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GGARDEN Posts: 7
2/6/13 12:43 P

Over the years, I have just learned to incorporate many veggies in the sauces, for instance you can precook cauliflower, puree it and place it in ice cube trays and freeze. Then when having any mac & cheese you just pop in a couple of cubes. Can't even taste it. I use this even when I make mac & cheese and add a can of tuna for a quick tuna casserole. I also put carrots and shredded zucchini into spaghetti. I'm now trying to incorporate white beans in to taco meat. In the end, once my son moves out, he will not get as many veggies, but he is learning to cook more, so I am hoping one day he will begin to experiment and add his own veggies to dishes. Also, I have started adding flax seeds to any cookies I make. Bought a coffee grinder just for flax seeds. Measure it out with the flour though so it's not too doughy. I also us part unbleached white flour, with a little graham or whole wheat flower. Looking for Chia seeds now, my niece uses these in smoothies.

Edited by: GGARDEN at: 2/6/2013 (13:08)
LIVELYGIRL2 Posts: 3,492
2/6/13 12:34 P

good ideas everyone! emoticon

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2/6/13 12:17 P

Baby steps. Nobody can be forced to like something whether they're 4 or 40, but sometimes a little sleuthing is worth the effort. I had one brother who hated vegetables, turns out it was the texture - he disliked mushy but he also disliked raw. For a party one night, my mom had blanched a bunch of vegetables (dropped them into boiling water for about a minute, then dropped them into ice water). The veggies, especially broccoli, turn bright colored, and the texture changes just a little. Everyone, including the veggie hating brother, loved them. Neither raw tasting nor mushy, and they were great dipped in a little light salad dressing.

Blanching is not a big deal and the blanched veggies can be kept in the fridge for days.

My husband is not a big fan of vegetables, so over time I've introduced more into his diet without making a big deal of it. Since I don't push him into a corner about it, he doesn't have to get defensive or belligerent about it. Our "rule" is, try it, eat it or don't eat it, but no whining.

He's never going to chose broccoli over macaroni and cheese, but he will eat pasta that has broccoli flowerettes mixed in, a light sauce, and a healthy serving of grated parmesan cheese.

My grandmother, a lovely woman, was a terrible cook. My dad thought vegetables were supposed to be boiled and mushy so no surprise that he wasn't crazy about them. My mom is an excellent cook and would no sooner serve an overcooked vegetable than a dirty shoe. My dad loves vegetables now and comes up with all kinds of wonderful vegetable based dishes. People can change.

RX_2_RV Posts: 547
2/6/13 12:08 P

I think what you might have here is more complex than it seems on the surface. If he has the responsibility for cooking, he might see your concerns as a rejection of him, not the food. I would not approach it strictly as a food issue. When I met my husband, he survived on cereal, canned chili, and fruit cocktail almost exclusively. If you are still warring over this, try taking "I need your help" approach and see if that works. That way, you are bringing him in as needed support to reach your goals, instead of rejecting his cooking (rejecting him.)

I would emphasize:

I need your help to get healthy.
I need you to be healthy so you are here for me and the kids.
I want the kids to be healthy and happy, not battling with weight like I have been.
Continue to do what you need to do to get healthy yourself, even if he rejects your requests for help...which I doubt he will. In general, men are "do-er's"...he might not know what to DO to help you get healthy...take baby steps, as this is an important lifestyle change, not a diet.

Hope this helps!


LAMARY9 Posts: 1,685
2/6/13 5:07 A

Smoothies with fruit are healthy and a clever disguise.

NANCYKD1 Posts: 1
2/5/13 9:37 P

Has he tried juicing? Juicing some vegetables together with fruits like apples, pineapple etc helps hide the taste of the veggies.

MCASKEY6 SparkPoints: (19,733)
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2/5/13 6:45 P

My brother has huge issues with veggies. Its so bad that he will order a burger, Bread, Cheese, Meat. He's a healthy guy and wants to stay that way so hes tried literally everything. Hes tried just powering through, hes tried hiding the veggies, hes even tried V8 with a soda chaser. But it always results with him gagging. He was so baffled by his extreme dislike that he finally did some research and he discovered that there is such a thing as Supertasters. Supertasters are more sensitive to taste then others. They pick up on bitterness much more than the average person. So things like veggies and alcohol have an extremely bitter taste. When he told me about it I realized that I have similarities. I detest the taste of alcohol and can always taste it, even in the fruitiest of drinks. I also have certain veggies I just cant handle. Usually I have to have veggies cooked and marinated in something else. On the upside, I can usually figure out ingredients just by tasting it.

LIVELYGIRL2 Posts: 3,492
2/5/13 5:47 P

that's good for you ! Great actually. I'd lie to know ways my husband would eat them besides roasted with olive oil and lots of garlic.

I also kinda wonder why it seems in general guys dislike veggies than women

ELORA101 Posts: 192
2/5/13 4:42 P

I agree that "hiding" veggies is good. I just try to add mushrooms, spinach, or onions into dishes my boyfriend likes-- I even snuck eggplant into lassagna. That way he eats and enjoys them, and I don't have to be the tyrant :)

1WAHAELA Posts: 16
2/5/13 4:37 P

I'm not the biggest veggie fan either, so try to hide the veggies in the food. Green fruit (and veggie) smoothies work well because you can actually put in quite a bit of kale, spinach, broccoli in them without affecting the taste. This also works well with Marinara sauce for pasta. There are also those "fusion" blend drinks, although I haven't personally tried them.

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2/5/13 3:43 P

I would sit with him on computer and read: "The Dangers of Processed Foods. "and he will think better on feeding his body heathier. U tube the pink slime in McDonalds, my 10 year will Not step in there after we showed her the video:}. The silocon dioxide in your packs of taco seasonings is the same stuff used to glue our gym shoes!. I am now very cautious on what I put in my body.....

THINNYGINNY Posts: 1,143
2/5/13 1:58 P

I agree with what a lot of folks have said - you can't change someone else... Your best option is to cook healthy options for yourself - put out bowls of fruit on the counter - offer others some of what you're eating and let them watch you enjoy your healthy food. I have spent over a year changing our family's diet - hubby and I have together lost 150 pounds. It took him about 4 months to decide to join me. I just cooked family meals with brown rice alongside white, whole wheat bread slowly replaced white... I am still de emphasizing packaged foods in my kids diet. They are learning to eat roasted veggies, organics, smaller servings of desserts etc... Expect it to take a long time - do it gradually.
BUT - you can absolutely cook what you want to eat right now. I made the decision to change my diet and I just cook MORE - every meal is now a buffet line - I used to make one veggie at dinner - now there are usually 2 cooked veggies and a fruit plate - even if kids only take a spoonful of each thing - they have tripled their freggie servings. They may eat their pasta sauce on a bed of white pasta - I eat mine on top of spaghetti squash...and now hubby has joined me. Every other time I make pasta it is whole grain - one day the white stuff will finally be edged out...

WINGLESS98465 Posts: 389
2/5/13 1:39 P

I would take the approach of it being a health issue. Explain to him that it's important for you to get to a healthier weight, and live a healthier lifestyle. Perhaps a compromise could work? 2-3 nights a week, you guys cook "your" meals, and he gets the rest of the week. This may be easier than a total makeover, and you can pick different recipes with different ways of cooking/preparing veggies and leaner options. Keep experimenting with new things, and pretty soon, you'll find something he'll like. As you progress, take another night a week, then another... I'd say leave him one or two nights so he still has that comfort food option, but eventually work up to eating healthier meals the majority of the week. A slow process could be far less frightening than an all-at-once makeover.

My girlfriend grew up on processed foods and McDonald's. I got her to try all these yummy healthy foods, and sure enough, with time, she's found stuff she LOVES. Slowly introducing new stuff into her diet was key. Now she's always up to trying something new and different.

Good luck!

2/5/13 1:03 P

My hubby thought that the only veggies that existed were corn (a grain), peas, green beans, wax beans and potatoes. Those are still his go to veggies but has now expanded his repetoire to include asparagus, peppers, coleslaw, roasted zuchini and occasionally green salad. When we cook we prepare a protein and each of us gets a bin in the steamer (two levels) for our own veggies - this keeps us both happy.

I have also found that it makes a difference how his veggies are cooked (or not). Hubby likes some veggies roasted (spray lightly with olive oil and bake in the oven at 400 F). We prefer roasted veggies on the firm side. Other veggies hubby will only eat raw. I am always looking for new ways to prepare veggies that hubby will like and it is an interesting journey. At least he will try new things now. As someone else mentioned, dips and sauces are an option.

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2/5/13 12:25 P

Prior to starting with SparkPeople, I was lucky to have one to two helpings of fruit and vegetables on a daily basis. I watched a DVD on fit & fat but realized that juicing (also called fasting) was more expensive and did not include fiber. I did a search on blending which led to smoothies. I drink at least one a day which includes 3 servings of green leaf veggies, three fruits, and usually one sweet potato. I have carrots, celery, apple, and peanut butter as part of my lunch. During dinner I at squash, sweet/regular potato, brussel sprouts or broccoli.

My daughter, son-in-law, grandsons, and Margaret, spouse, have adopted for the most part this practice. My grandsons want green juice every morning with breakfast and then demand some of mine.

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2/5/13 11:20 A

It is easy to say let him eat what he wants, but when children come along it is a horrible tug of war. I live this as well and it is so bad!! He is thin and doesn't have a weight problem. He is the baby in his family and was spoiled. His mom let him make PB & J, and let me tell you this isn't the answer either!! He actually gets an attitude if I make soup for lunch or something weird. (weird by his standards) He will make food that is fried for the family if I am away or something unbalanced. He has gotten alittle better, but he really has five year old boy preferences. It is making me nuts! I actually don't enjoy cooking as much as I used to. ( So, I am no help!)

Edited by: NORDICPRINCESS1 at: 2/5/2013 (11:22)
DEBKING37 SparkPoints: (43,748)
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2/5/13 11:20 A

My boys are extremely picky but I have a few tricks. Mixing spinach into spaghetti and lasagna is a pretty "sneaky" way to get them to eat veggies. They both like salads with ranch dressing too so I cut up thin carrot strips and garnish with them. They also like fruit which is not as great as veggies but still better than pixie stix! emoticon

ERICNJ28 Posts: 61
2/5/13 4:56 A

He might be able to eat mac n cheese and not gain body fat but your concern should be what's going on in your husband's arteries.

LIVELYGIRL2 Posts: 3,492
2/4/13 9:36 P

wish I coul emoticon d get away with that.

KEEPITSIMPLE_ SparkPoints: (79,776)
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2/4/13 6:05 P

Well, my situation is different, so I don't know if this will help. Since my hubby will grill meat, if I have it ready, and would heat ramen noodles, it was a challenge, but I didn't force it. The more I brought fresh fruit home, washed it, left it on the counter, the more he ae them. So, I began having his fav veggies cleaned and on and as well. This worked great because in the Spring, we only have time for what's available when we are starving.

This led into a slooow introduction of beans and other veggies in dishes, and now we have not Ramen, and he helps me make yummy, veggie and bean filled soups, and even gives me suggestions, or makes something he would like, as spicy as he would like.

The biggest thing for us is if I had it cleaned and on the counter, ready to pick at, and try new things, without realizing!

Good luck!

FIERYRAIN SparkPoints: (1,563)
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2/4/13 3:02 P

My hubby likes vegetables, but would rather eat mac and cheese with spam. He is fortunate that he runs a lawn care and landscape business, so he gets in a lot of exercise all day. He is also one of those "I can eat anyhting and not gain weight" people. I am more the "I just looked at the slice of cheesecake and added 10 lbs right to my thighs" kind of people. I make a meal plan for the week and he has been trying every dish (except fish - just cannot get him over that hump), but I think he sneaks junk when I am in bed or not home. I am going to have to put my foot down when it comes to out daughter. She does not do so good on the veggies, but loves fruits. Much as I don't want to be the bad guy, I am going to have to enforce the take 2 bites rule and if you don't like it ok. Also need to make it so there are no snacks if she doesn't eat.

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2/4/13 2:34 P

I'm a super picky eater, especially with vegetables. I've found that by pureeing them and mixing that with the rest of the meal (The Sneaky Chef has some good recipes), they are much easier to eat.

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2/4/13 1:45 P

I think I would make my own meals and not fix anything for them. If they don't want to/won't eat what you prepare let your husband fix something for the two of them. You're doing what you need to do to say with your healthy eating program.

2/4/13 1:32 A

My husband used to say he hated veggies. It turned out that he simply hadn't had veggies cooked correctly in the past. So, he started liking and even requesting certain veggies for dinner. (No brussel sprouts though...he still hates those.)

My rule in my house is, if I cook something and you don't want to eat it, the cabinet and the fridge are there, and filled with stuff you can fix for yourself. If it's a child doing the complaining, then the rules of my own childhood apply...if you are not willing to eat your dinner, then you must not be very hungry. There are no snacks allowed after dinner if you refused to eat at the table.

MANDIETERRIER1 Posts: 15,222
2/3/13 9:23 P

The way I see it, I cook the meal. My family can eat it or make a PB and J. They end up eating what I made

2/3/13 8:51 P

One way that I sneak in vegetables is in a smoothie. It gets the vegetables in without them knowing it. If you want to bring your step-son to become excited about vegetables involve him in the cooking. when kids have an opportunity to actually help with the cooking they are excited to try the outcome. Good luck with your husband, men are stubborn and hard headed.

2/3/13 8:47 P

I could have written the original post, except that I caved and let the stay at home dad who wont eat veggies run the kitchen for 10 years. Ruined my children's taste buds, and packed on the pounds. Two years ago, when dad went back to work, I took over the kitchen and made some changes for the health of all of us. It's been really tough. I've tried the one meal, if you don't like it make sandwich, they eat alot of peanut butter. I've tried making something that everyone will like and my dogs eat the leftovers. I really need to cook and eat creatively, while they would like to exist on boxes and cans. I am going to win because I control the shopping and the meals but it is a constant struggle. Today, I sent them away to eat boxed pizza, while I made a lovely fish dish with curry. I really regret not starting this sooner, maybe I could have trained my now teenagers to eat better.

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2/3/13 5:12 P

My boyfriend despises most veggies. I have to hide them in dishes or cook them with other things. I finally got him to try broccoli! He hated it but said it tasted better than he remembered and I gave it to him with no butter or salt. Next time I may add a dash of salt and some can't believe it's not butter spray.

I tricked him into eating mashed cauliflower! He thought the were mashed potatoes. Couldn't even tell the difference.

Also I started paying for groceries so I pretty much do the shopping and he eats what I get! His mom is impressed with what I'm doing. Might seem like I'm being a mother on the whole eat what I give you thing but I can't afford to buy nothing but junk. I also find small rewards for him on trying new veggies. Treating him like a kid!

But with all this effort I see him eating more veggies. He even ate a bowl of fresh baby spinach, with only a tiny drizzle of raspberry vinaigrette.

We don't have kids but we are at that age now that pretty much people start planning families. So hopefully when we do have kids they will eat veggies and love them! If it's like getting Ryan to eat them I may die!

EBETHET Posts: 253
2/3/13 4:17 P

I understand your frustration. Keep up the good fight. Here are a few things I do. The recipes I mention are found in SparkRecipes.

1) Root vegetables with a Chermoula sauce. Chermoula is a combination of Hungarian paprika, cumin,garlic, olive oil, and salt. My kids love it.

2) Acorn squash pie or dessert squash. My kids eat it for dessert and always want more.

3) I add peppers to chili and other dishes they like. My husband adds parsnips to mashed potatoes. Try adding extra vegetables to the Soothing Asian Lettuce wraps recipe.

4) Try roasted kale chips or adding kale to soups. My husband does not love kale chips, but he will eat them.

5) Make a face with sliced vegetables. To get my kids to eat Chinese food I would make a face out of the meal. Rice for hair, sliced carrots for ears, chicken for the mouth ... and so on.

6) I sneak flax seed into pancakes.

7) We bought a CSA (Community Supported Agriculture) share which forced us to eat a variety of vegetables.

8) I pick a vegetable and find a recipe it can hide in. For spinach I found Pesto Pasta with Turkey Sausage. I found Asparagus Salad and we enjoyed that. Confetti Mini-Meatloaf is Kid-Friendly.

9) Get the kids involved in cooking and they are more likely to eat the food. I go to the advanced recipe search, and select kids under the occasion drop down.

Good luck and don't get discouraged. Remember you are teaching them habits that will last a lifetime.

CLARK971 SparkPoints: (29,641)
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2/3/13 3:31 P

you can't really change your husband. sometimes i buy different things for me or extra veggies for me. maybe you could see if he would try one of your healthy dishes-but he could still eat his old standbys.

maybe he isn't on board with completely changing everything, but maybe there is a few things he would be willing to change to start.

good luck!

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2/3/13 12:04 P

My significant other likes veggies, but it is often easier to grab something other than fruit or veggies. If I prepare fruits and veggies on Sunday for the week by cutting and portioning them out. It is super easy to grab them for breakfast and lunches!

LAWLI56 Posts: 1,459
2/3/13 8:32 A

Casseroles, pasta sauces and homemade pizzas are also great ways to get vegetables into kids by pureeing them and using them to thicken the sauces. Most kids will eat fruit before they eat veggies and they often drink pure unsweetened fruit juices quite happily. Introduce new varieties of fruit or veg one small piece at a time and let him choose whether he eats it or not. Eventually he may get curious and try them, then make a note of what he likes. Whatever you do don't try and force him to eat them, make an issue of it or expect it to happen quickly, it will take time and patience. As for your husband he's big enough to cook for himself if he doesn't like what you cook. Just keep being a good example to your stepson and maybe at some point the the future your husband will see the benefits of joining you.

Edited by: LAWLI56 at: 2/3/2013 (08:43)
PURPLE0906 Posts: 3,467
2/3/13 7:54 A

Does he like soups? You can add all kinds of vegeatables in them. Puree and he will never know they are in the soup. I just made potato and butternut squash soup yesterday. I also added carrots and celery.
Raw vegeatbles are also good. My daughter does not like cooked carrots, but will eat them raw.

Good luck!!

TORTISE110 Posts: 6,621
2/3/13 7:30 A

Good advice, all around. I do find that cut up fruit and cut up raw veggies go at our house to even the pickiest eaters. I often make sure that's on the table. But if that doesn't work, not much to do but continue to set a good example by the rest of you eating nutritious food.

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2/3/13 6:14 A

Why do you have to *like* what you eat? I don't eat green peppers, which I actively detest, but I eat broccoli which I don't really like all that much, and have learned to eat cabbage and other foods I used to avoid. I do plenty of things I don't like doing--staying home some weekends to catch up on grading for work, doing the dishes, cleaning the cat box. I do it because I want to keep my job and I want to live in a clean house. You need to eat vegetables because you want to live in a healthy body.

A lot of people who really dislike cooked veggies like them better raw. Make some dip out of nonfat yogurt and some dry ranch powder, and try eating some veggies that way. Or make nachos with 2% cheese and lots of homemade pica de gallo. Start small.

BUBBLEJ1 Posts: 2,981
2/2/13 10:45 P

Everyone has given great advice. Whoever cooks, cooks. Anyone else who is old enough to make the decision can make something else if they chose. Your husband can cook, you said so yourself, so he will live. He will probably grumble, but he will live. The 4 year old shouldn't get a say just yet. At 4 they can chose if they want rice or pasta (or another small meal decision to feel involved), but they aren't old enough to be making something else entirely.

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2/2/13 9:17 P

I too hate veggies, but know the key to changing my bad habits is to learn to eat them, whathas worked well for others here?
Please tell me I need to know, hypnosis did work for me, a waste of 100 dollars.

Lima beans, Peas and carrots, Corn, most any beans , except green, huh?

lettuce , tomatoes , onions, yuck yuck yuck , but love ketchup and sauce, and tomato soup

I got a few hundred punds to lose, I need to overcome this sily obsession

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2/2/13 9:01 P

It would be nice if you could force people to eat healthy, but you can't. When I started making changes to my diet, we had to buy two varieties of lots of things: white and brown rice, whole and white pasta, low/no sodium sauces and regular variety sauces. The plain and simple fact is that although *I* had chosen to change my eating patterns, my fiance hadn't. And it's wrong to force that kind of drastic change on anybody.

My fiance has come around to the healthier side of things because of small changes - tiny, insignificant stuff that has built up. I just cook healthy, lovely food and keep healthy, delicious treats on hand - like fruits and green salad. I always make sure to offer him some of the healthier stuff with his "usual" fare. Sometimes he takes me up on it, sometimes he doesn't!

The only advice I have is to experiment with your spices and don't be afraid to use healthy sauces on their portions - light cheese on broccoli goes a long way with some people.

GLORIAMAJDI Posts: 2,680
2/2/13 6:29 P

My husband is a picky eater who thinks that the three food groups are fried, starches and candy. So for a few years I catered to his whims and now I am at an unhealthy weight and I am not so thrilled about that. So lately I have been cooking at home (we were eating out just about every single meal) and I fix what I fix. If he doesn't like it, he can eat his junk food later. I can tell if he doesn't like it because he plays with his food but some of the things that I have fixed he has seemed to actually enjoy. I am not sure if he will ever learn to like broccoli and salmon but I am doing my part to provide healthy nutritional meals. Now it is up to him to follow through with it.

CRAMOMMY Posts: 316
2/2/13 6:03 P

Great Advice:

MEG-NATALIA07 Posts: 679
2/2/13 5:46 P

Mushroom Seasoning is an Asian food "spice"/flavoring. I use it liberally in the place of salt in my dishes. It tastes delicious!! Like that yummy MSG flavor, but it's not MSG and it's much lower sodium. I find it adds a TON of flavor.

I also keep trying to put my husband's "favorite" healthy foods on the table. For example, he hates cooked vegetables, but will eat a lot of raw ones.

Edited by: MEG-NATALIA07 at: 2/2/2013 (19:17)
DRAGONCHILDE SparkPoints: (58,681)
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2/2/13 5:29 P

You don't.

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. :) He's not one of your kids, he's a grown man; make him what you want, and if he doesn't like it, he doesn't have to eat it. You simply can't force him to eat things he doesn't want to. Trying is going to frustrate both of you. Like with any healthy living choice, he has to make the choice.

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2/2/13 4:11 P

I grew up with 6 brothers and sisters (some of which were extremely picky eaters) and my parents made one meal--we could choose to eat it or make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich for ourselves. After a while, we all got sick of PB&Js and started eating the meals that were prepared for us. Surprise! We actually liked them. We had all just convinced ourselves that we didn't like certain foods without really trying them. What most people are saying on here is absolutely right--make food that is part of a healthy diet, and your husband and step-son will learn to like it.

LULUBELLE65 SparkPoints: (28,770)
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2/2/13 3:07 P

Like everyone else has said, you really cannot change his feelings about food, but you can take care of your own food needs, and try to make family meal time a healthy experience for everyone, Things like pasta and red sauce (turkey sausage?) can be healthy, add a big salad and garlic bread, and there are the veggies that you want, and the fatty carbs they want. The same with something like baked chicken--you can make veggies for yourself and anyone else who wants them, and potatoes or rice or something for your husband. Or make brown rice pilaf and have some of it yourself; carbs aren't the enemy.

ANARIE Posts: 12,982
2/2/13 2:01 P

I have a relative with 9 kids and a moron for a husband. There's a lot I thought was wrong with the way she raised them (starting with giving them a moron for a father), but one thing she did absolutely right was the way she dealt with meals. She made ONE main meal. There was always bread and salad on the table along with whatever she fixed. Anyone old enough to complain about the main meal was old enough to choose to eat it, skip it and fill up on salad, or fix his or her own meal. By the time her kids were five, they could scramble an egg or make a sandwich. As young adults, they're all perfectly capable of cooking a meal. It was a win-win situation; no fights over who ate what, and kids who were confident enough to take care of themselves by the time they started school. (And none of them starved to death!)

LKG9999 Posts: 1,747
2/2/13 2:00 P

I've got similar problems with my family. My fiance will not eat almost all fruits and vegetables except mushrooms and artichokes; he also has added issues with eating due to residual issues from throat cancer treatments 6 years ago. The two of us remind me of the old nursery rhyme: "Jack Spat would eat no fat, his wife would eat no lean..." - except that I'm the one who eats no fat! My 14yo daughter will eat some veggies but prefers carb-heavy foods while I rely on lean protein, freggies and complex carbs as the basis for my meals.

Basically, I make myself the foods I need to lose/maintain my weight, and they make their own meals rather than always forcing them to eat what I do (and visa versa). I do try to find recipes that we can all enjoy, but it's frightfully restrictive. I must admit that I can't help sometimes telling them that I'll likely outlive both of them because I eat better!


SONICB Posts: 4,341
2/2/13 11:49 A

Er, yeah, I don't have any advice for the husband. Your step-son is still young, and his tastebuds could change, but it will help for him to have a healthy-eating role model growing up. You could try preparing butternut squash mac & cheese or sneaking veggies into meals. (I know a lot of people find this dishonest, but over time, their tastes & preferences might change as a result...)

Another way to ease them into veggies could be adding peas or other standard frozen veggies to boxed mac & cheese / prepared foods...

CHARMIAN2 Posts: 997
2/2/13 9:52 A

Cook healthy and let him decide

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2/2/13 8:17 A

The simple answer, one that you're not going to like, is that you can't. He is a grown man and is going to make his own decision. Trying to push him into something that he is clearly not ready for is just going to backfire. What you can do is make enough healthy food for the whole family. If he wants another meal then he can prepare it himself. It sounds like he knows how to cook well enough that he's not going to starve.

2/2/13 8:08 A

Hi everyone! I'm trying to incorporate healthier foods into my entire family's diet, the only 2 (out of 5 of us) that are unhappy about it are my husband and step-son (age 4)! They are firm believers in the bag/box/can method of cooking, and although this has never been my way of doing things, I've slacked off since my husband became a stay-at-home-dad and took over the dinner responsibilities. Now I'm giving our meals a make-over, and he doesn't like the foods I prepare, although I LOVE them!

Can anyone help me out with this? How do I get him to eat more veggies and less processed food/carbs?

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