"Throwing out the baby with the bath water" is never what we want to do.
I hope you are using your beautiful fine china to add to the quality of your mindful dining experiences.
Fear can motivate but it works so much better for me to look ahead and free myself from the mistakes of the past even from my thinking. I use positive affirmations to move forward. Having clear goals and plans to navigate the twists, turns and bumps successfully is a great strategy!