, etc ? I'm a firm believer that stress is a neglected aspect of weight gain. If a person could reduce their stress, they'd automatically reduce their waistline.
Stress can trigger a binge eating episode. So, I try to encourage members who binge eat to try to find ways to reduce their stress that don't involve food. You need to find other outlets to vent and there are plenty out there. The next time you feel overwhelmed and want to run to the kitchen, put on your coat and take a walk. Walking is not only great cardiovascular exercise, it's a great way to reduce stress too.
There are lots of other ways to vent any frustrations you have. Do you have a gym membership ? I used to love taking kick boxing. nothing like hitting a heavy bad when you're having a bad day.
Mostly, you can't beat yourself up because you've regained the weight. that is something that has happened to every single one of us. We're all experts at gaining losing and regaining the weight. that was the past, you can't change the past, but you can influence and change the future. That's what counts.
I have issues with binge eating and overeating too. I think that it's quite well possible to heal from those in the long run. But I believe it's important to stop focusing on weight loss and calories and such if you're a binge eater, and to start focusing on building healthy habits. You can 'win' every day when you meet goals like 'take a 10 minute walk' and 'eat 3 servings (or more) of vegetables per day'. Turn those into 'other goals' and keep track of them using the sparkstreaks. Also, start blogging about your journey and start posting comments on the blogs of a few other people.
Thanks so much for your thoughts. It's true.I do forget that I have been successful and can be successful again. No more junk in the house! I know that I can't have even reasonable amounts of some foods in the house, no trying to fool myself that I can.
8/27/14 11:34 A
You still are 32 pounds down from your top weight. That is a win.
Start from where you are. Review your food logs from when you were losing well.
Get the brownies and other crap out of the house! Don't buy them thinking, "I will eat one a day." I know that trap. When I reach for that ice cream and tell myself I will have a half cup a day, I ask myself if I am lying. I usually am. Then I ask myself if I need that ice cream. Sometimes I do. So what I do is buy a pint with the intention of eating it all. I eat it and forget it. Then I get back to my healthy way of eating.
Thirty two pounds off is a win. And you know you can lose more because you have done it in the past.
Keep us posted.
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24,805 8/26/14 9:19 P
Hi Sandi - I think that you would be best to talk with your Dr about what has happened and what is going on, and ask for a referral to a Therapist who deals with eating issues. They will be able to help you identify the initial cause and the various triggers, and give you the coping skills to help deal with them.
Good luck, Kris xx
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8/26/14 7:52 P
The first thing you should do when you find yourself in a hole is to stop digging.
If you really feel like you have no control over your eating, that's a problem. That's a possible addiction. I know because I'm dealing with it. The only way to defeat an addiction is with vigilance - and it's not just will power. It's asking for help. It's helping yourself. It's finding something good to fill the void of the bad. If you're spiritual, your church or your relationship with God (or the deity/higher power of your choice) is a good start. If you are not, find something you want to pursue and use it as motivation.
If you want to send me a message to talk or ask questions, I am more than happy to answer. It's actually refreshing to hear from someone who's going through a lot of the same things I have in the past.
Hi, My name is Sandi and this is my first post. I have been on Spark for 2 years now. I was very successful for 1 1/2 years, lost 60 lbs and thought I had truly changed my eating habits. Then, about 7 months ago everything changed. Since last November I have regained 28 lbs. I do have eating issues, binge eating, restricting and binging again. For reasons I can't explain I feel I have no control over what and how much I eat. I just ate 8 brownies and now feel so gross. I start off each day thinking today will be different but it never is! Please, can anyone help me? I feel desperate!
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