This is a different perspective and you have to do what works for you but when I'm in a slump I take off all pressure to do things right. Eating healthily is so important for your energy and well being but if you snack or buy tv dinners instead of cooking just forgive yourself. Same with exercise - if you feel like doing something, go for it, but if you don't, don't feel bad about it.
You might want to give yourself a time line - i.e. it's okay to be a basket case for a month, but then you have to start leaving the house again.
If you can keep with your exercise and healthy eating I think you will feel better, but if you can't, give yourself some time and mental space to be a couch potato so you're not putting extra stress on yourself.
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Definitely have a support team in place and there's nothing wrong with seeking professional help to get yourself out of that black hole.
3/22/11 12:51 P
Let yourself grieve - don't suppress it or feel guilty for feeling a sense of loss.
Find support. Lean on friends and family, sparkpeople, and join clubs or support groups related to your interests. Or take a community education class.
Similarly, keep busy. Schedule things that you have to pay for so you won't likely skip out. Educational classes, fitness classes, anything.
Focus on small things that you can do. If you know you won't make it through a 5k, try to make it around the block. If that comes easily, give yourself a couple blocks. Etc. Make this little burst of exercise part of your routine so it's hard to skip.
It sounds like you're doing a good job nutritionally. Make a plan to help yourself in case you feel tempted in the future. Forewarned is forearmed! Use successes like this to build yourself up in confidence and attitude.
Do what you want. I mean, if you have any hobbies, hit them hard. This could be something you've always done, or something you used to love but ran out of time for.
Give it time. It's right to grieve and even to feel some depression symptoms for a time when you have a major life change like this. Perhaps the situation will change and things will be better. Perhaps it won't, in which case (crazy as it seems), you'll eventually feel a little better on your own. Then a little more. Be patient with yourself.
If you do all this and things aren't getting better, consider medical/psychological help. Situational depression is real, and many people get through it with the help of temporary talk or cognitive-behavioral therapy. Some people experience situational depression which extends into a long-term condition. If this is the case, your body may need some outside help in fighting the depression, and a doctor or psychologist can help you come up with a good treatment plan.
And of course, if you EVER feel like you want to harm yourself or others, get yourself to a hospital or at the very least the home of a loving relative immediately.
I hope that things don't turn that dire though. You are undoubtedly a strong, talented woman, and you'll make it through this.
3/22/11 11:47 A
My emotionally broken husband is in the depths of a depression, has decided our marriage is over, I have until the end of the month to move out. I have a safe place to go and no children, but am having a hard time feeling the urge to get up and do any kind of activity at all, I have been eating healthy when I do eat, but need any advice at all to keep from falling into the deep dark depression that is heartbreak. Sorry to be a downer today, but knew that if any people out there could pick me up, it'd be Spark People.
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